Text/Wei Chen
There will be many people around everyone. It's just that the existence of some people has meaning, and the existence of some people is meaningless.
As the old saying goes, "The road knows the horsepower, and the day sees the hearts of the people." ”
After the test of time, whether you are a person or a ghost around you can be seen clearly.
In fact, a person's true heart cannot be hidden at all, and people's character will be displayed in the details.
To see if a person is worthy of deep friendship, there is no need to look at big things, but to look at small things.
People who can do the details well will naturally not be bad in the face of big things.
Some people seem to be very good, but in fact, they have a ghost fetus, one set behind their faces.
Some people seem indifferent, but in fact they are honest and kind, but sometimes they don't like to say much.
See the real chapter for the subtleties.
Looking at people is a very skillful thing. The interaction between people is essentially a mutually beneficial exchange.
If two people cannot achieve mutual benefit and win-win results for a long time, then this relationship will come to an end if you are not careful.
Of course, there is also a relationship, which seems to be the help of one party to the other, but in fact, it is a cover for people's eyes and ears with friendliness.
Psychological research has shown that what a person says on a regular basis best reflects the true thoughts of the person's heart.
Everyone has a different personality, and personality traits often determine the tone and way a person speaks.
Although humans are the best at disguise, some expressions cannot be disguised.
In interpersonal communication, people who often hang the following 4 sentences on their lips are often kind and dark-hearted.
I'm so good to you, you have to know how to be grateful
Carnegie wrote in The Weakness of Human Nature: "Gratitude is a product of upbringing, you cannot get it from ordinary people, and it is human nature to forget or not to give thanks." ”
Usually, when one person is kind to another, they don't ask the other person to be grateful.
The person who always emphasizes making others grateful is often premeditated.
For them, kindness is more like an exchange. If the other party fails to redeem in time, it proves that they have suffered losses in this relationship.
At this time, people who ask for it will carry out moral kidnapping, emphasizing their own efforts while pointing out to the other party how to repay their "way".
True help is usually not to ask for gratitude. Those who always put their own favor on you have already thought about how to morally kidnap you long before the grace.
Tell you a secret and don't tell anyone else
There's a catchphrase online: "You know too much." ”
Usually the memes that accompany this sentence are not very friendly.
While eruditeness is a good thing, people who know too many secrets often pose a threat to their lives.
If you want to protect yourself in interpersonal communication, in addition to not causing trouble, you must also stay away from right and wrong.
Don't make a scene that shouldn't be made, and don't listen to news that you shouldn't know. If something has nothing to do with you, try not to get the inside scoop out of curiosity.
The so-called curiosity kills the cat, and the more you know, the worse it is for yourself.
If someone around you is always mysteriously telling you secrets, and repeatedly stressing not to tell others. Be vigilant about this kind of person, the other party is likely to want to pull you into the water.
I'm a simple-minded person who doesn't think about it that much
Human nature is really strange, and the more drunk people are, the more reluctant they are to admit that they are drunk.
Similarly, the older the fox, the more he will pretend to be harmless to humans and animals.
Poor people like to punch swollen faces and be fat, and rich people often cry poor in front of people, this is human nature, the more they have something, the more they try to hide, the more they lack something, the more desperately they want to show off.
If a person always emphasizes that his mind is simple, then it can be basically concluded that the person's mind is very complicated.
Because people with really simple minds can't think of talking like this in front of people.
Don't believe in a person's appearance at any time, usually what you see is what the other person wants you to see.
Bluntly saying that you are a simple person, you can't be a simple person.
They are all thinking for you, and you are still hesitating about something
Before you make a decision, you must be careful of the person who keeps pushing you.
In life, we often meet people who engage in promotions, and no matter when you go to inquire, they always have a offer that is just right for you.
And this offer is almost always a time-limited leak model.
After considering it for you, it will immediately urge the transaction. All the subtext is saying", "After this village, there is no such shop.".
People with a little life experience understand the truth.
In fact, this situation is not only found in the sale of goods, but also in interpersonal communication.
If you have someone around you who shows that everything is considered for you and is constantly urging you to make decisions about the programs he offers, be vigilant.
After all, the relationship between people is essentially a relationship of interest. It is not profitable to get up early.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip] It is very easy to meet the author.
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.