Like is the joy of the first sight, love is not tired of it for a long time.
Like it? It's like when we suddenly find a person who has something that interests us, so we can't help but spend more time and energy on the other person.
Love is different.
If liking is caused by appreciation and liking, it may disappear from the original relationship when you see something imperfect.
Then, love is to see the imperfect side of the other party, such as irritability, such as emotion, such as not so delicate, but also to do as always like unshakable.
Such an emotion can withstand scrutiny, can withstand the test of the sea of dry stones, and only such feelings can be called love.
However, not all people can go from liking to loving, and not all people can make others show a state of love for their feelings.
Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, a man who loves a person and likes a person are 2 different beings.
Like is sweet talk, love is actual giving
I remember a netizen once said that in today's era, why some girls don't like to step into a relationship.
Because when they were sick, they went to the hospital alone;
When you want to buy something you like, you also save money to buy it yourself.
All of this is based on the fact that you have paid for yourself.
And men?
They will only say "I like you, be with me", but this love without any practical action, how can people believe that the other party really loves themselves?
Some people's words are not up to their expectations, and they may have to say "I like you" for a long time in their hearts, but they will still pin their feelings on actual actions to make the other half feel;
Some people have a lotus tongue and sweet words that make people blush and beat their hearts, but they are just giants in language, dwarfs in action, and pitiful in practical action.
This is the difference between liking someone and loving someone.
Like may only stay on the mouth, but love will definitely be reflected in practical actions.
Yishu once said: "If someone says they love me, I will not rejoice a little, unless his love can be discounted; if someone says that he hates me, I will not worry, the sun will still rise tomorrow." ”
When we deal with feelings, we should also know how to seek advantages and avoid harms, and know how to distinguish between what is like and what is love.
Like is to appreciate the advantages, love is also to tolerate the shortcomings
Sheng Minglan in the TV series "Know It or Not" gives others the impression of being clear-cut and open-minded, calm and serious.
However, in Gu Tingye's view, this was not the real Sheng Minglan.
Virtuous or dignified, this is just Sheng Minglan's disguise, the real she should have a temper, the most like a shrew and herself to roll around, so that it is real.
The advantage is the node that attracts each other together, but some people can only accept each other's advantages, and when they see the shortcomings, they feel that their expectations are reduced, and there is no need to be together.
And what is love?
Love is to know each other's advantages, and after a long time together, also know each other's shortcomings.
However, whether it is an advantage or a disadvantage, they will not change their attitude towards the other half, because loving one person is loving the other person is all about.
Feelings that cannot accept each other's shortcomings have never reached the height of love.
As Moluwa said, "When you truly love someone, that person has some lovely weaknesses in addition to his higher talents, and it is also an important key to your love for him." ”
Like is the joy of the first sight, love is not tired of it for a long time
At the beginning of the book "A Feast of Flow", there is a sentence: "If you lived in Paris when you were young, Paris will follow you all your life, because Paris is a feast of flow"
Why does water always remain in a state of clarity and vitality?
A large part of the reason for this is that the water is constantly moving forward, it has never forgotten its original intention, no matter the disturbances outside, it has firmly believed in its original faith.
And taking water as a teacher can be intellectual, and when we deal with feelings, we should also be as long as water.
Likes are short-term emotions, but they can also be broad, after all, a trait can be fully reflected in others.
Because traits like us, we also like others because of them.
Love is a deeper meaning, a long-term emotion, unique, narrow, possessive.
Love is to fade all the freshness, but also to retain the original emotion.
Will not be complacent because of the advantages, nor will it be because of the shortcomings of the appearance of separation, each other will always be together, to manage this relationship, so that it presents the most beautiful state.
And the love we pursue should be like this, although it is not so romantic, but it will definitely give people a different sense of security.