1, how you treat me, I will treat you
People's hearts are mutual, you are good to others, others will be good to you in turn; you respect others, others will respect you in turn.
On the contrary, if you trample on the dignity of others, the dignity of others will also be damaged; if you pour cold water on others, others will also pour cold water back.
2. Do not argue at any time
Quarrels can never resolve the contradictions, and even lead to further aggravation of the contradictions, and things become more and more noisy.
Therefore, no matter what the occasion, do not argue with others, after all, silence is golden, the more noisy it will be, the more sad.
3. Know how to exchange courtesies
On a scale, if there is something at one end and nothing at the other end, the scale will be out of balance.
Then, in interpersonal relationships, there is no such thing as one party who has been giving and the other who has been enjoying, and if there is, that word is called "courtesy exchange".
4, treat people kindly, but also depend on whether the other party is worth paying
There is nothing wrong with being a kind person and then being kind to others.
However, we don't need to pour out our hearts and lungs for everyone, we need to give kindness to the right people, because if you give to someone who doesn't know how to be grateful, your heart will be broken.
5) Don't overestimate your position in the minds of others
Don't underestimate others, and certainly don't overestimate where you are in other people's minds.
After all, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.
6, make a major decision, do not tell others before it is completed
Since it is a major decision, it means that it is more significant and has a certain weight in your heart.
Then, the purpose of not telling others before completion is: so as not to achieve the expected goal, to create a psychological gap for yourself, and thus increase the pressure.
7, people's hearts are difficult to guess, it is best not to guess people's hearts
What is going on in someone else's heart, if the other person doesn't say it, we won't know.
If you pretend to be smart and always like to help others define it privately, it will be annoying and may cause unnecessary trouble.
8, people who talk about credit can harvest sincere friendship
The word "credit" is worth thousands of dollars, and people who talk about credit will inevitably harvest more sincere and trustworthy relationships, such as friendship.
9, saying good things about others behind your back is more influential than praising in person
Saying good things about others behind their backs, and then passing through the mouths of others to the ears of others, the influence will be more influential than the praise in person, giving people a feeling of shock in their hearts.
10, always remind yourself: I have a bottom line
Everyone has a bottom line, and you can't let others touch your bottom line at any time, otherwise your dignity may be trampled by others.
11, how many people you know is not important, what matters is how many excellent people know you
The poet Gao Shi said: "Do not worry about the road ahead and do not know yourself, and no one in the world knows the king." ”
Excellent people have their own light, and everywhere you go, people know you; when you bring your own light, it shows that you have succeeded, even if you don't say it, excellent people will come to you.
12, you have to be good enough to be worthy of excellent people
The so-called saying, things are clustered by categories, people are divided into groups, and excellent is of course no exception.
You want to stand shoulder to shoulder with excellent people, first of all, you can't be much worse than each other in all aspects, otherwise you won't be worthy.
13) Many things are evenly matched, including love
There is a saying in "Jane Eyre": "Love is a game, and it must always be inseparable from each other and evenly matched in order to rely on each other for a long time." ”
Of course, love is the same, other things are the same, always equal, the fittest survive, the unwell are eliminated.
14, shallow friendship does not need to talk deeply
For people who meet for the first time, if they don't hate each other late, there is no need to have a deep conversation, otherwise it is a kind of intrusive and impolite behavior.
For example, if one day you are at home and suddenly break into a person, your first reaction must be either to be frightened or to think that the other person is a bad person.
15, do not casually help others make decisions
Separated from the team, everyone is an independent individual, with their own thoughts, their own paths, and their own dreams.
That being the case, don't help others make decisions casually, because others are not you, you can't be someone else, of course, you can't help others to be the master.
16, often put "thank you" and "thanks to you" on the lips
Although a person's efforts do not necessarily require you to always remember and thank you, your positive feedback can always win the good impression of others.
17, remember that human nature has two sides
In this world, everything has two sides, including human nature, good and bad.
A person who is good to you may be sincere and good to you, or it may be profitable.
18, to interact with people slowly, to break off friendship with people faster
Good feelings are slowly getting along, so the pace is slower, the feelings will be more stable;
When breaking off friendship with people, it is necessary to be fast and accurate, otherwise the feelings may be more and more muddy, and the more contradictions will appear.
19, learn to "trouble" others appropriately
When you trouble others, it is a manifestation of the value of giving people.
Therefore, learning to properly "trouble" others is a kind of wisdom, not only to let yourself get help, but also to give others the opportunity to express themselves and show themselves.
20, true temperament will be more popular
Being frank and frank, doing things informally, and handling things generously is the embodiment of "true temperament".
Because the true temperament is true and comfortable, it is more popular.