In middle age, women who have learned to "be self-made and amorous" are very smart

When I first came into contact with the term "self-made sentimentality," I always put it in the midst of negative emotions.

In the encyclopedic interpretation, self-indulgence means self-righteousness, or imagining oneself as the person one's favorite.

Usually, self-indulgence can cause unnecessary embarrassment, such as when we think the other person likes us and get complacent, and the other person is not cold to us at all.

At this point, we will be embarrassed by such self-indulgence.

In the philosophical category, we can know that everything in this world has two sides, existence is reasonable, and everything has its good side and its bad side.

In the same way, the same is true of self-indulgence.

Although in the literal sense of the word, it is self-righteous, but from another point of view, it is also the embodiment of a person's inner self-confidence.

Because you believe that you are good enough, you will think that your qualities are enough to attract others to like you.

And what we need is this kind of confidence that is not disturbed by others.

Therefore, in middle age, women who have learned to "be self-made and amorous" are actually very smart.

Because of "self-made sentimentality", he is strong in his heart and has no fear of wind and frost

As mentioned above, self-indulgence is a manifestation of a person's inner self-confidence.

Because of self-confidence, they will recognize their own value, and this value can also attract others to pay attention to themselves.

From another point of view, the reason why people are confident is actually from the strength of their hearts.

They will not care about the eyes of others, nor will they understand what kind of person they are from the mouths of others, they will only care about what kind of person they are in their own eyes.

They can calmly accept the coming of the storm and the setbacks that come from life.

What if it fails? What about embarrassment?

As long as you don't care about the pointing and pointing of others, you won't feel that these things will become a shackle that hinders your progress.

Strong in heart, not afraid of wind and frost, how to see the rainbow without experiencing wind and rain.

Every storm is a baptism of self, and polishing again and again will only make you a better self.

Because of "self-indulgence", he is sober and independent, calm and heavy

Nourishing the heart is more expensive than quiet, and indifferent is suitable for sex.

The meaning of this sentence is that if a person wants to cultivate his heart, the most important way is to be quiet, to recuperate himself, to stay away from the hustle and bustle of the world.

In a quiet place that is not disturbed by others, reflect on yourself, listen to your inner voice, and follow the call of your heart.

There is a saying in the Book of Commandments: "The journey of a husband and a gentleman is to cultivate himself quietly, and to cultivate virtue through thrift." Non-indifference is not clear-sighted, non-tranquility is not far-reaching. ”

That is to say, only by quietly cultivating herself can a woman cultivate herself.

And this, need women to understand a truth, that is, friends in the quality is not in the quantity, low-quality social is far less than high-quality touch.

In order to make themselves seem more gregarious, many people will blindly integrate into a group, follow each other's twitter, and cope with the embarrassment of those chickens and ducks.

However, in the end, they will find that this is to promote the communication of interpersonal relationships, which is just a waste of time and years.

As a result, they began to go alone, and there were fewer and fewer friends, and those who remained were close friends who could be relied on and who could promote each other.

A sober and independent life can make us see a lot of truths, such as life lies in rich quiet, such as good things and many grinding, only quiet can improve themselves.

Communicating with the spirit of heaven and earth alone is the principle followed by those who are "self-made and sentimental.".

Because of "self-indulgence", he is psychologically mature and pleases himself

In the second half of life, the enemy is actually only himself.

For women, after they get married, it seems that they have no time of their own, they have to marry and teach their children, they have to take care of the family, and there is little time left for themselves.

They seemed numb, circling the stove all day, but they never thought about themselves, refused to live for themselves.

Such a way of life is never wise.

So, how do smart women live at this stage of middle age?

They must know how to please themselves, and although family is important, marriage is important, no one stipulates that a woman's energy must be allocated to these things.

Career, self, hobbies, these are also the places where we need to spend energy.

Therefore, smart women will choose to live for themselves at this stage of middle age and make themselves happy, comfortable and happy.

Bo Bonnie once said a sentence in "Strange Story": "No doctrine is greater than your life, no value can kidnap your freedom, you are a woman, you love how to come, how you are comfortable to live." ”

And only when people know how to love themselves and please themselves can they usher in the beginning of a lifelong romance.