People who can pretend to be stupid are the real high emotional intelligence

In front of smart people, what to do so as not to be seen through?

There is only one way, that is: to tell the truth, put away all the hypocrisy and sharpness, and honestly be yourself.

It can also be considered as "pretending to be honest", even if the heart is similar to spiegel, it also pretends to be ignorant.

This is the real high emotional intelligence, but also a kind of "cruel" approach, just like Minglan in "Know It or Not" who pretends to be stupid but is doted on by Mrs. Sheng.

Minglan, who pretends to be stupid, is the "cruel person"

In "Knowing or Not", Minglan is a person who does not have any sense of existence, although she has a beautiful appearance, she also has a transparent heart, and has a keen insight into everything.

But she pretended not to understand anything, never wanted to stand out, and never wanted to show herself.

Once, Minglan and a few little sisters were enjoying the flowers, and a few bees flew over, frightening several little sisters into losing their color and screaming.

Minglan was not afraid of these bees, but in order to keep pace with the little sisters, she also pretended to be frightened.

She did this not out of hypocrisy, but to protect herself.

As a Minglan woman, if she wants to live safely and safely without attracting the attention and jealousy of others, she can only hide the light and sharpness in her heart, and do not compete for all the limelight.

Or it is not that there is no dispute or no grab, but that it knows that it cannot be fought, that it cannot be grabbed, and that it simply "does not concern oneself and hangs high."

Another time, Qi Heng chased Minglan to show love in a courtyard where few people came, and Minglan drove him away with a look of disgust and asked him to leave quickly, and he didn't hear anything.

Speaking of Qi Heng, but Mo Lan tried hard to get close, Ru Lan is also a young talent with hungry eyes, why does Minglan refuse to favor him?

Of course, Minglan was impressed by Qi Heng, who was rich, handsome and well-cultivated, but she understood this person, and she couldn't afford it.

First, identities are different. Qi Heng was a prominent concubine of the royal palace, and she was only the daughter of a minor official of the Five Pins, and the door was not right;

Secondly, Qi Heng's mother did not look up to the Sheng family at all, and even if Minglan had a thousand knots in her heart, she could only quickly cut through the mess;

In the end, the two sisters above Minglan were worried about Qi Heng, but they couldn't ask for it, if she accepted Qi Heng's love, then she would die an ugly death.

The wise Minglan, well versed in this truth, so he hid from a distance, first let himself live, and then the quality of life, this is wisdom.

No one is really stupid, nothing more than not wanting to put it bluntly

Like a sentence: no one is really stupid, just pretending to be stupid.

For Minglan, this is also the case, she can carry all the strengths clearly, she will hide from all the favors again and again, and she will not open her heart to everyone, only for Mrs. Sheng, she is telling the truth.

As early as when Mrs. Sheng wanted to pick a granddaughter to raise in front of her, compared to Rulan saying that it was because her mother asked her to come, Mo Lan said a lot of high-sounding words, Minglan's answer was naïve and true:

Father said that when the old lady is sick, there is no one to accompany, someone to accompany, the old lady will not be sick, sick to take bitter medicine, the old lady should not be sick.

This sentence is all true, but the words are heartfelt.

Completely consider from the perspective of Mrs. Sheng, first understand the loneliness of the old lady, then move people with emotion, and finally express determination.

All feelings have been said, and there is no trace of expression of concern and their own position. Especially in front of Mrs. Sheng, Minglan never thought of hiding anything from herself, what she thought in her heart, and what she said on her mouth.

In fact, Minglan is not ignorant of flattery and flattery, but as her daughter-in-law, she has no mother since she was a child, and she has not been loved by her father, plus there is a strong concubine Wang Clan, and there is also Aunt Lin who has a lot of heart and eyes.

Once Minglan went to scramble, it was likely that he had just performed himself for one second, and the next second he was suppressed.

Therefore, Minglan wants to live, and if he wants to live longer, he can only see through it, see through it, and still pretend to be ignorant. There is a passage in the book that reads:

Minglan covered her ears while selling stupid disguises, secretly looked at Wang's family, found that she did not seem to be unhappy, some reassurance, and then went to see Rulan and Molan, but saw that their faces were slightly stiff, Minglan's heart sank, she knew very well that her days as an ignorant child were running out.

It is not that Minglan is unwilling to fight and grab, it is not that she naturally likes to seek perfection, but "my life is not up to the sky." In other words, her little life is in the hands of others.

If she is desperate to show herself and say everything she sees, then there is only one end: being killed.

Pretending to be stupid in front of smart people is high emotional intelligence

Minglan only had "his own people" to tell the truth in front of Mrs. Sheng, and to tell the truth, he never reserved any of his own ideas.

This is actually Minglan's most ruthless move, and it is also an artifact of her self-preservation.

Old Lady Sheng is such a resourceful and intelligent person, even Sheng Hong, who is quite deep in the city government, is not her opponent, but Old Lady Sheng and Minglan are very similar, that is, they can see through and do not say it thoroughly, and pretend to be stupid.

Sheng Hong was originally an ungrateful person who only wanted to get rich for his own promotion, and Mrs. Sheng spent most of her money and connections for Sheng Hong to help him go through his career.

When he flew yellow and Tengda, he turned a blind eye to Mrs. Sheng, and on the surface he respected her, but in fact, he did not take this useless old lady into his eyes.

Otherwise, he would not have had no scruples about stealing joy with Aunt Lin, whom Mrs. Sheng trusted, under the eyes of the old lady, and also had a child, so that his wife Wang Clan hated Mrs. Sheng, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law continued to deteriorate.

Even more arrogant and indulgent to Aunt Lin, aunt Lin did not pay attention to the old lady Sheng who raised her, and even more provoked the original lady Wang.

These old ladies of Sheng knew it, and they would be discouraged, stranding themselves to the point of being cold, ignoring anyone and anything.

It wasn't until Minglan came to the old lady that her cold heart was little by little disturbed by Minglan's truth. Mrs. Sheng has experienced all kinds of big winds and waves, and what kind of deception I have understood is in her chest, and what she lacks is sincerity and sincerity.

Of course, the cruel Person Minglan saw through all this, so she simply stopped hiding herself in front of the old lady, said anything, and directly became a transparent person in front of the old lady.

Minglan is not stupid, the reason why she will be so honest with Mrs. Sheng is because she understands that Mrs. Sheng can see through everything, she does not need to use countless lies to please her grandmother, the best way is: tell the truth.

From this point of view, Minglan is really fierce, her fierceness lies in understanding current affairs, her fierceness lies in quietly pleasing, her fierceness does not fight about anything, and everything wins the overall situation.

Old Lady Sheng is her "tree hole", in front of others she is the humble Minglan, only in front of Old Lady Sheng, she is the luminous body of the original self, the true self.

In this way, Minglan's good life is inevitable, and her tolerance for herself is fierce, and it is this fierceness that allows her to continue to surpass one peak after another in her life.