We all want to be able to marry a rich man, because it means that our quality of life will improve by a level, and it also means that we will enjoy the better standard of living of others.
In fact, the life of a rich family is not so easy to ask for.
On the short video platform, I saw a lawyer live broadcasting, and when Lian Mai was in the middle of the day, a mother of two children was consulting with the lawyer about marriage issues.
Bao Ma has been married to a man for eight years, and the man's family is in business and very rich.
However, they did not receive a marriage license when they got married, and they did not renew the marriage license until after the birth of their first son.
The house is recorded in the husband's name, and the father-in-law mortgages, that is, the house has nothing to do with the mother.
However, in recent years, the husband has become more and more cold and violent to Bao Ma, and betrayal has appeared repeatedly, and Bao Ma consulted a lawyer to ask how much property she could get if she divorced.
The lawyer made it clear to her that the house was her husband's premarital personal property, that she would not get much of her divorce, and that because she had no financial resources, she might not even be able to fight for custody of her children.
It can be seen that even if they are married to rich people, their life in marriage is not good, but more like a kind of bitterness and helplessness under the fence.
Through research, it was found that those girls who marry into the in-laws' families and have status usually have 3 commonalities.
Have the confidence and capital to choose marriage
As mentioned above, some women want to marry rich people, but when they step into the rich, they find that the original rich daughter-in-law is not so good.
The most fundamental reason is that the door is not right, and the value provided by the two sides is not equal.
If the value is not equal, the status is naturally not equal.
So, what are the women who have status in the in-laws' house?
One thing is clear, that is, they must have the confidence and capital to choose marriage, and the most direct and realistic is the economic conditions.
Although they are not too rich, their financial strength will never allow them to commit themselves to a marriage because of money.
They can choose as they please, and when they feel dissatisfied, they can also discard it, and they will not bend the law because they have no money.
Therefore, they will certainly not be wronged in their in-laws' homes.
As Socrates once said, "A bird standing on a tree never worries that its branches will break, because they believe not in the branches, but in its own wings." ”
Have a blatant preference for the husband
In the past, I felt that as long as women were arrogant in marriage, then the in-laws would not neglect them.
Later, it was not until he entered the marriage hall that he found that the key to determining whether an in-laws' attitude towards women was good or bad was actually the husband's attitude toward women.
TV series "Know it or not. When Sheng Minglan in "Know It or Not" first joined the Hou Mansion, those seven aunts and eight aunts in the Hou Mansion wanted to give her a dismount.
Minglan, who had just arrived, originally wanted to make a good impression on the other party, but Gu Tingye couldn't stand his daughter-in-law being wronged.
Therefore, when the Seven Great Aunts and Eight Great Aunts accused Minglan of not being right, Gu Tingye immediately protected his daughter-in-law, and Yin and Yang were strangely intimidating those relatives.
Several times and three times down, those relatives could not take advantage of not to say, but also touched a nose of ash, slowly, but also knew that Gu Tingye was short, naturally did not dare to casually find stubble.
Socrates once said, "A good marriage only brings you happiness, and a bad marriage makes you a philosopher." ”
The most intimate relationship we have in marriage is with our husbands.
If the husband puts us on the tip of his heart and loves us, the in-laws naturally do not dare to be sloppy.
Know how to please yourself, and you will never bend the curve to seek perfection
Freud said: "In any relationship, we must dare to guard our borders with anger, and people have no anger, just like a country is unarmed." ”
People are good and are deceived, horses are good to be ridden, and suffering losses is a blessing In dealing with gender relations, it is not a universal magic weapon.
Because we will see that in this world, there are people who have to advance, that is, there are people who bully the soft and fear the hard, our tolerance, our more is not as good as less, in the eyes of the other party is just weakness.
The other party will not restrain our viciousness because of our generosity, but will be more unscrupulous.
If, then, marriage is based on one's own self-indulgence to attain so-called peace, then such a marriage loses its meaning of making us happy in the first place.
Therefore, to show their own principle bottom line, the other party violates their own interests to lose their temper, do not be afraid to tear their faces.
If everything is too generous and tolerant, others will not appreciate us, sometimes we should be a little tempered, and we really can't be too gentle and patient with some people.
People are always bullying the soft and afraid of the hard, and the people in this world who can protect us have always been themselves. When we dare to show our swords, others will naturally not underestimate us.