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How to make friends is something we should learn all our lives. A good friend can sometimes bring you cognitive improvement, can help you open up the pattern of life, and let your level be improved.
If you accidentally make bad friends, maybe your life will be affected by him, and maybe your life will be tired by him and become stagnant.
Things are clustered in groups, your friend level often represents your level, excellent people will only interact with excellent people, so be sure to stay away from those rat in your circle of friends, your beautiful life can not be affected by this kind of person.
In interpersonal communication, you must remember that people with the following two hobbies, most of them are kind and dark, no matter who they are not worthy of deep friendship, they are the rat that will affect your life, and it is better to stay away.
One: People who like to belittle others to elevate themselves
In our lives, it is not uncommon for people who like to belittle others to elevate themselves. They often claim to be capable and go around proclaiming themselves to be good enough, but this excellence is deliberately highlighted by the mistakes of others.
They will deliberately use your mistakes to make comparisons, in this way to suppress you, but also to magnify his excellence, can be described as killing two birds with one stone.
Make friends with such a person, you will be suppressed by him to the point of no self-confidence, so that you are always in a state of doubt, such a state is not conducive to your future growth.
Colleague Zhang Wang had met such a person in the former company, and his colleague at the next table was his partner, and there were many cases that required the two to work together to complete.
At that time, his qualifications were not as deep as his partner, and his partner seemed to be very enthusiastic, and Zhang Wang always learned from him with a learning mentality.
But then he discovered that no matter how perfect his proposal was, his partner had reason to belittle his abilities in front of the leader, and while demeaning him, he was also unashamedly talking about how hard he had worked. When a colleague discovered that his partner was such a person, he left his job not long after.
In our company, he perfectly played to his ability advantages, single-handedly carried a lot of large projects, and therefore the leadership paid special attention to him, and planned to train him to management positions.
Zhang Wang's choice is very wise, in the face of the garbage man who consumes himself every day, trying to change him is only in vain. They won't give you practical help, they're just holding you back.
That being the case, staying away early is king.
Two: People who like to expose people's shortcomings with an innocent face
There is also a kind of person who likes to be in front of you the most and ruthlessly expose your shortcomings. When you express embarrassment or make him restrain a little, the other party will only be aggrieved and innocently say that he is just straight, not really trying to hurt you.
You are not tall, he will joke about your height in front of everyone in group activities; you are a little fat, he likes to say a word when you eat, so fat and eat less; you have not made money this year, he will deliberately disclose your income in front of relatives and friends with a kind gesture...
If you've been angry about his hurtful behavior, he'll feel that you're stingy and not measured enough. In the end, you who are hurt by him become a guilty person.
In the logic of this kind of person, he only hurt himself because he was too rectal, and he was a manifestation of no heart, which is worthy of recognition.
If you get angry about these small things, then you just can't tolerate it, or you deliberately target him.
Interacting with this kind of person, you will feel that you have ten mouths that cannot be said clearly. Interpersonal communication has a mutually comfortable boundary, and the other party's behavior of liking to expose people's shortcomings is undoubtedly an offense to this boundary.
In the face of such a selfish and double-minded person, there is no need to argue with him. When he is close, it is better to automatically keep a distance from him, no matter who he is, do not have deep friendships with him.
The presence of trash friends will only keep making you doubt yourself. I hope you can learn this knowledge as soon as possible.
As soon as possible, we can see those so-called well-meaning people who have a kind face and black heart, and hide a stomach full of bad water, and keep a clear distance from them, so that you can make your life more comfortable.
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