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In the first half of the whole "Knowing or Not", only one thing is said: a few girls in the Sheng family are looking for their in-laws.
The first episode is when Hua Lan gets married.
Immediately after, others came on the scene and broke their hearts over the marriage of several girls. Everyone's requirements for in-laws are different.
Lin Xiaoniang and Mo Lan were bent on marrying Gao Men, and it was best to stomp Hua Lan under their feet. In their opinion, marrying a high door will sit back and relax.
After Mo Lan got married, Lin Xiaoniang was punished, and the shout in her mouth was also: I am the mother-in-law of the Great Lady of the Earl's Palace!
Of course, the eldest lady also hopes that her daughter will marry Gaomen, and in the matter of marrying her daughter, she and Lin Xiaoniang are also comparing with each other.
The difference is that Lin Xiaoniang wants her daughter to marry Gaomen, in addition to winning over the big lady, but also because she feels that marrying into Gaomen is a very beautiful thing.
At this point, the eldest lady is actually not the same as Lin Xiaoniang. It is naturally good that the daughter can marry a high door, but marrying a small door and a small household, as long as she is happy, she can also accept it, otherwise she will not agree to Rulan marrying poor people and yanjing.
Sheng Hong is more direct, only looking at the character and not looking at the family lineage, so in Mo Lan's marriage, he and Lin Xiaoniang have a big difference.
Contrary to others, the grandmother has always wanted Minglan to marry high, thinking that she is a daughter of a small official family, her status is originally low, married to a high-gate household, and the relationship between various aunts and mothers-in-law should be taken care of, too tired.
Grandmother has been looking for a simple family for Minglan, preferably a small household, so that Minglan can live more comfortably. Because of this idea, I chose thousands of choices, and finally found He Hongwen, who was too simple to be simple.
Rulan and Minglan saw this matter most thoroughly.
It doesn't matter what kind of family lineage he has, such as Lan, so she will not rush to the knot because of the other party's good family lineage, just like Mo Lan, she finally chooses the person who truly loves each other.
In fact, among the four sisters of the Sheng family, only Rulan was married to love. Hua Lan married his father's vanity, Mo Lan married Lin Xiaoniang and his own vanity, and when Minglan married Gu Tingye, he did not have love, but he just felt that this person was a good candidate.
But Minglan saw it very clearly in the marriage.
When the little grandfather looked up to her, her grandmother repeatedly dissuaded her, saying that the county lord and the lady were not easy to get along with, the Qi family was not even, and Minglan married in the past, and life would not be better.
Of course, Minglan knows this, but she still said that she wants to try it for the little grandfather, as long as the little grandfather does not retreat, she will not retreat, and she must be worthy of this love.
Later, the marriage with He Hongwen was originally said to be a good one, and a cousin of Cao was killed in the middle of the way. At that time, my grandmother already wanted to give up, saying that she would find a good family for Minglan again. What Minglan thinks is that marrying people is to get along with the bottom of the character, He Hongwen is at best soft-hearted, the character is not bad, even if there is a cousin Cao, she does not really want to back down.
Married to Gu Tingye, Gu Mansion is known as the Tiger wolf den, and Minglan does not feel afraid.
Regarding marriage, Minglan has two particularly thought-provoking views.
She often said that the world is unpredictable, who knows what will happen in the future, looking at everything today, it is difficult to guarantee that there will be no changes in the future.
Another sentence is: Whoever you marry has a room of affairs.
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These feelings are not casual talk, but the experience that Minglan summed up in the process of discussing relatives and after seeing the marriage of other girls.
For example, Hua Lan, smart and rich, although he is highly married, but the husband and wife are also harmonious. Who knows, the mother-in-law looks at her every day unfavorably, and she is embarrassed everywhere.
Marrying high is difficult for the mother-in-law, just as Lan later married low, it is also difficult for the mother-in-law.
Explain Lan's two relatives, if you marry the little grandfather, your status will be more honorable from then on, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a problem, and everyone will pinch a sweat for her.
Marrying He Hongwen, there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but there is a cousin of Cao, and she will not be worried in the future.
No wonder Minglan would say that whoever marries him has a room full of affairs.
High marriage has the trouble of high marriage, and low marriage has the difficulty of low marriage. In every family, there are all kinds of things waiting to be handled by the head of the house.
Speaking of Shulan, when she first married Sun Xiucai, she saw that Sun Xiucai was young and promising, and she must be extremely satisfied with the Sun family, and she would marry with a rich dowry.
But who knows, after marriage, Sun Xiucai took more than twenty concubines, and also married prostitutes to enter the door, and the mother-in-law was not a fuel-saving lamp, and Shulan was called a slave.
Including He Hongwen, when his grandmother first looked at him, she also felt that his family population was simple, others were good, and knew how to understand women. But who knows, later, a cousin of Cao suddenly appeared, bent on making a concubine for He Hongwen, and since the He family was willing to be held hostage, they stirred up a good marriage.
A little farther away, when the eldest lady married Sheng Hong, she also saw that Sheng Hong was young and promising, but who knows, this guy finally spoiled his wife and killed his wife, so that the big lady was laughed at by others for decades.
It is really unpredictable, no one knows how the marriage that looks like a good full moon will develop in the future, whether there will be domestic violence, whether there will be a small three, and whether it will fall apart.
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When chasing the drama, my biggest feeling is: marriage is a thing, really don't wrong yourself, because you have wronged yourself, not necessarily what will happen in the future.
I often have girls tell me that there are two people who pursue themselves, one with good family conditions and one who is very poor. She is worried that after the family conditions are good, she will spend her heart, so she tends to choose those with bad conditions, feels that the other party is poor, at least will cherish herself, and can grow old with herself.
However, the world is unpredictable, and who knows what will happen in the future. Those who have money may always be loyal, and those who have no money may also cheat and divorce.
Since the future is not easy to say, it is better to grasp the present, if the character of the two people is no problem, there is no particularly difficult person in the family, then choose what you really want to choose in your heart.
Married to rich, there may be contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, married to those who have no money, the same as mother-in-law contradictions, but the way of contradiction is different.
If there is no saying, there is a difficult scripture in the family.
The most important thing is to be mentally prepared to know that at any time in your life, you will encounter a variety of problems, and take the initiative to solve them.
Marriage has the problem of marriage, single has the problem of singleness, high marriage has the problem of high marriage, low marriage also has the problem of low marriage.
If so, why not follow your own wishes?
Even if the final result is not good, but when you choose at the beginning, you will have less resentment in the future.
Therefore, in the case of character, feelings, family relations and other aspects are similar, marriage or try to choose as high as possible, do not worry about this worry, anyway, no matter which choice you make, there are a bunch of problems to solve, do not dare to guarantee that the future will be good.
Minglan finally married Gu Tingye, although there are a lot of things, but she also saw the scenery that ordinary people can't see. If you marry He Hongwen, there are also a lot of things, but throughout her life, she is just a housewife, and it is impossible to see a wider world.