Text/Wei Chen
"Cai Gen Tan" has a cloud: "The heart of harming people must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without." ”
If life is going well, you must have a defensive heart. A person who is defenseless against others will fall into the abyss if he is not careful.
We can be kind, but not too good at talking, if you always change your habits because of other people's behavior. Over time, the other person will think that it is normal to break your principles.
There will always be people in life who do something that is detrimental to your interests for a variety of reasons.
In the face of these people, we must learn to "tear our faces" when necessary. If a person cares too much about face, only himself will eventually suffer.
When people are weak, they are easily bullied by others, and if they want to get rid of the bad status quo, they must make themselves strong.
Learning to turn the other cheek is the first step to becoming yourself.
In interpersonal communication, everyone has the right to refuse.
We can't give in for harmony and calm, but we can't just tolerate it without a bottom line.
Anyone who overly pleases others in their interpersonal interactions will ultimately bear a high price.
Being kind to others is indeed a virtue, but to carry forward virtues also requires the division of people. Kindness should be left to those who deserve to be treated well, and there are always some people in life who are not worthy of our forgiveness again and again.
Kindness is a choice, not a necessity, and we can choose kindness or apathy.
No one stipulates that you must help others, if the person you help is worthy, to help, is the affection, if you feel that the other party is not worthy, do not help, it is also the duty.
When people reach a certain age, they must learn to turn their faces and not be afraid of offending people. The following 4 types of people can not help.
People who deliberately make things difficult for you
In everyone's life, they will meet some people who deliberately make things difficult for themselves.
We are usually scrambled the first time we encounter this situation and don't know what to do.
Some people even have psychological shadows because of this, and they will be nervous whenever they encounter a similar situation.
As they grow older, some people choose silence and patience in the face of difficulties. Some people will resist radically.
People who choose to be silent and tolerant in the future days, there is a high probability that they will continue to be pinched as soft persimmons, and those who resist too fiercely may be trapped by each other and be used by people with ulterior motives.
If someone in life deliberately makes it difficult for you, neither swallow your anger nor overreact.
The best thing to do is to stay calm and analyze the causes and consequences before making a specific decision on how to fight back.
The one who exposes the short in public
The operation of public disclosure is no different from punching the face in public.
A person's shortcomings are often his scars, and not revealing other people's scars is the most basic bottom line of being a person.
No matter how good the relationship between two people is, they should not say nothing. Whether in public or in private, revealing the short can be embarrassing.
Everyone has self-respect, especially not wanting to lose face in front of everyone.
As the saying goes: "Hit people without punching their faces, and scold people without revealing their shortcomings." "In interpersonal communication, no matter what the relationship between two people is, the bottom line of getting along well should be controlled.
Public disclosure brings people an unforgettable sense of shame, and the power of language is far greater than that of fists.
If you meet someone in life who exposes your shortcomings in public, there is no need to listen to how the other party apologizes later, and a fluttering "sorry" in some things is useless.
People who cross rivers and tear down bridges
There are two very unfriendly words in interpersonal communication, that is, unloading donkeys and crossing rivers and demolishing bridges.
No matter what stage of life you go, you can't avoid encountering bad people, but some bad people have a fierce face at the beginning, while some bad people are properly disguised.
People who cross rivers and tear down bridges will always show warmth and kindness in the beginning of their relationships, because they want to use you, so they do their best to please you.
Don't trust anyone as a person, there is never any unprovoked concern in this world, if the other party treats you well beyond the normal relationship, you must be careful.
It can be applied to any relationship, beware of unprovoked friendships in life, who may just be looking for a scapegoat.
It's good to be deceived once by someone who crosses a river and tears down a bridge, no matter how kind you are, you have to refuse to fall in the same place repeatedly.
Can't see you good people
There are always some people in this world who can't see others well, and this "other" is most likely the person around them.
Jealousy can make a person ugly. What's more unfortunate is that these "ugly" people are often around, they may be colleagues, friends or relatives.
People are selfish in their hearts, and when their own lives are not smooth, they will unconsciously contrast with others.
Those who don't see you well, never see your efforts. In their minds, all your achievements are the cares of fate.
So while complaining about the injustice of fate, he launched an attack on you.
As the saying goes, there must be something hateful about the poor.
No matter how good your heart is, don't sympathize with a jealous "poor man."
In the face of people who don't see you well, turning the other cheek is the wisest choice.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.