How difficult is Cao Jinxiu? She is a person that even the house fighting master Minglan is afraid of, not because she has any tricks, but because her relationship with He Hongwen is awkward, and sharing a roof with her will cause endless trouble.
At the beginning, Minglan and He Hongwen were almost at the time of talking about marriage, only to be hired, and a Cao Jinxiu was killed in the middle of the way, pestering Minglanna, who was not out of the cabinet, as a concubine, without the slightest consideration for Minglan's reputation.
Looking at the difficult Cao family and the uncertain He Hongwen, as well as the he mother who was bent on defending her niece, Minglan chose to retreat with her whole body, she was not indispensable to He Hongwen, and why should she be wronged herself!
He Hongwen, under the persecution of his mother, took his cousin as a concubine, chose to travel all over the world, visited thousands of mountains and rivers, and left his cousin Cao Jinxiu at home, Mrs. He did not want Cao Jinxiu and He Mother to be a demon together, and forcibly took Cao Jinxiu to her hometown in Baishitan.
Mrs. He did not consult with Mother He, and directly found a family affair for He Hongwen, the girl is also from the family, the door is not high, but the temperament is smooth, spicy and capable, and it is most appropriate for He Hongwen to be the wife of the main house.
After Lady He passed the door, in the first few years, her mother-in-law was there, she also cared about the face of her mother-in-law, leaving some room for Aunt Cao, after the death of her mother-in-law, Aunt Cao was cured to death by Lady He, the wicked always had the evil person grinding, and the difficult Cao Jinxiu was also considered to have met an opponent.
No matter how she cried to her cousin He Hongwen, she could not change half a point, but it caused He Hongwen to dislike her to the extreme, and He Hongwen treated his wife like a guest, but the two people had never loved each other in their lives.
1. The trouble with this marriage
He Hongwen and Minglan had already reached the point of talking about marriage, the two old ladies were close friends in the boudoir, and when they saw that the two children were very compatible in temperament and temperament, they tried their best to match them.
Although he is not a son of an official family, and he does not have the heart to study and take the name of the meritorious name, but the He family is a generation of doctors, hanging pots and the world, very prestigious in the local area, He Hongwen is young, deeply rooted in the true inheritance of his grandparents, has already opened the door to consult.
Old Lady He and his wife loved this little grandson the most, when his father passed away, their old two were worried about the future of their children, so they separated the family early, and the three rooms of the industrial silver were divided out in the morning, and now the old lady he took charge of it, only waiting for the old two to pass away, and then the three houses were equally divided into ancestral inheritance, He Hongwen himself could practice healing, and there was a great uncle and other clansmen who could rely on the official and live worry-free.
And He Hongwen's widowed mother has long been terminally ill, but she relies on her mother-in-law to raise her, bracing herself to see her son start a family, she can't survive for three or five years at most, she doesn't have to stand by the rules when she marries, and she doesn't have to worry about being bullied by her mother-in-law, just waiting in front of the bed for a few years of soup medicine, and she can't stand the mother-in-law's sin.
The grandmother is reasonable and loves her grandson, the mother-in-law is too sick to be a director, the husband is young and humble and respectful, no matter from any point of view, it is an excellent karma, and Minglan is also satisfied with the family carefully selected for her by her grandmother.
But just when the marriage was about to happen, Cao Jinxiu appeared, she was very poor, pestering Minglan and He Hongwen, giving her a place to live, He Hongwen wavered, he was full of expectations to be with Minglan, but his mother and cousin were really pitiful, and he couldn't make a decision for a while.
If you accept Cao Jinxiu, the head daughter-in-law of the He family will be difficult to be a person, Cao Jinxiu's identity is awkward, not an ordinary concubine, can not treat her in a reasonable way, if you tear your face to make trouble, and lose everyone's face, Minglan said the difficulty of being the daughter-in-law of the He family when the mother and daughter of the Cao family argued:
First, marryIng He Hongwen and accepting Cao Jinxiu, cao's mother's identity is not easy to locate in the future, is it to take Cao's aunt as an aunt, or as a concubine's mother? If it was only the concubine's mother, the grandmother was happy, so she let her come in the door to meet her daughter and reward her with a few pieces of broken silver. If Grandma Zhengfang is not happy, she can throw it out without giving half a penny.
Second, the so-called concubine, the upper head is a standing, the lower head is a woman, together, is the standing woman, is the half slave who serves the male and female masters; if the cousin of the Cao family becomes a concubine, is the grandmother of the he family after the house a concubine when she calls, or is it the aunt and cousin of Jin Gui?
Third, even the most expensive concubine is also a concubine, always more than the grandmother of the main house to go, He Hongwen said two more words, less look at a few eyes, all by their own happiness, there will not be an aunt to point out whether it is snubbed and slow to treat is not happy. But the cousin of the Cao family has He Mu on the top and Cao Mu on the bottom, and the daughter-in-law after He Hongwen is not generally difficult!
Although this is the cause of her grandmother's thousand choices, the grandmother said that He Hongwen is very good, but when she was a girl who was not out of the cabinet and was harassed by the mother and son of the Cao family, He Hongwen let her face alone, He Hongwen's attitude was like a blunt knife grinding her, Minglan still hesitated.
Growing up is a painful process, maturity is a last resort, if you can, which girl is not willing to be a princess proudly and brightly all her life, people are not grass and trees, which woman does not hope for a happy marriage, there is no need to pretend to be calm and do not care.
But the world is like a knife, a knife and a knife to destroy the innocence of the girl, grind out the edges and corners, destroy the ambition, become a woman with a vague face, surrounded by pearls, wearing brocade, arranging the life and living of the concubines, taking care of the marriage and dowry of the concubines and daughters, the busyness of a large family inside and outside, and finally being enshrined high on the family's dignity, becoming a cookie-cutter symbol.
Minglan is not a virgin, she does not want to become such a virtuous symbol, every girl has a dream of a lifetime and a couple, perhaps, this is her obsession with He Hongwen, but it is not He Hongwen who must not, this mess will be thrown to others to pick it up!
2. The means of Mrs. He and Grandma He
Minglan found a better choice as she wished, and she married Gu Tingye, the concubine of the Marquis of Ningyuan, a man who regarded her as a treasure and could protect her as well.
He Hongwen was also forced by his mother and the Cao family to take his cousin as a concubine, the Cao family and Cao Jinxiu thought that they had won the overall situation, but they did not know that behind them was their abyss, if they did not press forward step by step, Cao Jinxiu might still be able to live to old age with dignity and peace, but now, it is impossible.
After becoming a relative, He Hongwen threw his cousin to his grandmother for discipline, what kind of a person was Mrs. He, when the room full of concubines was cleaned up by her, there was nothing left, and a cao jinxiu was nothing.
The Cao family tried to marry their daughter to the He family, so they constantly scavenge money from the He family, and the soft-eared He mother could not stand the crying of her sister and Cao Jinxiu, and always secretly carried her mother-in-law and He Hongwen behind her back and gave them the silver.
Mrs. He no longer showed mercy to her daughter-in-law, came to a trick to draw salaries, directly brought Cao Jinxiu to Baishitan, separated the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and warned Mother He and Aunt Cao that if they made trouble again, she would send Cao Jinxiu to the temple, and if the Cao family was entangled again, she would report it to the local yamen, kill it, and fight it.
If the Cao family and Cao Jinxiu are safe and keep to themselves, wait for He Hongwen to have children, and after ten years and eight years, they will send Cao Jinxiu back and let their family be reunited.
She found a good family affair for He Hongwen, the other party is not as good as Minglan regardless of his family lineage, but marrying He Hongwen is the most appropriate, the girl is fierce and spicy, and is a good hand of the housekeeper director.
Mrs. He made full plans for her granddaughter-in-law, just these ten years and eight years, enough for their husband and wife to cultivate good feelings, when the time comes, the children are complete, the husband and wife love, even if the old pearl Cao Jinxiu is sent back, there will be no waves, but give food to eat.
After Grandma He entered the door, Aunt Cao was not around, there was only Mother He and her husband and wife in the family, as for aunt Cao, she could only meet once a year when she returned to her hometown in Baishitan for the New Year, and she was happy to be clean.
She carefully serves her mother-in-law, and the rules and regulations of the family management, whether it is internal management or external socializing, are all handy, and the He family is completely in her hands.
After waiting until her mother-in-law died, she pretended to cry a lot, took Aunt Cao back, and slowly cleaned up, and Aunt Cao was a demon at both ends for three days, clamoring to see He Hongwen.
He Hongwen came back from a long way, a pair of children waited for their father, Cao Jinxiu intercepted halfway, looking at a pair of children, Grandma He was angry from the heart, rolled up her sleeves and walked towards Cao Jinxiu's yard.
Her mother's family is a family of warriors, she has followed her father and brother since she was a child, developed a sword-like violent temper, and without saying a word, turned around and strode out the door. When he stepped out of the threshold, he also threw it down vigorously, and the thick curtain was thrown on the door frame, making a deep "bang".
Aunt Cao was half-exposed, pretending to be weak, and Grandma He pulled open Aunt Cao, who was pulling He Hongwen, and threw herself on the ground, scolding a lot of rude and applicable words in her mouth, and beating her severely.
He Hongwen was already tired of Cao Jinxiu and had no intention of stopping it, so Grandma He took out the evidence that Aunt Cao had given to He Hongwensai's unidentified servant, and used this as an excuse to deal with Aunt Cao fiercely.
It turned out that Cao Jinxiu, in order to plot the he family's property, found a lady who was pregnant with the Cao family's breed to seduce He Hongwen, and as a result, she was caught by Mrs. He and Grandma He and obtained personal stolen goods, and now there is no He mother to intercede for Cao Jinxiu, and the hair is famous and shareable, and outsiders will not say anything.
After Cao Jinxiu was harshly taught a lesson, he stopped, He Hongwen did not go to Cao Jinxiu's house at all, and Grandma He assigned her two "useful" maids and several mother-in-laws who "understood the rules" to serve Aunt Cao well!
Grandma He grew up in the city, there are only two rough people in the family, sometimes have to follow her mother to the street to buy this and that, how much ugly she can scold with her mouth open, Cao's opponent. Moreover, as long as she was famous, no matter how she cleaned up the concubines, Old Lady He was all in favor.
This is also the reason why Mrs. He hired her as a granddaughter-in-law in the first place, in the face of such a dead-faced cousin and noble concubine, such a cowhide candy generally see the sky to fight the autumn wind of the Cao family, such an unreliable mother-in-law - if it is the kind of lady who is upright, or Sven or timid or dignified, I am afraid that not only will the chickens and dogs jump in the family, but the husband and wife will fall out early.
Only her family is like this, both the door is passable, the Yue family can give the son-in-law a certain dependence, and she is rough and strong, the front head cleans up the concubines, the back head squeezes the good mother-in-law, turns around and can also make a loving husband and wife appearance, I have to say that the means and calculations of Mrs. He are not generally clever.
3, the same bed and different dreams, you can also respect each other as guests
However, the appearance of husband and wife love is only for outsiders to see after all, although Grandma He and her husband respect each other as guests, but they know each other, the other party does not have themselves in their hearts.
Grandma He's father was originally a low-grade military attaché stationed in Beijing, and after she was married, he set her a family affair with the right door, and the other family was not only a neighbor for many years, but also a colleague, and the real family was good.
The fiancé's eyebrows were so thick and erect, his eyes were so fierce, and there was only her reflection in the bright and dark eyes. The cold snowflakes fell on her face, and she was completely unaware that her heart had been ironed by the fiery gaze of her fiancé, and she felt that she could melt the snowflakes of the whole world.
Two little guesses, green plum bamboo horses, finally two parents to agree to the fate of the three lives, what a happy day...
However, from the beginning of the later years of Emperor Renzong, several princes and princes successively plotted rebellion, and when The Son ascended the throne, then quelled the chaos. After a few years, there was a rebellion, and then the chaos was put down, and there was chaos inside and outside Gyeonggi. The fiancé must wear armor, and before leaving, the handsome and heroic fiancé lies on the wall, looking at her obsessively and saying goodbye to her:
Early in the morning, I will set off with my father and brothers, and when I return, we will do a happy event, and later, we... we...... Never separate, even if you lose your teeth and have white hair, you will always be together!
Sister, I... I...... Only you in your heart... Never, only you.
Rest assured, I will come back safely, and for your sake, I will come back safely.
As a result, the sky did not follow people's wishes, he could not come back, he died in the chaos of war, the words of the past are still in the ears, and in the spring dream, people have become cold corpses in the grave. No more fiery eyes, no more hearty laughter, fiery and strong arms...
Grandma He's father and brother have made many achievements in this series of changes, not only doing the right thing, but also standing on the right team, and rapidly promoted within a few years. She also changed from a humble daughter of a small low-ranking military attaché to a qianjin with a head and a face, and several brothers also had a good future.
Her father and brother found a number of people who were right in the house, but she refused, and this delay dragged on until she was in her twenties, until the He family came to propose to her. The husband and wife have a good character, and they have learned a good medical skill at a young age, and the He family is also famous, although it is early to hear that Dr. He has a cousin as a noble concubine (the Cao family has made trouble several times).
Thinking that she was not young, old enough to be able to pick and choose, she could not ask her parents and brothers to worry about themselves for a lifetime, so she nodded her head and agreed, no joy, no sorrow.
Married to He Hongwen for many years, her husband treated her very well, even if there was a difficult concubine room, the husband was bent on himself, never for his cousin Aunt Cao for himself.
The couple runs their own small family, has a pair of children, lives a rich and peaceful and busy life, husband and wife respect each other, respect each other, but she knows that her husband does not love her, she does not love her husband, both people in their hearts, there is such a person, remembered for life.
But what does it matter? As an ancient woman, the fate is not in her own hands, to have such a situation, it is already very satisfying, just like this! That's it!
Write at the end
He Hongwen's wife seems to be a pungent woman with great means on the surface, but she digs deep into the essence and is also a tragic figure created for generations.
Even if he does not love his husband, he still has to fight with the concubines with great care, pretending to have children with his husband lovingly, obviously having his own heart, but he can only bury it in his heart.
Because of the tragedy of yin and yang, she can only delay herself into an older leftover woman, with a general family lineage and general conditions, and can only wait for others to pick and choose.
If she can't meet a good person like He Hongwen, maybe she will have to wait until an older woman who becomes thirty years older, and then like Xiao Qin, she can only fill in the house for others and be a stepmother.
Fortunately, fate has spared her after all, which allows her to meet a good person He Hongwen, very suitable, but there is no love, can only towards the common goal, be a couple of partners in marriage, and complete the mission of having children in this life.
And such tragedies are not only in ancient times, but also in modern times, perhaps there was a vigorous love, but because of all kinds of unavoidable separation, and finally found a suitable but not loved person, barely spent the rest of their lives.
Will not be jealous, will not quarrel, of course, will not be moved, everything is plain, the wind and waves are calm, I don't know if it is lucky or sad?