I have seen such a very poignant sentence:
"It only takes a minute to fall in love with someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone."
After a breakup, how long does it take for a woman to forget the man she loved?
The answer is heart-wrenching — maybe you won't forget it for the rest of your life.
01 can not forget, does not mean that there is still affection
Just like Li Zongsheng's song -
"Occasionally I miss him/
Just when he's an old friend/
It also makes me sad and makes me worry/
It's just that there is no longer a spark in my heart/
Let the past go with the wind."
However, not forgetting does not mean that there is still affection.
It's just that with the man who once loved, I experienced youth, experienced growth, experienced romance, experienced quarrels, experienced regrets, and experienced a beautiful and heartache experience in life.
This memory, occasionally remembered, sometimes the bottom of the heart will be warm, sometimes will be happy, sometimes will want to be at that time to insist on it, will there be a different life.
But only occasionally, it will not have any impact on the current life, but will allow itself to deal with the current emotional life more maturely.
Can't forget, just because I once had it.
02 Can't forget, doesn't mean you still remember
As the saying goes: "If you are not afraid of thieves, you are afraid of thieves." ”
Will women still worry about the men they once loved?
No.
A woman with normal emotions knows that a breakup is a breakup, and after the breakup, it is ambiguous but it hurts herself, hurts the other party, and hurts the current lover.
It's normal not to forget your ex, but it's not authentic to remember your ex.
No matter what the reason for breaking up, the division is the division.
Unless you're going to get back together, it's the phrase "the best exe is like death" that quits each other's lives.
Don't worry, not only let go of the other party, but also let go of yourself.
In the TV series "Know It or Not", the love between Minglan and XiaoGongye is difficult for many viewers!
But as wise as Minglan, he can completely put down Qi Heng in his heart after working hard for this relationship, and never worry about him again, no longer worry about the love he once had.
Even when Qi Heng lost his wife and went to the door again to ask for a meeting, Minglan explicitly refused and closed the door.
Even when Minglan had married Second Uncle Gu, Qi Heng still kept thinking about her and could not live her life well.
In the face of this man he once loved deeply, Minglan was able to cut through the iron, and even told him with absolute emotion that the past was over, and now they all had to live their own lives, and life still had to look forward.
Minglan will never forget Qi Heng in his life, and when he sees the object of his love again, that porcelain doll, he will also be confused, he will also be out of his mind, he will also think of his girlhood, and he will also...
But it's just something you can't forget.
03 Can't forget to know how to cherish
I've seen a sentence like this:
"The gains and losses of the previous relationship will eventually be consummated in the next relationship."
The intimacy that arises from love is the first "healing" of the inner emotional world.
In psychology, in front of our lover, we will unconsciously show our "inner child", the emotional trauma we experienced in childhood, and our desire to be satisfied in our lover.
People with the ability to reflect, after falling in love, will know themselves well, analyze their hearts, and let themselves grow.
After breaking up with the man you once loved, you know your personality and your needs better.
Will understand what kind of lover is suitable for themselves, when the next relationship comes, they will know how to understand, know how to communicate, and will know how to cherish.