Text/Wei Chen
People who have just entered society are always worried that they are not social enough. After middle age, people are more and more reluctant to make themselves too social.
Being gregarious is neither a good thing nor a bad thing. What distinguishes it between good and bad is not the gregarious itself, but the influence of the group on the individual.
When people are young, they tend to be afraid of small things, and when they see that others are doing one thing and they are not doing it, they will have the illusion of "I am left behind".
As we get older, we gradually find that that behavior is not called following the trend but is called going with the flow.
"One Hundred Years of Solitude" wrote: "The best state of a person is to be quiet and comfortable when he is alone, without having to deal with the emotions of others, and without deliberately judging the thoughts of others." Accompany yourself and return to your true self. ”
Be human and understand that being yourself is the coolest thing in the world.
Authenticity is our lifelong pursuit.
In life, don't expect others too much at any time, everyone has their own lives, each has its own difficulties.
Relying too much on others will only allow you to live in endless disappointment.
Being alone allows a person to recover their energy quickly. Because you don't have to think about too much interpersonal interaction, you are free to feel good.
Getting along with people is a particularly hard thing to do.
After all, everyone has their own unique characteristics, and everyone's thoughts and concepts are also different.
In order to maintain a superficial calm, we must convince ourselves to accept and tolerate.
The direction of everything in this world is uncontrollable. You think things are going to go in one direction, and it turns out to be going in another direction, and this frustration can't be too much in front of people, and you can only let yourself be happy and calm when you are alone.
In interpersonal communication, there is a word that no one can avoid: thankless.
There are two possibilities for this situation, one is to do the wrong thing with kindness, bring trouble to the other party, and naturally "not please".
Another is that the other person does not understand gratitude and thinks that what you do for him is taken for granted.
People who like to be alone are people who see through human nature. They know the advantages and disadvantages of getting along with people frequently, so they can arrange their time appropriately.
Don't be afraid of interpersonal interactions, and don't be afraid to be alone. To do it, to be a person who knows the world and is not sophisticated.
There is the joy of the group, the joy of being alone, at the same time, there are the troubles of the group, and there is also the boredom of being alone. There is no difference between good and bad.
Don't let yourself be kidnapped by unfounded views, maturity is to have your own ideas, and you can be confident and bold to be yourself.
If you want to live a good life, you need to spend a long period of time to calm down to learn and improve.
While learning requires quietness, time alone is the best time to learn. When a person prefers to be alone more and more, it is also the time when they make the most progress.
People with strong hearts don't deliberately curry favor with others because they know, "I can do it."
Although the quiet of being alone can sometimes make people feel lonely, when a person really sinks his heart to read, to learn, to think, he will find that this quiet can bring unexpected happiness.
After growing up, people will gradually find that in fact, we do not have to be a person who is recognized by others. The more you please, the more others will ask for it.
Simply do what you want and prove yourself with excellent results.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said: "The prosperity outside the door is not my prosperity." "A person's prosperity is only in the heart, not in the external environment.
Life is roughly divided into three stages, the confusion period, the growth period and the epiphany period.
Confused people are most afraid of being alone, because a person without a sense of direction, when alone, is like a leaf boat lost in the sea, in addition to worry and fear.
People in the formative years prefer to be alone. Because I have found my way and know what kind of person I want to be, I long to not be disturbed and grow rapidly towards my goal.
Once one has an epiphany, one no longer cares whether one's surroundings are noisy or lonely.
Because I have become myself, I also have a complete state of mind. The noise and loneliness of the surrounding area have nothing to do with it. Inner peace makes life not rushed.
It's not a bad thing that a person increasingly enjoys being alone, and even it's most likely a good thing.
If you are in a happy mood and emotionally stable when you are alone, then liking to be alone is not solitary, but excellent that ordinary people can't reach.
People who like to be alone don't necessarily fall out of place. The real difficulty in interpersonal communication is not to be gregarious, but to be able to be both gregarious and alone.
Excellent people gather as a fire, scatter the sky is full of stars, whether in the group or not, it does not affect the glow.
When a person begins to like to be alone, it is a sign that the person has reached maturity.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About the Author: Wei Chen, freelance writer, writing mentor. Normally quiet, occasionally humorous.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.