The long novel "Do You Know If It Should Be Green Fat Red Skinny" is written about the parents of the upper class of the Song Dynasty, but the wisdom of life contained in it can make me and other small people use a lot.
In particular, in the original novel, the various forms of women's lives have been described in many ways, almost covering the sentient beings in the real society.
It is said that marriage is a woman's second reincarnation. But the outcome of the second reincarnation, in addition to the woman's own personality and family lineage, also depends to a large extent on the woman behind the woman - the mother.
The mother's personality, vision, and strategy determine the direction of the daughter's second reincarnation. Or make a bad card a good card, or tear a good card into a bad card.
Today, the author will analyze the influence of the mother on the daughter's marriage in the original work, Wang Ruofu's influence on the marriage trend of his daughter Hualan and Rulan, and what Wang Ruofu's mother and Mrs. Wang did to Wang Ruofu and his sister Kang's aunt.
Wang Ruofu and Aunt Kang are sisters, and their father is Hubu Zuo Shilang. The royal family has been in the air for generations, and the civil officials are clear.
Wang Ruofu once said that his father was worthy of the Taimiao Temple. Wang Ruofu's mother also said that when her husband left office as an official, he received several umbrellas for the people.
It can be seen from this that there is no real person in the original work of Knowing Whether or Not, only living in the crowd, and the deceased Attendant Wang Wang is a competent and good official.
But a good and competent official is not necessarily a good father with insight. Judging from the fact that both Wang Ruofu and Aunt Kang did not have much culture, the head of the Wang family did not pay much attention to the education of his daughter.
Of course, the mainstream of feudal society is that women are talentless and virtuous. Lord Wang was obsessed with the affairs of the imperial court, and he could barely forgive his daughter for neglecting to teach.
But The wife of Lord Wang, the mother of Wang Ruofu and Aunt Kang, Mrs. Wang could not blame herself for this.
In the original work, it was mentioned that when Mrs. Wang was young, she had a lot of upheavals with her husband who was an official. Because he did not have time to take care of his younger daughter Wang Ruofu, he sent Wang Ruofu to his uncle's house for foster care.
Wang Did not return to his parents until he was 10 years old. Although his parents had completed the primitive accumulation of official capital at this time, they were very fond of Wang Ruofu.
But in Wang Ruofu's heart, he always felt that his parents were alienated from him, and he was not as loving as he was for his sister.
Wang Ruofu's feeling is correct, although they are all his own daughters, in Mrs. Wang's heart, she feels that the eldest daughter who has been raised by her side since childhood, Wang Ruoyu, that is, Aunt Kang, is more intimate.
Even in marriage, Mrs. Wang also let the eldest daughter choose first. At first, the Kang family and the Sheng family went to the Wang family together to propose to the family, and originally Mrs. Wang wanted to let the eldest daughter marry Sheng Xuan.
However, the eldest daughter, Wang Ruoyu, felt that the Kang family was higher and the Foundation of the Sheng family was too shallow. Except for a concubine, Mrs. Sheng, the Sheng family, carried the banner of brave and resolute waiting for her only daughter, and was lackluster.
Therefore, Wang Ruoyu, who is smart and well-behaved, chose the Kang family. Although the Sheng family lineage is shallow, Sheng Xuan is dignified and enterprising, and Mrs. Wang also likes it.
Under the strong impetus of Mrs. Wang's bitter mouth, Wang Ruofu, who had thick lines and no ideas, agreed to the marriage of the Sheng family and married Sheng Xuan.
No matter how crazy the promises made before marriage, life after marriage cannot avoid a chicken feather. From the relatives of the emperor to the pawns of the peddlers, there is no exception.
Wang Ruofu's marriage to Sheng Shao is a low marriage, and Sheng Shao needs the relatives and friends of the Wang family to be well-recommended in the official field, so Wang Ruofu is a bit strong in front of Sheng Shao, often not giving her husband face, so that her husband cannot get off the stage.
Sheng Xuan is a person who struggled to read poetry and books from a young age, with a proud heart and advocating the integrity of a reader. Under Wang Ruofu's pressure again and again, his heart gradually became cold.
As a result, shortly after the birth of the eldest daughter Hua Lan, Sheng Xuan and Lin Jiaoshuang, who lived at home, had a flirtation with each other and secretly communicated with the song.
The appearance of Lin Wanshuang became the biggest obstacle to Wang Ruofu's married life, and it was also the biggest obstacle in her relationship with Sheng Shao and his wife, which made her feel uncomfortable for many years.
The daughter encountered such great difficulties, did Mrs. Wang do anything? Of course. Mrs. Wang sent the Liu Kun family, who had followed Wang Ruofu since childhood, to the Sheng family.
Friends who have seen the original book must be no stranger to Liu Kun's family, that is, the woman who desperately pulled Wang Ruofu's clothes behind her back when Wang Ruofu broke out in thunder anger.
Yes, The youngest daughter, Mrs. Wang, knows that the younger daughter is a straightforward, somewhat superficial and even stupid person.
Therefore, the Liu Kun family, who has a deep affection for his daughter and is a safe person, was sent to Wang Ruofu's side, reminded from time to time, and pointed out advice.
Liu Kun's persuasion of Wang Ruofu rarely worked. But she was still able to slowly penetrate through the spring wind and rain when she was around Wang Ruofu.
In particular, Wang Ruofu listened to the instigation of his sister Aunt Kang and poisoned Old Lady Sheng. When Changbai returned, he severely punished his mother. Wang Ruofu cried so much that he couldn't love him.
The incarnation savior of the Liu Kun family took the initiative to ask Wang Ruofu to accompany him back to his hometown. He also painted a beautiful picture of Wang Ruofu under house arrest - to go sightseeing and water to nourish himself.
The words of The Liu Kun family made Wang Ruofu, who had been crying all day, burst into laughter. At that moment, Liu Kun's family was not a servant or a friend to Wang Ruofu, but the most reliable warmth from her mother's family.
Although Wang Ruofu had a rough personality and a temper, ten cows could not be pulled back. But with Liu Kun's family around, he can't make a big mistake and can't eat a big loss.
Letting liu Kun's family accompany Wang Ruofu is Mrs. Wang's plan for her younger daughter. It can be seen from this that Mrs. Wang is not a superficial woman who has no knowledge and strategy.
But Mrs. Wang's most beloved eldest daughter, Wang Ruoyou, the head of the Kang family, was not so clever at disposing of the problems encountered after marriage.
After Wang Ruohe married into the Kang family, because her husband was lustful, he got a room full of warblers and swallows. He also gave birth to his children during the national mourning period, committing a taboo in the official arena, and his future was gradually declining.
The arrogant Wang Ruohe, in order to compete for the wind and jealousy, and stabilize the position of the head of the house, acted more and more fiercely - hurting the fetus in the concubine's womb, even killing the concubine, and openly betraying the children in disguise.
If Wang Ruo and Aunt Kang do these things that hurt nature and reason, Mrs. Wang is not unaware, nor does she know that it is wrong to do so.
The reason why Wang Ruohe dared to do this was because of the great power of his mother's family and the love of his mother. She believes that she will do the next great disaster, and her mother will cover up for her and settle her.
Wang Ruohe knew her mother, and she calculated correctly that Mrs. Wang had indeed become an accomplice and booster for her daughter to go farther and farther away because she loved her daughter.
If Mrs. Wang had made a painstaking effort to teach her a lesson when her daughter had committed the first great calamity, Wang Ruohe would not have done anything to encourage Wang Ruofu to drug Mrs. Sheng.
Mrs. Wang was once a woman who started a business with her husband, and her insights and strategies were online. After Mrs. Sheng was poisoned, Mrs. Wang was so clever in the Sheng family that she fainted in a few rounds.
If it weren't for Minglan always staying sober, he pointed out to the point that Mrs. Wang was stealing the concept of greed. I was afraid that Sheng Xuan would cry bitterly and kneel down in the hall to express his gratitude to Mrs. Wang.
But such an old lady who is well-informed, will judge the hour and size up the situation, and can even grasp the art of war. But because he loved his daughter, he eventually killed his daughter.
Mrs. Wang's favorite and most distressed is the eldest daughter Wang Ruohe, but the way of love is not right. If Wang Ruo and her married life is unfortunate, what Mrs. Wang should do is to help her daughter find a way to live a good life.
If the son-in-law is really not a tool, there is still and away from the choice. But Mrs. Wang did not actively find a way to help her daughter cope with these problems.
Wang Ruohe has been arrogant and indulgent since he was a child, and never reflects on things. She blamed the misfortune of her marriage on her parents choosing the wrong son-in-law.
Mrs. Wang acquiesced to Wang Ruoyou's accusations. With the psychology of atonement, he is unwilling to blame his daughter and make her realize her problems in marriage.
Instead, he did everything possible to use all his strength to help his daughter clean up the mess. Even if Wang Ruo and the husband and wife relationship that affected her son and her son's career promotion, Mrs. Wang did not care.
Mrs. Wang's arrogance and doting on Wang Ruohe eventually pushed her daughter onto the road of no return. It also implicated the Wang family and ruined the old lady's first heroic name.
As a beacon, Mrs. Wang's guidance for her two daughters, Wang Ruofu and Wang Ruohe,000 years after marriage has produced very different results, which is related to feelings and ability.
Compared with the mother who was lost in her heart by the heart of her beloved daughter, Wang Ruofu's guidance to her daughter's married life is entirely a matter of ability.
Wang Ruofu grew up with his uncles and aunts who were in business, and belonged to the children who were raised in the stock. Coupled with the fact that there is not much culture, so she thinks about the problem, which is superficial and inevitably superficial.
Wang Ruofu gave birth to two daughters, the eldest daughter Hua Lan and the fifth girl Ru Lan. The eldest daughter, Hua Lan, was married to Yuan Wenshao, the second son of the Zhongqin Earl's Palace.
When they mentioned their relatives, the Yuan family showed contempt for the Sheng family. At this time, as a mother, if Wang Ruofu resolutely stopped it, this family affair would not come to fruition.
But Wang Ruofu was soft and had no idea. After a few sweet words from her husband, she suddenly changed her mind and agreed to the marriage.
After Hua Lan married into the Yuan family, her life was very unsatisfactory. The mother-in-law is partial to the eldest son, and the husband is weak and unwilling to help Hualan out.
Hua Lan, at the behest of Wang Ruofu, seized the stewardship of the Yuan family. In Wang Ruofu's concept, seizing the right to manage is equivalent to occupying the top of the family pyramid.
But the Yuan family only had the name of a count, which was actually an empty shelf. In order to maintain the superficial brilliance of the Yuan family and not let people gossip, Hua Lan could only use his dowry to supplement it.
If it weren't for Mrs. Sheng's heartache for Hua Lan and let her throw away her housekeeper's rights, don't want this thankless hot potato, Hua Lan's dowry would probably be lost.
Mrs. Sheng not only asked Hualan to hand over the right to be a housekeeper, but also invited her girlfriend, the apricot forest master, Tony He to condition Hualan's body.
Under the care of her grandmother, Hua Lan gave birth to the ballast stone concubine Shi Ge'er, and gained a firm foothold in the Yuan family. Later, Hua Lan closed her husband's heart and harvested full of happiness.
But all this has nothing to do with Wang Ruofu, the birth mother who should have been the chief director of her daughter after marriage; it all depends on Hua Lan having a far-sighted grandmother.
Wang Ruofu not only did not play a good role in the married life of the eldest daughter HuaLan, but also made a big mistake in the marriage of the younger daughter Rulan.
After Ru Lan saw gao's sister's life in the Zhongqin Bo Mansion, she made up her mind not to marry a high-ranking household, and she took a fancy to a poor son, and her father Sheng Xuan originally gave Wen Yanjing in Mo Lan's face.
For the younger daughter's lack of ambition, although Wang Ruofu hated it to the root of her teeth, when her daughter got married, she still did her best to accompany the rich dowry.
Not only that, Wang Ruofu also bought a large mansion for his daughter in the capital. But it was this big mansion that made Rulan suffer a lot.
When Mrs. Sheng learned that Wang Ruofu had bought a big mansion for Rulan, she immediately pointed out bitterly that this was Wang Ruofu's miscalculation:
Hurt the daughter, just pave the silver, let the little couple live quietly, quietly enjoy the blessings, why is it so public? Send such a big house? Isn't that eye-catching?
Mrs. Sheng's worries are not empty. Sure enough, seeing that her son lived in a huge mansion, Wen Yanjing's mother immediately made a decision-
Moved into a mansion and lived with her son and daughter-in-law. In a good name, the son and daughter-in-law are young and ignorant, and she comes to help the lining.
Rulan, who was raised in the Sheng family, originally asked for a simple and happy married life. But as soon as the mother-in-law came, Rulan's ideals all came to naught.
Rulan's mother-in-law is a superficial person. She lives in the Sheng family's room and enjoys the blessings of the Sheng family, but she has no gratitude, but instead puts up her mother-in-law's money, and she is difficult as Lan at every turn.
This big house where Wang Ruofu was kind enough to do bad things brought a lot of trouble to his daughter Rulan. Of course, it also promotes the growth of Rulan.
After Rulan got married, under the pressure of real life, she gradually changed her reckless and unwilling to calculate personality, learned to show weakness, and learned to win over her husband's heart.
But this was not Wang Ruofu's original intention as a mother, nor was it Wang Ruofu's plan for his daughter. It can only be said that it is crooked.
From the experiences of Mrs. Wang, Wang Ruofu, Wang Ruohe, Hua Lan, and RuLan, it can be seen that after a girl marries, the arrangement of her married life and the problems encountered in marriage need the guidance of her mother.
Whether the direction of the mother's guidance is correct and how effective it can be, in addition to personal insight and strategy, it also requires the mother's sobriety.
Wang Ruofu did not help his daughter's married life much, but was limited to her own ability. Belongs to the lack of spare strength, belongs to the forgivable list;
And Mrs. Wang's behavior of knowing that her eldest daughter Wang Ruohe is not right, but she is blinded by feelings and aiding and abetting abuse, is shallow and stupid.