See a sentence on the Internet:
In this world, there is no unprovoked encounter.
Everyone who appears in your life has his reason and mission, all to teach you something.
And these 4 kinds of people who appear in your life are coming to cross you, and when they meet, they must be firmly grasped.
Criticism is harsh, not everyone is willing to listen, and even causes the other party to resent or verbal attack.
And those who would rather take the risk of thanklessness to criticize you, not because they are good teachers, but because they care about you, they care about you, and hope that you can become better.
Just like Qu Secretary in the hit drama "The World of People", her criticism and beating of Zhou Bingkun do not have any malicious intentions, but just want Zhou Bingkun to become a material and become a useful person to society.
The scene that impressed me the most was that Zhou Bingkun and other co-workers were saying bad things about the leader behind their backs, and they were just overheard by Secretary Qu who came in to inspect the work.
Zhou Bingkun said: "They drink tea and read the newspaper in the office one day, so why is it that the newspaper is so slippery?" ”
Image source: TV series "The World"
While saying that he was still imitating the way the leader spoke, after being caught squarely, Zhou Bingkun did not want to admit it.
Secretary Qu criticized him as follows:
We must dare to act boldly, otherwise we must say that it is a problem of psychological quality in the light, and a moral quality problem in the depths, and it must be changed.
Men, dare to be the first. Remember.
Image source: TV series "The World"
Although Secretary Qu is a leader, her criticism of Zhou Bingkun is not to vent personal grievances, but to make him good.
Audiences familiar with the drama "The World of Man" know that at almost every key point in Zhou Bingkun's life, there is the help and guidance of Secretary Qu.
Heard a quote:
The person who praises you is your friend today and your enemy tomorrow;
And the people who criticize you are your enemies today, your friends tomorrow.
Life comes and goes, those who dare to criticize you, please be sure to cherish it with your heart.
Because, they are a mirror for you, helping you to better recognize yourself.
They are the noble people in your life, so that your life takes many detours.
There's a song that goes like this:
"I'd rather you be cold to the end and let me forget it with a dead heart; I'd rather you be desperate to the end and let me give up completely."
If you don't like a person, then explicitly refuse, rather than being ambiguous and giving the other person hope, but making the other person delay in seeing the results.
You know, in a relationship, those who reject you "fiercely" seem to be hurting you, but in essence, they are also "for your own good".
Because, his explicit refusal cuts off your hopes, cuts off your thoughts, makes you know how to let go, know how to wave the wrong person, and find the right person.
The love between Sheng Minglan and Xiao Gongye in "Know It or Not" has always been the embarrassment of many people.
Image source: TV series "Know It or Not"
But when the little grandfather went to the Sheng family to propose to him, Minglan closed the door and disappeared.
The reason was simple, she didn't want to give the little grandfather any more hope, let him mistakenly think that there was still a possibility of them being together.
Therefore, when Yahuan asked her if she wanted to go out to meet her, she resolutely closed the window and refused with action.
I particularly agree with the saying: "For those who do not want to do what they do not want to do, direct rejection is the greatest tenderness." ”
In fact, it is not just love, direct rejection, can be applied to any relationship.
For example, when relatives ask you to borrow money, when friends ask you to help, and even when strangers ask for help.
Because rejection is a definite attitude, it is not ambiguous, it is not perfunctory, it does not allow you to have illusions, it does not leave you room.
Maybe, in the short term, you'll feel hurt and sad, but it's only temporary.
In the long run, explicit rejection is a kind of responsibility to you, a kind of respect.
And the sooner he refuses, the sooner you will give up and seek a new exit.
So I still want to say, don't be afraid of rejection, and don't be afraid of rejection.
All suffering and frustration is an experience, a process of consummating oneself.
Some time ago, I saw a heart-warming news:
On March 21, Mr. Wang of Xingtai, Hebei Province, received a surveillance alarm from the store.
Checking the surveillance, it was found that a strange man had entered the shoe storage area in front of his store for 6 consecutive nights.
But strangely enough, he didn't move anything, just secretly lay on the couch every night to rest.
Image source: White Deer Video
Mr. Wang guessed that he might be having some difficulties and sent him some food.
In the chat, it was learned that the man originally wanted to go to Beijing to work, but in the face of the epidemic, there was nowhere to go, and there were no relatives in his hometown, so he had to stay here temporarily.
Mr. Wang felt very sad, so he introduced him to a job at a nearby restaurant.
Image source: Weibo @ White Deer Video
At the bottom of the news, many netizens have left messages:
There are still many well-meaning people in this world;
Sometimes, it only takes a warm hand to pull a hand;
I hope the world is more warm, and helping each other can always get through the difficulties...
The person who is willing to lend a helping hand to pull you when you are in distress must be a warm and kind person.
And it is these people who exist that warm our time, let us see the stars in the darkness, and regain hope in despair.
We always say that life is really hard.
But no matter how bitter life is, no matter how depressed life is, the kindness from strangers and the help from the people around us will still make us feel that the human world is worth it.
Although, in this vast sea of people, the people who add flowers are always the most, but there are very few people who send charcoal in the snow.
But it is precisely because of the rarity that it appears precious, it appears sincere, and it also needs our memory.
So:
When you are in a low valley, please do not forget the people who send charcoal in the snow;
When you successfully counterattack, remember the person who once pulled you.
When kindness and gratitude meet, there is too much warmth and beauty in the world.
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian once said:
We are all lonely until we meet another person and let us know that life can be less lonely.
Yes, those concerns from those around us, from the thoughts of friends, will always make us feel:
Life is actually not so lonely, and there is a lot of happiness and warmth around us.
At the height of the epidemic in Beijing, I received a WeChat message from a junior high school classmate.
She said:
See you for a long time did not send a dynamic, recently is it okay?
During this time, the epidemic is serious, try not to go out, pay attention to protection, and take care of yourself.
To be honest, receiving this WeChat, my heart was warmed a little.
It turned out that in places I didn't know, there were still people who had been silently caring for me and thinking about me.
This feeling is very happy and very happy.
Later, we talked for a long time, from the student days to our respective presents.
She admired my courage to drift north alone, and I envied her happy and warm little home even more.
Although we don't keep in touch from time to time, and haven't seen each other once in years, this chat made me realize that our hearts are not far away.
Like a star in the night sky, you don't think about it very often, but occasionally look up and you'll find that it's always there.
Some people say that in this world, there is no good for no reason, and there is no love for no reason.
Believe that those who care and miss us from time to time are not because they are too idle, but because deep down in their hearts, we have always existed.
And what we have to do is not to consume their enthusiasm and live up to their concerns.
The relationship of exchanging true feelings for true feelings, treating the true heart with sincerity, and running in both directions will never expire.
The Buddha said, "Everyone who comes to you has a greater or lesser fate with you." ”
Fate is deep or shallow, close or far, will have a certain impact on your life, and even on your life.
It is true that everyone's life will not be a smooth river, and the people who appear in our lives are not completely meaningless.
Some of them teach us to grow, some let us learn to be kind, some bring us inspiration, and some warm our hearts.
Although not everyone who appears in our lives will have a happy ending, every encounter has its meaning.
As Miyazaki put it, "What you meet is providence, and what you have is luck." ”
The journey of mountains and rivers, the encounter is already three lifetimes and lucky.
And every encounter in life is worth cherishing.
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