I don't know if you have found such a strange phenomenon in your life - the girl who feels particularly amazing for the first time, over time, feels that she is not as amazing as she was at the beginning, of course, not ugly, but no original feeling;
Some girls feel that when they look at it for the first time, they feel that it is mediocre and there is nothing to attract attention, but as time goes on, they will feel how this girl is getting better and better.
In fact, this is the difference between what we often call enduring and impatience.
In this era when good looks are king, good-looking people are more likely to enjoy preferential treatment than others, after all, no one hates people who can bring people a sense of pleasure.
So, does this mean that ordinary-looking people are "displaced"?
Of course not, a person is not only external, she has no inside, if the outside is not perfect, we can still improve our charm value through cultivating the inside, and give ourselves extra points to the outside.
So, there is a reason why a woman is getting better and better, and it has nothing to do with her looks and body, but with these.
Identify your needs and put an effort into them
When we come into this world, we need to know why we came, and what we should do when we come to this world, not to walk in a muddy state.
Therefore, some women know that the purpose of their coming to this world is to experience interesting things, to feel different souls, to go to a higher place, to see a different world.
Such a woman never wastes her time on meaningless things—
For example, ineffective social networking, such as deliberately creating a white and rich beauty in the circle of friends, such as pursuing big-name luxury goods without considering their actual situation.
The writer Suzen said: "A person's attraction is formed by three things: appearance, spirit and soul." The more superficial the person, the more he pays attention to appearance; the more profound the person, the more he pays attention to the soul. ”
The best thing about a person is that she knows what she wants and puts in the effort for it, not just talking.
And what we have to do is to become such a person, calm and serious, sober and independent, step by step closer to the life we want, and become the enviable self in the eyes of others.
Ascetic self-discipline, because of self-discipline, so free
Yan Ni was once ridiculed by netizens for being bloated and rustic because of her body problems.
Later, she made up her mind to lose weight, did not touch the high-calorie things in one bite, and insisted on exercising every day, rain or shine.
Yan Ni, who appeared in the public eye again, was on the hot search of the Spring Festival Gala because of a pair of straight and slender legs.
People were amazed at Yan Ni's transformation, and at what method she used to become so beautiful.
In fact, the method is very simple, that is, self-discipline.
Many of us covet ease, always feel that we must enjoy comfort in the age of struggle, so the will of the people is slowly decadent, and the whole person also gives people a very greasy and numb feeling.
And those women who are getting better and better, they understand that life lies in endless movement, and only by moving can life, spirit, and body remain youthful forever.
Lin Huiyin said: "Every woman is a book carefully modified by God, but some women are resistant to reading, and some women have to be patient to read." ”
And those self-disciplined women, who have achieved freedom, will naturally become a book that needs to be carefully read.
Zhilan-like temperament, belly with poetry and bookish self-glory
The writer Yang Dai said: "Teenagers are greedy, young people are obsessed with love, prime-age people are attracted to fame and family, and twilight years are content to deceive themselves." Life geometry, how much fine gold can be refined by stubborn iron? ”
Many times, we feel that fate should be ups and downs, magnificent, so that such stimulation will not make us feel that we have come to this world in vain.
But when we try a lot of things that are only three minutes of heat, when we are interested in everything, but we are not willing to work hard to study anything, it is just a flash of light.
We found that in fact, the most beautiful scenery of our bearded life comes from the calmness and calmness of our hearts.
And this calmness and calmness is a person's cultivation engraved in his bones, and the temperament emitted from the inside out cannot be worn away and taken away by the years.
So, where does this temperament come from?
The key lies in reading, reading good books, reading can cure stupidity, reading can be wise, reading is the ladder of human progress, reading can make people's hearts become full, so as to understand the importance of quiet years.
Temperament is something that can only be understood, ineffable, we can see it, but it cannot be accurately described in words, and this also happens to be the charm of temperament.
When a woman has a temperament, even if her original growth phase is not so perfect, it will be shrouded in such a layer of filters, giving people a different sense of beauty.