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I agree with a friend of mine:
"I can invite you to eat, drink and have fun for two thousand dollars, and it doesn't matter, because I invited you and don't need you to pay you back." But if you borrow money from me, even if you only borrow a hundred dollars, you have to pay me back, because you borrowed it from me. ”
Yes, it is natural to repay debts; it is not difficult to borrow well and repay them.
Even if you only borrowed me 100 yuan, after paying it back, I can still spend 300 yuan to invite you to dinner at night. I was willing to spend 300 bucks, and you owe me those 100 bucks.
Since it's my money (not from the wind, but hard-earned), I have the right to dispose of it freely, not for you to decide for me where the 100 bucks go.
Don't think that the two of us have a good relationship and a close relationship, anyway, there is not much money, and it doesn't matter if you don't pay it back. The nature is not the same, otherwise it is taking advantage of feelings, taking advantage of relationships, making people's hearts particularly uncomfortable, otherwise how can there be an old saying, brothers must also clearly settle accounts.
No one is supposed to lend you money, feelings are feelings, relationships are relationships, money is money.
Always thinking that the two of us have a good relationship and a close relationship, isn't it necessary for you to borrow me money? To be honest, this is a kind of kidnapping of feelings, of relationships.
Why are many people kind enough to borrow money, but instead lend out an enemy? That's the root cause.
In addition to deliberate non-repayment, the situation of playing a rogue is often irrelevant to money. It's just that the person who borrowed the money has the hidden psychology of kidnapping the other party, and he hasn't even discovered it himself. So if you don't borrow money, I will get angry and deny the feelings between each other, and when you ask me to pay back the money, I will be disappointed and deny the relationship between each other.
Partial people are not absolutely rational animals, the more emotional good, the closer to each other, the more likely it is to have emotional kidnapping, unclear.
So I borrowed money kindly, and as a result, I also offended the other party, and from then on, I gradually drifted away and went to strangeness.
02
Let's talk about borrowing money!
Cao Dewang said that in fact, most people are not suitable for getting rich, because the anti-phagocytic force of money is very large. In fact, there are many people who are not suitable for borrowing money, because no matter who has money with him and is involved, in the end, the relationship will be frozen, one person is like this, two people are like this, three people are still like this, indicating that he has his own problems.
Always believe that if you offend him just because you don't borrow money, then even if you borrow it, you will still offend him in the end.
Because such people often have no empathy, can only consider themselves, completely disregard the difficulties and situations of others.
In his bones, he is also more paranoid, extreme, overbearing, and with a little selfishness, even if you have ten thousand good to him before, as long as you do not lend him money once, immediately begin to hate you in your heart, and deny all the good you have before.
Unless you never urge him to pay him back, or even prepare for the worst that you don't have to pay back, and you can always be good to him like this.
In addition, such a person certainly does not know how to reflect and review himself, will only resent others for not lending him money, and has never thought about why others do not lend him money.
When others don't lend him money, he will only think paranoidly, that is, he looks down on himself, that he is afraid that he will not be able to pay it back.
But I didn't think about whether there was a problem with my own character, whether there was a problem with my own reputation, I could always say it but couldn't do it. And no matter who you borrow money from, you will end up making a lot of trouble, so the person who borrows money will definitely worry, in case it is also so unpleasant.
Or maybe they don't do their own business, they are addicted to gambling, people hold the attitude of saving the emergency and not saving the poor, it is normal not to borrow you, but it is harmful to you if you borrow.
In fact, whether to borrow money or not is not entirely determined by feelings, relationships and personality, and we will all assess whether the other party has the ability to repay the money.
Money is important to everyone, everyone has a life, and life goes on unless there is a lot of money in hand.
Which person's life is not heavy, there is a goal and task to complete, so unless the family encounters a major change, in the borrowing of money to make it clear, may not be able to pay in the short term, do not cheat, promise a month, the result is pushed year after year, which will seriously affect people's living arrangements.
If it is only used for emergency turnover, promise to do the number, do not make up stories, and find it difficult to think of your own way. It is agreed to use it for only one month, within a month, until the last day, and it does not matter if you try your best to return it, and then borrow it later.
Even if it is really not on the top, there is no money, but there must be words, adults spit a nail, can not repeatedly lose faith.
03
When everyone has difficulties, we all hope that when we encounter difficulties, relatives and friends can lend a helping hand in time. People who can help you are all kind, should be grateful and cherished, can not help you, do not have the ability to help you, do not resent, first of all, we must correct their attitude.
Willing to lend you money, kindness to kindness, this is also human feelings. Don't take the risk, if you don't lend it to you, it's good to save it and eat interest, even if it's not much.
So don't take it for granted, or think about using it for free.
You have encountered difficulties and limited ability, and when you pay back the money, it is also your heart to buy a carton of milk for the elderly and children. Whether others accept it or not, you express it, and the feelings in people's hearts are different.
If you borrow other people's money to make money, it is even more important to balance each other's interests, as far as possible to buy a little more expensive gifts, or have other expressions. Even others don't want it, but your heart is expressed, and you see that you have a grateful heart.
Many people are their own path is getting narrower and narrower, no one is a fool, people cherish this relationship, but also want to see your cherishing of this relationship.
Finally, it is worth mentioning that people who usually do not have much contact, or who have very little contact, suddenly borrow money from you, be careful. Unless something major has changed in his life, why doesn't he borrow money from people who usually play well and are close to him? If the people around him are not willing to lend him, this is worth pondering.
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