Marriage is equivalent to a woman's second reincarnation, how many girls who spend their faces before marriage are tortured into a soulless walking corpse in marriage?
That's because they chose the wrong man, thinking that the man they chose could give themselves the happiness they wanted and shelter themselves from the wind and rain.
But I never thought that all the unhappy storms I experienced after marriage were all due to the other party.
We can't help but sigh that marriage seems to be a happy marriage with a person and forming a new family, but if we choose the wrong person, then we are likely to spend the rest of our lives in torture.
Therefore, the happiness of marriage is a choice greater than a business, and choosing the right man can be the most valuable wealth that a woman gains in marriage.
Psychological research has shown that the 4 details of a man's "deep love for his wife", but one of them, is not married to the wrong person.
You're never stingy about your efforts
One of my readers, she and her mother went out shopping, saw such a scene: a pregnant woman wanted to eat ice cream, the man asked in the past, as soon as he inquired that the price was twenty yuan, he immediately turned his head and left.
Pregnant women want to eat, men began to reprimand, "Losers, children, you know that spending money indiscriminately, an ice cream is almost enough to reach my box of cigarette money, what to eat, hurry up."
When seeing this scene, the reader suddenly feels that such a marriage is very sad.
She remembered that her mother wanted to eat blueberries, and the big winter was the season when blueberries were more expensive, but her father didn't say a word, and thirty boxes of blueberries were several boxes at a time.
And this is love.
Love is giving unconditionally and without stinginess, not just satisfying one's own selfish desires, but never refusing to pay for the other person.
Therefore, the man who never skimps on giving is the man we should choose.
Will be your most solid backing
Sheng Minglan in the TV series "Do You Know It or Not" wants to get justice for her grandmother because of the fact that her grandmother was poisoned by others.
She resisted so many people with her own strength, some people said that Sheng Minglan was already married, there was no reason to mix with her mother's affairs, after all, she was not in charge.
Just when Minglan didn't know what to do, Gu Tingye came back, and without saying a word, he immediately stood behind Sheng Minglan and gave her confidence.
It is precisely because Gu Tingye gave Minglan a blatant preference that Minglan does not need to seek perfection, does not need to be afraid, and does not need to be careful.
Shakespeare said, "The power of love is peace, never regardless of reason, convention, and honor and disgrace, it can make all fear, shock, and pain sweet when suffered." ”
When a man gives us the courage to face all the storms in this world, when a man can make us no longer cautious.
Remember, such a man deserves our initial choice.
Will put themselves in your shoes to understand you and think about you
"The Five Abilities of Love" book once said: "Empathy, is the third ability of love, that is, can understand the other party's inner feelings, especially when the other party has bad feelings in the heart, empathy will make the lover feel understood and supported." ”
It is said that women pay the most in a family, very hard.
In fact, women are not afraid of hard work, women are afraid of their own efforts are ignored by others, they have always worried about each other, but the other party has never really cared about themselves.
This will make women feel that their efforts are meaningless, because there will be no human body to forgive themselves, and no one will think about themselves.
Therefore, the so-called marriage to a good person is to find someone who can probe our emotions, who can put himself in our shoes, who can understand us with his heart.
In this way, we can experience the respect and happiness that we should have in marriage, and it is possible to share joy and sorrow with each other, honor and disgrace.
It hurts you and never wants you to be wronged
Good love must be mutual. A few days ago, I brushed a video of a migrant worker passing a shoe store when he was returning home.
He wanted to buy a pair for his wife, because he felt that his wife had worked hard for a year and should buy a pair of shoes as a compensation for his absence from family participation.
At that time, the migrant worker was wearing a worn-out coat, and his face was also marked by the wind and food, but we know that his love for his wife was hot.
We often think about what kind of man we should choose when we enter marriage.
At first, we were still very ignorant, but slowly, we learned that when we choose the other half, we must choose a man who can put us on the tip of our hearts and love.
Because such a man can sympathize with our difficulties, understand the heartache of people, and will pay practical actions on the basis of heartache, to let us feel that he really cares about us, not just talking.
Murong Xi said: "Marriage is not only two people facing each other from now on, marriage should be two people holding hands and facing the world together." "A good marriage, a responsible man, will make a woman more and more beautiful under the luster of beautiful love."