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As soon as the TV series "Heart Residence" was broadcast, it captured the hearts of the audience, especially the image of Feng Xiaoqin, which made us too familiar.
Every day to buy vegetables, cook, do housework, take care of the family, pick up and drop off the children, accompany the children to study, there is no self in the busy life, only the family.
Isn't that the image of a full-time housewife?
Feng Xiaoqin is different from all of us in that she also has to take care of her father-in-law and father-in-law's mother, and even relatives and friends come to dinner with Feng Xiaoqin to entertain.
In their home, there is a family gathering every two weeks, and on the day of the family gathering, Feng Xiaoqin has to start from buying vegetables and cooking, the last one to come to the table, and after the meal, she also has to clean up a large table of dishes and chopsticks, thinking about it is very tired.
The most excessive thing is that even if she is busy entertaining everyone and the last one is on the table, after eating, everyone is chatting and playing with mobile phones, except for her sister, no one has helped her.
Even when the eldest sister-in-law came back to eat, she never helped.
In everyone's eyes, Feng Xiaoqin can only do this work, and these jobs should be let her do.
Of course, in her heart, although she did not want to become the nanny of this family, she still pretended to be happy to serve everyone.
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Why did Feng Xiaoqin live so humblely?
Before getting married, she had a job, but after getting married, because her husband told her that there were two elderly people in the family to take care of, he asked her to resign.
Later, with children, she was at ease to become a full-time housewife.
In the metropolis of Shanghai, Feng Xiaoqin, as a woman from abroad, wants to gain a firm foothold in Shanghai.
There are two ways, a good job or marrying a man with a local hukou.
The former is a strong woman, the latter is a weak person.
Feng Xiaoqin's cultural level is not high, the former has nothing to do with her, and the latter is the opportunity she can seize.
So marrying Gu Lei has a purpose, of course, her feelings are also true.
For women whose hearts are higher than the sky, getting married is the first step, and owning their own house is the ultimate dream.
Gu Lei's house is very large, but it does not belong to Feng Xiaoqin.
She wants to buy a house with her name on the property deed, which is really a foothold in Shanghai.
But as a full-time housewife, she did not have this ability.
Therefore, people are chicken babies, and Feng Xiaoqin not only "chicken" babies, but also "chicken" husbands, forcing Gu Lei to take the accounting certificate.
A woman with a heart higher than the sky meets a man who is not self-motivated, and the pain in this is known only to this woman.
03
In Feng Xiaoqin's heart, the house had infinite attraction for her, and she wanted to do her best to get it, but she didn't have the ability.
So she forced her husband to take the exam, forced her husband to borrow money from her eldest sister, to borrow money from her father-in-law, and she also licked her face to borrow money from her friends.
The eldest sister is a smart woman who has always been wary of Feng Xiaoqin, so she also colluded with her father, that is, Feng Xiaoqin's father-in-law, to be wary of this foreign woman.
Although Feng Xiaoqin is very enthusiastic about the Gu family from old to young, from relatives to friends, her ambitions are also in the eyes of everyone.
Begging for people everywhere, looking for a job for his sister, even the daughter-in-law of the aunt's family who met for the first time did not let go.
Her sister has been eating and living in her house for a long time, no wonder the Gu family has always disrespected her, and what she has done is indeed not very measured.
Why is Feng Xiaoqin very "composed"?
Doesn't she deserve her own house as a foreign woman?
Not really.
She can have her own house, a car, or even everything, and she can let her son learn all the extracurricular interest classes.
The premise is that she must have this ability.
In Feng Xiaoqin's cognition, if she wants to buy a house, she should let her father-in-law and eldest sister make a down payment and make a loan, and she should force her unmotivated husband to learn everything.
She can seize every opportunity to borrow money from others, but she does not seize every opportunity to make herself motivated.
Therefore, Feng Xiaoqin is very good.
I have no ability, but I have a distant dream, which is a luxury and a fantasy.
Pinning hopes on her husband, pinning her hopes on relatives, and letting them fulfill her dreams is a test of human nature, and it is a tragedy after all.
Moreover, her husband was a "ma bao" who had no opinion and no responsibility at the beginning, and was a pig teammate.
Pinning your hopes on a pig teammate is doomed to be shattered.
It is also worth it that Feng Xiaoqin cannot get the trust and respect of their whole family.
04
Feng Xiaoqin's contrivance is all about his own unwillingness, unwilling to become a nanny of a family, unwilling to have his own house, unwilling to let his son fall behind, not willing to send his family to the fence.
These unwillingness of hers, in her contrivance, have become a "conspiracy" that is guarded against.
An incompetent woman, delusional to achieve her dreams through the abilities of others, is this not a conspiracy what it is?
Therefore, Feng Xiaoqin was doomed to be a loser before these ideas were eliminated.
Because human nature cannot stand the test, even if you give up all your self-sacrifice and take care of all the housework, as long as you covet other people's things, you can't blame others for being wary of you.
Some things can't be exchanged.
Therefore, Feng Xiaoqin was too stupid.
She was foolish enough to spend time taking care of their whole family, so she would take the time to improve herself.
Taking care of the whole family can only be exchanged for a reputation, but improving yourself can be exchanged for your own right to speak, and even the way out and dignity after the fall.
Instead of spending money to let an unmotivated husband study, it is better to study well.
For women, this is a very important truth.
Huang Bo once said: When you mix well, you are surrounded by good people.
Zheng Juan in "The World of Man" has a saying: a person who has nothing, the most important thing to have is himself, as long as he has himself, the sky is not afraid to fall.
A woman's ability determines whether her vision and dreams can be realized.
Therefore, as a woman, don't think about it, down-to-earth efforts, will always be your biggest reliance.
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