Text/Wei Chen
Life is alive, and everyone is running for life. If you want to survive, you inevitably have to deal with people.
There are many rules in interpersonal communication that we must understand.
Zhuge Liang wrote in the table of teachers: "Pro-Xianchen, Far Little Man, this ancestor Han so Xinglong also; pro-Little Man, Far Sage Chen, after that Han so fell into decadence also." ”
In fact, it is not only the king of a country that needs to understand these truths, but even as ordinary people, we should understand that we must be screened in interpersonal communication.
As the old saying goes: "The road knows the horsepower, and the day sees the hearts of the people." "The relationship between people can not only look at the appearance, only through the test of time and events, can we draw a relatively objective conclusion."
Everyone is a natural actor, good at disguise, and is no longer a characteristic of a certain person. Therefore, it is really important to know how to observe and judge in detail.
There is a cloud in the "Augmented Sage Text": "See through the human feelings and be frightened, and see through the world's fears." "The human heart is a terrible thing, and some people look compassionate on the surface, but in their hearts they hide a terrible devil.
Since ancient times, people's hearts are unpredictable, and they must polish their eyes when interacting with people, and they cannot easily deliver their hearts, nor can they deliberately hide themselves.
Making friends has always been a matter of fate in life, and if the other person's character is not good, the rest of your life will only bring you endless harm.
Therefore, we cannot trust a person by appearance and words alone.
As the saying goes, open guns are easy to hide, and dark arrows are difficult to defend. The terrible thing in this world is not the real villain, but the hypocrite.
There is a kind of person who has no morality in his bones, who not only behaves without bottom lines and principles, but also deliberately disguises a morally noble appearance in the crowd.
The following are 4 characteristics that people with good faces and black hearts often have, if they encounter them, stay away as soon as possible.
Face to face with one set behind the other, the heart is different
Everyone is multi-faceted, but some people have very similar faces, while some people have two opposite faces.
People who face each other and set up a set behind often talk very well, and doing things is another situation.
Naturally, they will show their good side in front of people, and hide their evil side behind others, in order to win the trust of others and facilitate their own plans.
People who face each other and set up a set behind them will always slander others for their own benefit.
This kind of person may be very well-behaved and considerate in front of you, and will betray you in the blink of an eye.
In the process of getting along with people, if you find that the people around you are different, you must keep a distance in time.
Even if they don't cheat on you for the time being, there's no guarantee that they'll treat you the way they'll be in the days to come.
Standing on high to blame others, moral kidnapping
Judging others is always an easy task, and it doesn't even require professional skills, let alone skill.
So some people joked that people who have unique skills are performing on stage, and people who are not alive are judges offstage.
Of course, not all judges are unqualified, but the world is so big, there will always be a few unqualified people.
The same is true of our friends, who say that it is better to speak against the ear than to do good, but this does not mean that all words against the ear are good.
Those who always like to stand on the moral high ground and blame others, the most skilled thing is moral kidnapping.
To put it bluntly, it is standing and talking without waist pain, things have not happened to themselves, and it will be so easy to comment.
In interpersonal communication, be sure to stay away from the person who lacks compassion.
He may have shown high morals, but he was harsh and impersonal. Such a person cannot be deeply related.
Pretend to be rigorous in criticizing achievements, and be jealous at heart
Everyone wants to embrace success. But not all people can have that honor.
There are two kinds of people in this world who can't ask for it. One kind of person confesses his destiny, and the other person denigrates it.
I believe everyone has heard the story of foxes not eating grapes.
It is said that a fox came to the bottom of the grapevine, and as soon as it looked up, it saw the crystal clear grapes on the grapevine.
Looking at the grapes on the shelf, the fox jumped a few times, but never reached it.
So its mood changed from the initial joy to anger.
The fox left after making sure he couldn't eat the grapes, and no matter who he met on the way, he told anyone that there was something wrong with the vine, and that the fruit it had produced was so sour that its teeth were broken.
There are also some people in life, like this fox who can't eat grapes, who pretend to be rigorous and criticize the achievements of others, but in fact because of inner dissatisfaction and jealousy.
People who can't eat grapes and say that grapes are sour must not be associated.
Scheming and profit-seeking, sinister and cunning
There are two things in this world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun and the other is the human heart.
There are many conflicts of interest between people, and nothing exists for no reason. This is true of others who are good to you, and it is also true of you who are not good to you.
Everyone has their own personality traits. We cannot ask others to be completely consistent with our own three views, but we can grasp our own life and not deviate.
Those who are unscrupulous for the sake of profit, whether relatives or friends, should stay away.
Don't make friends with mercenary people, and you can avoid becoming a fish on the chopping board one day.
Those who wear masks, whether they pretend to be stupid and pitiful or pretend to be innocent or whatever, are not credible.
If a person's heart has been driven by interests, staying away is the best choice.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.