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01. Preface
In life, everyone is like a drop of water.
Some people choose to blend into the river and go with the flow; some people stubbornly hang on the leaves, stubbornly making a crystal clear dew, ushering in the first rays of the morning sun.
Truly excellent women, who like to be alone and live a thin life.
"Thin affection" is a way of living.
Yishu said: "Life is only a few decades, the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others. ”
Everyone has a different personality and a different pursuit. Strong melt into the circle that does not belong to you, and you will live more tired.
Truly excellent people know how to constantly improve themselves in loneliness, constantly shape their own personality, find their own direction and work hard.
Truly excellent women will not give up on themselves in order to fit in, will not lower their bottom line in order to please others, and live a "thin" and comfortable life.
02, unsociable women, interpersonal relationships are thin
Truly excellent women, will not spend too much energy to operate ineffective social networking, in terms of interpersonal relationships, will appear a little "thin".
Shen Cuixi in "Being the Housewife", after her husband Ren Xuetang returned home, knew that his true love was Zeng Baoqin, and resolutely asked to be reconciled with her husband.
She didn't want to be the head of the Ren family anymore, she didn't want to be attached to the Ren family, she didn't want her mother to rely on her children, and she didn't want to rely on any interpersonal relationship to barely survive. She's going to be herself.
After setting up her own portal, opening schools, and participating in silk competitions, she became an even more remarkable woman.
With her own strength, she changed the social atmosphere at that time and greatly improved the status of women.
Truly excellent women, somewhat thin in relationships, don't waste their time and energy for useless socializing. I'd rather be alone with quality than please myself.
Unsociable women, despite not being sociable, have become accustomed to pleasing themselves.
Truly excellent women, not afraid of being ridiculed by others, insist on doing what they like, and live as they like.
03, excellent women, never please anyone
Truly excellent women do not lower their principles and postures in order to please anyone.
Excellent women, adhere to their own bottom line and principles, live calmly and wantonly.
Sheng Minglan in "Knowing or Not", when he was "blind dated" with He Hongwen, began to progress smoothly. But later, He Hongwen's cousin came to the door, hoping that his cousin would take her in, and he was willing to be a slave.
Minglan knew that this woman was He Hongwen's green plum bamboo horse, and if she stayed, then before marrying her as a proper wife, she would first add a concubine, which Was unacceptable to Minglan.
She did not show a generous appearance to please her future husband, but refused very crisply, and even disagreed with the marriage.
Therefore, there was a good relationship with Gu Tingye later.
Truly excellent women will not give up on themselves in order to please anyone and live a life that they hate.
Truly excellent women can not only judge the situation, but also will not easily give in when it is time to defend themselves.
It seems to be a thin emotion, but in fact, it is very sober.
Women have their own bottom lines and principles, and they have always adhered to it, which is a kind of arrogance.
04, good at rejection, is a kind of ability
Excellent woman, good at rejection, seemingly thin affection, but also good at communication.
People who are not good at rejection often have difficulty establishing good interpersonal relationships. People who are not good at rejecting will always ignore their inner feelings and try to please others.
Naturally, no one else can really know her, and they can't really respect her.
People's energy is limited and it is impossible to distribute it to too many people.
Between people, most of them are passing by, and a few are superficially greeting each other. As long as a very small number of friends are invited into their own lives and will cherish in this life.
For circles and people who do not blend in, learning to refuse is a wise choice.
Getting along with others and learning to reject things you can't do, or things you don't like to do, is a sign of being true to your heart.
Truly excellent women, know how to be loyal to themselves, loyal to their own hearts.
Learn to refuse, it seems to be a thin feeling, but others will also know how to get along better with you, know how to better respect you.
05. Summary
Dazai Osamu once said, "I have pleased everyone, but I still have a bad life." ”
On the road of life, a truly excellent woman lives a very thin life.
Women learn to be "thin-hearted" and will have more time for themselves to manage themselves and improve themselves.
Women live a little "thin", learn to refuse, and will have more energy, to fight, struggle, focus on their favorite careers.
Women live a little "thinly", will drive away some hypocritical people, let the real friends stay.
Truly excellent women are not afraid to make choices, and they are not afraid of going black alone. Not to please anyone, to be able to resist temptation, to respect the heart, and to be unique to yourself.
On the road of life, if you learn to "thin affection" a little, you will live more soberly, live more calmly and freely.
The most important thing for people to live is to learn to be loyal to themselves, please themselves, and live as they like.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.