Cognition: A family, getting worse and worse is a precursor

Text/Wei Chen

Almost all people want their families to get better and better, but not all wishes can be fulfilled.

Although we can't make the family better and better, we can do our best to prevent the family from getting worse and worse.

The family is not rock solid, it is more like a fragile ceramic container, if the family members can not protect it well, if they are not careful, they will break it, and even scratch it.

Most of the happy families in this world are similar, but the unhappy families have their own misfortunes.

In fact, whether a family prospers or declines is never predestined by heaven.

The world is about cause and effect, and no one can escape retribution. Families that have crossed the worse cannot escape the following 5 signals, and any one of them is worth vigilance.

Brothers infighting

In a family, the contradictions between members are constant, which will inevitably affect the development of family fortunes.

In the "Disciple Rules", it is written: "Brother Daoyou, Brother Daogong, Brotherly Harmony, Filial Piety in the Middle." ”

It is said that in a family, the elder brother should love and protect the younger brother and sister, and the younger brother and sister should respect the elder brother. Only in this way can brothers and sisters get along harmoniously, and parents are naturally happy.

However, in real life, many people will fight with their brothers over money or something.

Such a family is bound to gradually decline.

There is a saying in the "Hanging Mirror of the World": "Those who do not have a bad temper and a family that does not decay; those who do not have a harmonious qi, and whose home is not auspicious." ”

Whether a family can get better and better depends not on how much wealth it has at the moment, nor how much it has the ability to make money, but whether a family can work together and get along harmoniously.

Elders doted

Coddling is never love, but an invisible injury, it is like a sugar-coated cannonball, although it feels sweet, but the result is unspeakably painful.

If a family is very doting on its children, even if it makes a mistake, it is reluctant to scold and teach. Then children who grow up in such a family environment are likely to become a scourge on society.

There is a cloud in the "Warring States Policy": "The parents who love their children are far-reaching for them." ”

After all, man can only rely on himself in this life. As a parent, you must not stop cleaning up the mess for your child.

Some things can be replaced for a while, but not for a lifetime.

As an elder, you are doomed to have no way to accompany your children for life, so don't always think about sheltering them from the wind and rain, but teach them how to face the wind and rain.

The elders spoil the families of the younger generations too much, and it is inevitable that they will go downhill.

Children and grandchildren are filial piety

As we all know, home and everything is happy.

In any good family, there will be no problems in the relationship between the members.

If there is always a dispute between the two generations, it will be difficult for the family to move forward normally.

The contradiction that accounts for the highest proportion of family conflicts is probably the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the biggest source of contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is often the foolish filial piety of children and grandchildren.

The thoughts of people are not destined to be the same, let alone between two generations.

Everyone can have their own thoughts, as an old man, do not let their sense of existence be too strong; as a young person, do not be too arrogant, each step back not only takes care of each other's faces, but also fulfills their own thoughts.

Children and grandchildren are not foolish and filial piety, not partial, and the family atmosphere is naturally happy.

Greedy and lazy

There are no poor people in this world, just lazy people.

If a person is always lazy and extra greedy, it is inevitable that he will unconsciously live in life as a person who waits for the rabbit.

The more unmotivated people are, the more they like to daydream.

They are often immersed in unrealistic imaginations, hoping to enjoy their success, but in the bubble to make their lives poorer and poorer.

People who want to get rich overnight hope that pie will fall from the sky, but in fact there will be no pie in the sky, only traps.

As the old saying goes, "Thrift is a cornucopia, and diligence is a cash cow." ”

The decay of a family is most likely due to the laziness and greed of family members.

At any time do not want to be a good and bad person, once the days of clothes to reach out and open their mouths are addicted, the whole family will be closer and closer to decay.

Lack of communication

Bing Xin once said: "A good family is the source of all happiness and strength." "If the family wants to be beautiful, it is indispensable to the friendly communication between the members.

As long as any relationship does not communicate for a long time, the feelings will slowly fade. Communication is a necessary way to maintain feelings.

Communication is especially important in the family. After all, the closer people get to each other, the easier it is to give rise to misunderstandings and contradictions.

Some things are not big in the first place, but after being bored in the heart for a long time, they will look particularly heavy. Timely communication is not just about connecting feelings.

Every family has a difficult scripture to read. The reason why this "sutra" is difficult to read is not because the content is obscure and difficult to understand, but more because the people who copied the "scripture" did not meet the meaning or were not sincere.

Families that lack communication tend to get worse and worse, so don't be silent between family members.

Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip] It is very easy to meet the author.

About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.

I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.