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Society is very simple, complex is people, want to mix in the complex crowd like a fish, then you must let yourself learn to be strong inside, as the saying goes, "trees do not bark will die, people do not face the world invincible." It is difficult to stand firm in society if the heart is too weak, and its embarrassment will bitter itself, its own life and family.
Therefore, as a person, you must be strong in your heart, and people who are strong enough in their hearts can cope with all kinds of human feelings and sophistication, and they are like fish in the water in the reality full of human feelings and sophistication.
Are you too weak inside? If you have some words, you must slowly change them and make your heart stronger
01· Give you a little comfort and you will be touched for a long time
You are too kind, you are always considered to be right when you help others, and others give you a little comfort and you are touched for a long time, and even swear to obey others.
This kind of personality that is too easy to be touched by others should be quit, just like marriage, others have deceived you and given you a little comfort, you have compromised with the person who deceived you, which is equivalent to giving others a reason to continue to deceive you, such a marriage can not last at all.
02. When others say something unpleasant to you, you will be wronged for a long time
People with soft hearts have been wronged for a long time by saying a bad word, and they are always wondering why others say this about me? I didn't do anything wrong, why do others say bad things about me behind my back? ...... Even has been sad without a few words from others!
In fact, people who love to gossip about others don't even know why they like to gossip about others so much, either because they don't like others, or they don't like others, or they look down on others, or they find a sense of superiority for themselves... Anyway, they just like to gossip about others, and we can't make them shut up, can we? Some innocuous gossip, by them, ignore them is.
Who is behind the people who no one says, which one does not say behind the people? If you want to be happy, don't care too much about the gossip of others, anyway, who can't get used to you, no matter how you are, they all say you, why care too much? Go your own way, let them say it, it is some innocuous gossip, and people with strong hearts simply ignore it.
03· Do not dare to turn face with others, and always think of reconciling with others when they have conflicts with others
Are you always afraid to fall out with others in life? Everything is let others, but the result is to let others get inching forward, and then even if others have conflicts with you, you still want to reconcile with others!
Such an abusive good person personality is very bad, it is easy to be bullied, the more you tolerate others the more you think you are bullied, the more you are not afraid to fall out with others, the more they dare not fall out with you, because they also know that your personality is not good.
04. Sorry to ask someone for help
In life, some people are embarrassed to find someone to help, even if they need the help of others very much, they don't know how to open their mouths, because they are embarrassed to find someone to help, many things are finally carried down by themselves, how tired people live!
When others see that you need help from others, you are embarrassed to ask others to help, and many people will not respect you because of your embarrassment, but will think that you are stupid!
05. I'm sorry to say no
People with soft hearts are embarrassed to refuse others, such as others asking you to borrow money, you know that others will not pay you back, and you still borrow under the influence of others pretending to be pitiful or stalking.
Your heart is too soft, as soon as you see others pretending to be pitiful, you can't bear it, as if you become a sinner if you don't lend it to others, and you always don't have the courage to turn your face to others.
06 · Always angry and dare not turn his face
In life, have you always been scolded and beaten by others, counted down, or dare not turn your face with others? You are willing to be angry and do not dare to turn your face to others, you have been holding your breath to live.
You may be angry with your relatives, relatives, friends or elders, but it doesn't matter who you are! I think it is time to turn the other cheek or turn the other cheek, turning the face does not necessarily make the relationship stiff, but it will definitely make you feel good, you dare not turn the other cheek and do not see that your relationship will be good, so the courage to turn the other cheek may not be able to make you happy or make the original bad relationship better.
07· Always expect that the person who hurt you will no longer hurt you
I've seen people who are miserable, always expecting those who hurt them not to hurt them anymore, and even expecting that those who hurt them will apologize to them.
For example, the original family prefers sons to daughters, girls are either beaten or scolded when they are young, and when they grow up, they will be constantly asked, and the girl's heart is always unable to accept the fact that the original family does not love her, she always longs for the original family to love her, but the original family only wants to continue to ask for her!
So, if someone hurts you, don't expect the person who hurt you to apologize to you, they generally won't. For example, the original family, you have suffered a lot of trauma in the original family, the parents prefer sons to daughters or always ask for you, then you do not expect them to no longer hurt you, do not expect them to apologize to you, that is impossible.
Because they think they're not wrong, you can only change yourself away from the person who hurt you and make yourself. No more being hurt by them
08. Conclusion
Although the reality is simple, but the human heart is not simple, we are not dealing with reality in reality, but with people's hearts, and all kinds of people must be strong in the heart, so that we can make ourselves happy in the human world.
Especially people who are too weak in their hearts, they must learn to strengthen their hearts, and their inner strength is thick enough, and they can easily play all kinds of dealings.