When I did not watch "Being a Housewife", I brushed up on the Internet with relevant information, and many of them mocked Jiang Qinqin for talking about "mother-son love" (even, there was also a call to her grandmother), or evaluation, Jiang Qinqin's sense of beauty disappeared.
Later, I saw the poster of the play and found that Jiang Qinqin did have a sense of beauty and twilight. I stereotypically thought that this drama may not consider the needs of young people, and should belong to the positive dramas that our parents love to chase.
Until I watched it, I found that this is actually a big female protagonist drama, and the main line is still the double female protagonist's career. I couldn't help but be a little surprised.
At the same time, I also feel that although the male protagonists in the play are relatively young (Xu Haiqiao, who plays Uncle Ren, was born in 1983, and Mao Zijun, who plays Wei Lianggong, was born in 1986, with a difference of 8 years and 11 years old with Jiang Qinqin, respectively), the interaction with the female protagonist is not as contrary as some netizens say.
That is, although there is an age difference, their feeling of hand in hand is clear at a glance. Anyway, I saw that it was made in heaven (maybe it is related to my concept of marriage and love, which is not "big man and woman small").
Then I think of Jiang Qinqin's husband Chen Jianbin, who was born in 1970 and played with so many young and beautiful actresses in "The Biography of Zhen Huan", including Tang Yixin in 1987 and Tan Songyun in 1990.
Suddenly, there was some anger.
But was this anger caused by the comments of "The Housewife"? Of course not. It is a reaction caused by many past experiences.
As long as you feel the thoughts and logic in your brain, many women should feel the impact of these standards of "young and beautiful" on them.
I remember when I was twelve or thirteen years old, a girl of the same age said to me: "Thirty is a good age, it is a terrible age, I will kill myself at the age of thirty." ”
In his early twenties, the witty S who saw him in the variety show also had a deep concern for his appearance.
A conversation between her and Cai Kangyong is roughly as follows: Cai Kangyong asks whether to be evaluated ugly or to be evaluated as super stupid, which is more unbearable for girls. S categorically said that it was not good to be evaluated.
Later, with the self-media, there began to have an emotional big V to tell girls: There is only one reason why boys don't accept you, that is, because you look ugly.
It is hard to look forward to the variety show "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", which calls for not being afraid of the world's vision, and there are straight men next to it: How big is the tranquility... yes? That's big! That's an old monster, did it come out to scare people?
All kinds of voices seem to remind you that in many social evaluations, women's appearance value and age value are in the front, even if you have other values, it seems to lack charm.
And those sisters who ride the wind and waves on the stage, in fact, do not care about public opinion beyond the ordinary, and few people can do it while being old and ugly while being heroic.
Yi Nengjing, who is in her 50s, once claimed to spend 7 figures a year on maintenance; Zhang Yuqi said that she would spend about 700,000 yuan on her skin every month.
Although ordinary women (especially ordinary-looking women) do not have the strong spending power of female celebrities, it seems that they can also find several "self-help" paths from other people's remarks and advertisements advocating women's "self-pleasing" - buying expensive skin care products to fight aging, doing medical beauty, learning makeup...
The desire for beauty and sassy, and the anxiety of appearance, in this era, unprecedented expansion.
As everyone knows, when thousands of people chase the "beauty magic", it will make more women fall into the inner volume.
Some are like the very popular Internet strip - Lin Pingzhi printed tens of thousands of copies of the "Sword Spectrum to Ward Off Evil", which is easy for everyone to get. However, the jianghu people are thus deeply tormented: if you don't practice, others will practice and kill you in a second; if you practice, it will be like that, because others will also.
Think of Korean-style eyebrows, internet celebrity pointed chins and other beautification techniques, which may be synonymous with mediocrity and tackiness after experiencing inner volume. And in order to add them to the face, what you paid was the silver of the white flowers.
Seeing such a situation, I occasionally want to ask: Will the value of Bai Youmei be overestimated by people? Will we fall into the trap of consumerism or patriarchy?
For example, some men will fall into the trap of "rich enough to have everything" without knowing it (a former Internet celebrity once said that her male assistant liked Gao Yuanyuan, but when he encountered the problem of "1 million and Gao Yuanyuan, who to choose", he chose 1 million, the reason is: with 1 million, it is not as many as many high yuanyuan as there are).
If the truth is like my hypothesis just now, then women who are particularly eager for beauty are still quite at a loss. Because, what you can indulge in, must be the world you invest the most time and energy into (this quote is quoted from the social platform of writer Han Songluo).
Speaking of this, thinking of chatting with relatives not long ago, my mother said that when she was young, the whole society emphasized "spiritual beauty" and did not care as much about appearance and age as modern girls.
My aunt also said that at that time, there was not much money for dressing, and the appearance anxiety was not serious.
As a result, I suddenly changed my view of Bi Shumin's "Plain Face to the Sky".
Sentences such as "The image wrapped in color is a hypocritical stranger" used to be old-fashioned, but now it is believed that "self-confidence is not inversely proportional to age, just as self-confidence is not directly proportional to beauty, courage is not stored in the face, but in one's own hands" and other statements are quite energetic and cool.
If you think about S, who couldn't stand being called ugly when he was young, he can now deal with "getting old" and "getting ugly" with open-mindedness.
I think these cool words and deeds will subtly affect society to some extent. The same is true of the "big women and small boys" of the TV series "The Head of the House".
In a short period of time, our TV series should not be like the American drama, let the heroine who looks like Lin Yongjian pick the beam. Our big heroine is basically beautiful ~
But even small advances can shake prejudices and stereotypes a bit.
And what we ordinary people can do for this is also there.
For example, when you are young, you do not show superiority in front of older women, recognize, maintain and encourage yourself or other same-sex people to release other values, and do not randomly type "mother-child love" on the keyboard when watching a play...
Author: Xiao Dayu