Some people say that when you are weak, everything around you looks strong, but when you become strong, everything around you becomes insignificant.
This statement really makes sense. Some people are very comfortable handling the same thing, but some people feel powerless. It is not determined by the size of the thing itself, but by the person.
Everyone doesn't like the feeling of powerlessness, and when you feel like you can't do anything well, you'll become less and less confident, but if you can handle a lot of things well, your confidence in your heart will become more and more sufficient, and you will become stronger and stronger.
Powerful people, of course, are really powerful people, they endured a lot, experienced a lot, and finally saw through a lot, and became a real human awakening.
Therefore, a really strong person is not born stronger than others, but because they have long quit the three weak thinking.
1 Take others too seriously
I don't know if you have ever thought of a question: "Are you living for others, or are you living for yourself?" ”
I don't know what your answer is, but I do, and you must know the answer to this question clearly.
If you are living for others, then in this life, no matter how well you do, you have not really lived for yourself, and naturally you do not feel the joy that success brings you.
If you're living for yourself, you'll end up being what you want to be, not what others want you to be.
For example, Shen Cuixi in the TV series "The Head of the House", she is the first person in Suzhou Toshi, she is the head of the Ren family, she has been dutiful, afraid that she will not do well, ashamed of the Ren family. However, she often does not understand why people are alive, and when she asks this question, it shows that everything she does is not for herself, but for others.
She always thought that as long as she was recognized by others, her life was meaningful, but when she became more and more miserable, she began to reflect on her previous life, and finally she decisively gave up everything she had in the moment and did what she really wanted to do.
Although there are many difficulties, she is not afraid at all, because when a person is doing what she likes, she has more courage than she thinks.
Indeed, as she said, she lived her own Shen Cuixi, and was no longer the head of the Ren family in the eyes of others. A person who dares to live for himself is undoubtedly a truly powerful person, and Shen Cuixi is naturally the same.
2 Think that love is above all else
In Yi Shu's novel "People Are Light as a Chrysanthemum", the heroine Qiao fell in love with Professor Na Fan, a college teacher during her study abroad. The other person is a family person, but she thinks that as long as she likes him, none of this matters.
After graduating from college, she was really with Professor Navan, as she wished. She thought that as long as she got him, she could not want everything else in the world. However, this was nothing more than her naïve thought at the time, and she thought that her love was above everything, even above herself. But in the end she let go and chose to marry another person.
When she left Professor Nafan, she said she had left not because of another person, but only because she was tired.
At the end of the day, she doesn't want to continue to dwell on a love that she once thought was above all else, a love that, with no results and only hurt, was a mistake from the start.
Some people regard love above all else, such people, in the end, will find that there are too many things in life that deserve our attention, and we can never give up everything for love, for the simple reason: we can't live only on love, we still need to live.
So, a really powerful person, he will no longer think that love is above all else, he will be sincere about love, but he will not be the only one in life.
3 Believe that human destiny is predestined
In Thoreau's Walden, there is a saying: "People live in silence in despair, and the so-called resignation to fate is a deep-rooted despair." ”
A person who believes that his fate is determined by heaven, therefore, they have never thought of changing, such a person, he thinks that man's fate is predestined.
Once a person has such an idea, he will not think of changing the reality through his own power, they think that they can't do it at all, and they are desperate about it.
But the really powerful people will not think like this, in their hearts, people's fate is in their own hands, people's life is completed by themselves, so what they want, they should take the initiative to pursue.
Take the initiative to change the status quo, take the initiative to pursue the life you want, and life will proceed towards what you want.
Kazuo Inamori, a world-famous industrialist, said: "It is difficult for people to do what people want to do – we inadvertently have this view of all kinds of things that happen in life." However, it is precisely because we have the idea that 'if things are not fulfilled, it is life' that it leads to the result of 'things not being fulfilled'. Therefore, an unsatisfactory life arises from your own negative thoughts. ”
In Inamori Kazuo's view, only what is actively pursued can be obtained. If you decide at the beginning that things cannot be done, you will certainly not devote all your energy to treating them, and the result will naturally be impossible.
After Inamori and Kazuo graduated from college, he also ran into a wall of looking for a job everywhere, and then it was difficult to work in a factory through introduction, and as a result, the factory was facing closure, and many other people resigned, but he thought that he had no place to go, and it was better to do the work in front of him, which led to his later achievements.
For work, he believes that as long as a person can treat what he does wholeheartedly, as long as he thinks he can, most of the results will really be achieved.
The above three kinds of weak thinking, really powerful people, have long quit, if you also want to become a really powerful person, then act early.
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