Someone said:
"In this world, there are two kinds of people who are most likely to be hurt, one is a person who is too persistent, and the other is a person who is emotionally heavy."
Heartfelt but true.
It is undeniable that many times, the softness of heart is what we need to walk in the world, when we are tolerant and tolerant for the sake of friendship, we can indeed open the sea and the sky.
However, everything that is too much is damaged, and everything should be measured.
If we do not distinguish between the situation and the other, regardless of who we are, as long as others are soft-hearted at the slightest request, and let it go gently, then it will only be ourselves who will suffer in the end.
When people reach middle age and have gone through vicissitudes, they should understand that not all things can be soft-hearted, and not all people are worthy of soft-heartedness.
We can occasionally accommodate because of softness of heart, but we cannot be bound by softness of heart forever.
Treat people and things that will only consume you and hurt you, and be sure to put away your own soft heart.
Not everyone deserves your soft heart
There is a sentence in the movie "The Godfather":
"Softness without boundaries will only allow the other party to gain inches; unprincipled benevolence will only let the other party do whatever it wants."
It is undeniable that there are many people in life who know how to repay the favor and receive it when they see it, but there are many people who take the good of others for granted, and even take revenge for it.
Dealing with those who are insatiably greedy, your soft heart will only cause you endless trouble.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A middle-aged man works in the city and has two houses under his name.
Later, he was approached by a distant relative of a middle-aged man and asked him to help introduce him to a job.
Because they could not bear the hardships of their relatives' lives, middle-aged people took a lot of effort to build money and relationships and found a decent job for their relatives.
I thought that the matter of relatives would end here, but the relatives complained bitterly to the middle-aged man:
"There is a job, but there is no place to live, and the rent is so expensive." Don't you have two houses, can I live in your house? ”
The middle-aged man was very embarrassed about this, but he could not stand the snot and tears of his relatives, so he agreed to let his relatives live temporarily.
But then, middle-aged people lacked funds to do business, so they wanted to sell a house.
However, when he informed his relatives to move, the relatives not only did not consider his difficulties, but stayed in the house and refused to move.
In the end, middle-aged men have no choice but to be tough.
In this way, the middle-aged man's soft heart not only did not exchange the gratitude of his relatives, but instead brought hatred to himself.
I really like this sentence:
"It's not worth wasting any shred of kindness on a certain type of person."
In life, there are always some people who are too unconscionable. The softer you are to such a person, the deeper you will sink into, and eventually thankless.
Not everything can be soft-hearted
Wang Xiaobo said:
"Kindness is never an easy task, and wrong kindness will not bring heaven to others, it will only drag you down to hell."
In fact, the most important thing in life is to live comfortably.
If a person is too soft-hearted, he can often only be kidnapped by morality, and eventually he will even be trapped in a quagmire and unable to get out.
In the TV series "Know It or Not", he Hongwen and Sheng Minglan were originally matched and were a pair that everyone was optimistic about, and the two people, whether it was family lineage or themselves, were very compatible.
However, just when this family affair was about to be settled, He Hongwen's cousin Cao Jinsu became the reason for the breakdown of the relationship.
From the play, we can see that in fact, He Hongwen does not like Cao Jinlin, and he also knows that having Cao Jinsu in the middle will sabotage his marriage with Sheng Minglan.
However, he could not withstand his mother's pleading, could not withstand Cao Jinsu's misery, and finally lost Sheng Minglan with his own hands because of his soft heart.
Of course, some people will say that this is just a TV series.
But in life, such examples are not a minority.
How many people, because of moral kidnapping, swallow the bitter fruit into their stomachs.
But is it really worth it to wronged yourself like this? Obviously not worth it.
There is a saying:
"You must first learn to take care of your own feelings, and then take care of the emotions of others."
As a middle-aged man who has gone through vicissitudes, he should mature a little.
Sometimes the heart is a little harder, maybe it doesn't look so kind, but it will change your own comfort.
Don't let your heart soften and become a stumbling block for yourself
There is a line in "The First Half of My Life":
"Don't worry, they think you're bad, don't care what others say, why bother to please others and wronged yourself."
Perhaps, there will always be people who will not see others suffering, and will not see others selling misery.
But you must know that what you should do more than be good to others is to be good to yourself; what you should do more than not let others be wronged is not to let yourself be wronged.
For the rest of your life, for those who are not worthy, those things that will drag themselves down, they must decisively lose their hearts.
Only when you clear the burden, then you can have a lot less trouble and make your life easier.
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