Text/Wei Chen
Many of the world's calamities stem from verbal communication.
As the saying goes, evil comes out of the mouth. If a person cannot control his mouth, if he is not careful, he will lead to the disaster of innocence.
Many words, the speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional. Not being able to speak is a huge flaw in a person.
There are not a few things that offend people because of a word. Therefore, we must go through our brains before we speak.
In this world, not all facts can be said. What should be said, what should not be said, and what should be said and on what occasion should be said requires precise trade-offs.
Keeping your mouth shut is not to require a person to be completely silent and refuse to communicate, but in the process of communication, the content of communication is strictly controlled.
Communication requires skill, the same thing is communicated in different ways, the harvest is bound to have a different ending, and being able to properly handle language is a person's ability.
In interpersonal communication, no matter how good the relationship is, the following 4 things cannot be said.
An anomalous experience
There are some people who like to talk about their experiences.
The speaker is to express himself, while the listener is often just curious.
The more abnormal the experience, the easier it is to be disseminated, but in the process of dissemination, the image of the protagonist will always be unrecognizable.
Those abnormal experiences in life, it is best not to tell others. In addition to making yourself a pastime after other people's tea and meals, it may also bring danger to the rest of your life.
Personal experience, can not be said indiscriminately.
We don't have to talk about our past every time, most people will only look at other people's past as a joke.
If a person indulges in the past, it is easy to live in the shadow of negativity, whether the past is a good experience, or an unfortunate pain, it is impossible to determine the scenery of tomorrow.
The more perverse the past, the easier it is to be distracted, and only by forgetting the past can we make life go on better.
Dissatisfaction with people
As the saying goes, no one has a thousand days, and no flower has a hundred days of red.
No one can predict where the next direction of life will go, so in interpersonal communication, we must keep our mouths shut. Not only can you not say more about complaining, but it is best to hide your dissatisfaction with others in your heart.
No one can conclude their relationship with another person, maybe one second is a close friend, the next second will become an enemy; one second it may be a stranger, the next second it becomes an intimate relationship.
You may be dissatisfied with others, but be sure not to express your dissatisfaction too eagerly.
At all times, people should be responsible for what they have said, and the words they say, such as spilled water, are difficult to harvest.
Dissatisfaction with others, whether justified or simply blind, should not be spoken out.
Sometimes you think that the other party has a good relationship with you and can safely tell secrets, but in fact, all the things that are said are no longer secrets.
No one can do it in absolute secrecy, except yourself.
Inner plot
The road to success is never bustling.
Failure will make the losers get together, and they are also called hugging each other for warmth. And success only leaves people alone, because thinking requires space.
The ancients said: "Profit can be shared but not alone, and conspiracy can be widowed but not many." "People who are too greedy and miserly will inevitably be excluded by everyone, and those who love to share the plan too much will be calculated by others if they are not careful."
There are too many relationships in this life that need to be carefully spent together.
People with a little city government know how to be careful in words and deeds, no matter how good the relationship between the other party and themselves, how deep the friendship is, and what should not be said is resolutely not said.
Those schemes can be a person's dream or a person's life, and showing the dream or life in front of people does not have too deep significance for promoting the relationship between each other.
Life is still up to you after all, and no one can replace you on the road to completing your dreams.
So please put away your inner plan and don't let him become a sharp blade or a failed joke for someone else to hurt you.
Disadvantages of the family
As the saying goes, good things don't go out, and bad things spread far and wide.
And this "bad thing" that has been spread thousands of miles away will become more and more distorted and strange in the process of spreading.
If there is a member of a family who is particularly fond of telling others about the affairs of the family, such a family is destined to have a rare peace.
There are pros and cons in everyone. In the process of expression, we will unconsciously magnify the strengths and weaknesses of others.
Especially for those who are familiar with themselves, the more familiar they are with the shortcomings, the more obvious they are.
The shortcomings of the family are best not to talk to outsiders, all your momentary anger will eventually become a discussion that others can comment on at will.
The ugliness of the family is not to be blindly tolerant, but to avoid letting too many unrelated outsiders participate when things are still turning around.
If a family is too involved by outsiders, it is inevitable that it will decline.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.