In the chapter "Countermeasures", Sheng Shao mentions Sheng Changfeng's marriage, and learns that Sheng Shao's colleague Liu Ming wants to marry his second daughter to Sheng Changfeng as a wife, not to mention Wang Ruofu, even Mrs. Sheng and Sheng Minglan feel incredible.
Although Liu Ming is a colleague of Sheng Shao, his official position is not high, but his family is prominent, he is a descendant of the Liu clan of Yanzhou, a true generation of scholars and eunuchs, and a family of prestige that has lasted for one or two hundred years.
Since the former dynasty of the Yanzhou Liu family, the clan has never been broken, two from one pin and three from the second pin, and its subordinates have been countless officials, although they have never been extremely popular subjects or feudal officials, but they are also generations of hairpins.
When it comes to the Liu family lineage, Sheng Xuan feels envious. That is to say, as the concubine of the Liu family, the Liu family can match Sheng Changbai, which is all right. However, Liu's parents were willing to marry their daughter to a concubine, only because in their eyes, whether they were rich and prosperous, their faces were not as good as their daughter's happiness.
Liu Shixiao married Sheng Changfeng, but Sheng Changfeng was not happy, only because Liu Shi was not beautiful. As we all know, as the son of Lin Yanshuang, Sheng Changfeng has long been distorted by his own mother, affectionate, not less flowers and grass, harming many of his own handmaidens, naturally unwilling to marry a bad wife. However, in that era when the marriage event relied on the fate of his parents, Sheng Changfeng had no choice but to marry Liu.
Married to the Liu clan, Sheng Changfeng was very unhappy, and did not even spend the wedding night with his wife, lingering in the concubine room. In addition to the unreliability of men, Liu also faces a bad mother-in-law contradiction. Although Sheng Changfeng's mother, Lin Yaoshuang, was locked up, but the mother-in-law Wang Ruofu was still there, Wang Ruofu looked at Lin Wanshuang's children unfavorably, naturally he would not look at Liu Shi's pleasing eyes, and did not bully this daughter-in-law.
Fortunately, Liu Clan finally kept the clouds open to see the moon, she successfully captured the heart of her husband Sheng Changfeng, got the economic power of her own small courtyard, under her tutelage, Sheng Changfeng more and more respected her, more and more reliable, became a two-ranked jinshi, gave his wife and children a stable home.
Reading "Knowing or Not", the reason why Liu Shi can keep the clouds open and see the moon is because 3 o'clock is indispensable, which also reminds women and parents with daughters at home, when choosing a mate, these 3 points may be paid attention to.
First, there is a mother who really loves her and will always protect her, and she has the courage to fight;
How much Liu's parents love their daughters can be seen from their attitude towards their daughter's marriage.
Sheng Changfeng married Liu Shi and was a leak. Originally, the Liu clan was engaged to the Jiang family, which was the grandson of the Jiang Ge elder who was zhishi, and the Liu family was the opposite.
However, how shameless and absurd it was that the man, who had no family lineage but no character or morality, had to reconcile with his servants during the mourning of his father and give birth to a son.
After Liu's parents knew, they went to the Jiang family to ask for an explanation, and the Jiang family made mistakes first, but refused to give a clear attitude, which made Liu's parents very angry and began to hesitate about this marriage.
Through Jiang Gongzi's behavior, we can see three problems: First, Jiang Gongzi was originally a person with a worrying character, extremely poor self-control, and future women are indispensable, marrying him, we must be prepared for the fight between wives and concubines, and if we do not get it right, we will also fall into the fate of spoiling concubines and destroying wives. Second, the Jiang family did not take the daughter-in-law of the Liu family, who had not yet passed through the door, in their eyes, otherwise, they would not have had the eldest son when the daughter-in-law had not yet passed the door. Third, jiang gongzi did such a thing, and the Jiang family still protected it, which shows that Jiang Gongzi's parents are not reasonable people.
Therefore, Liu's parents decided to cancel the marriage contract, but in that era, repentance was not a matter of talking.
"It's not easy. Jiang Liu's two families have been friends for several lifetimes, even if they can't be relatives, it is not good to make a vendetta. If this affair is yellow, if the Liu family wants to clear themselves, they have to say the unfilial behavior of the Jiang family's son, and I will be the most filial piety, so that the future of the Jiang family will be broken; but if it is not publicized, then the mistake of breaking the marriage contract will fall on the Liu family's sister, and it will not be easy to say that the family affair is not easy..."
So, why did Liu's parents look at the portal as inferior to their own, or to the shengchangfeng that was out of the house? In fact, they look at the Family Style of the Sheng family.
Liu's parents have many contacts with the Sheng family, and naturally understand the situation of the Sheng family. They knew very well that there was an upright and strict old lady Sheng and a sheng who was eager to urge her son to study three times a day, even if Sheng Changfeng was unreliable, her daughter would not be too wronged.
There is a mother-in-law who really loves her and will always protect her, and she has the courage to fight. She is lowly married, has a mother's family as a support, and is not afraid of being looked down upon because of high climbing. If her in-laws dared to bully her, her parents would not sit idly by. Even if the marriage comes to a dead end, she has a way out.
Whether it is the parents or the girl herself, when deciding on a marriage event, we must be cautious, look at the man's character and family style, do not joke about the marriage event, and do not seek perfection for the sake of face.
Second, the reasonable in-laws and parents help her manage men well;
When Liu Shi first got married, Sheng Changfeng was indeed unreliable, and he did not accompany his wife on the wedding night, lingering in the concubine room.
Liu Clan didn't care, but Old Lady Sheng and Sheng Xuan couldn't stand it anymore and couldn't tolerate Sheng Changfeng's behavior of spoiling concubines and destroying their wives, so they intervened to discipline Sheng Changfeng, an unreliable guy, for Liu Clan.
Sheng Shao grabbed Chang Feng's homework and trained her son according to the number of meals, the old lady thought that the discord between husband and wife was Chang Feng's fault, and with Sheng Shao's words that 'Sheng Feng's parents and sons must be married', he fell into the four rooms in the Chang Feng house in one breath, and they were all isolated into Zhuangzi. Chang Feng's suffering was unspeakable, he had a weak and gentle disposition since he was a child, this scene, he couldn't help but cry from it, he was miserable, but there was no half a confidant between heaven and earth, and this day was simply impossible to live.
Sheng Shao's discipline of his son was particularly severe, and Sheng Changfeng's slightest deviance would attract his father's stick education, so Sheng Changfeng was outrageous, he did not have this capital, nor did he have this courage.
In addition, Sheng Xuan will also control the affairs of his son's private life. Sheng Changfeng's side of the lady had a crooked thought, taking advantage of the opportunity that the main mother Liu Clan only gave birth to a daughter, became pregnant, wanted to give birth to the eldest son of Shu, Liu Clan knew, did not shoot, only because she knew, with the old lady Sheng and Sheng Shao's clear reasoning, it would not allow such a thing to happen, and sure enough, After Sheng Xuan knew about this matter, he directly sent down the, and did not embarrass the daughter-in-law at all.
Wang Ruofu hated Lin Yaoshuang, and also hated Lin Jiaoshuang's son, and he would not be kind to the Liu clan, and he did not use the identity of his mother-in-law to bully the Liu clan, and after Sheng Shao knew about it, he also shot it, so that Wang Ruofu could not help the Liu clan.
Women choose a mate, but also need to look at the character of the other party's elders, the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked, if the other party's elderly character is good, the children educated will generally not be too bad, if the other parents are reasonable, willing to help the daughter-in-law to discipline the son, the man will not be able to toss out any tricks.
Third, they have the ability to grasp the hearts of men, adjust men well, and the marriage will win.
In addition to the strength of the mother's family and the father-in-law and grandmother, Liu Shi himself is also a capable person who has adjusted men well.
Liu Clan knows how to be strong and soft at the same time, not only can play a weak and weak, arouse the desire to protect the ShengChangfeng who is accustomed to pitying Xiang Xiang and cherishing jade, but also has its own bottom line, not indulging in her husband and the wild and tangled Lin Jiaoshuang.
Liu Shi is very capable, can grasp the man's heart, and rescues Sheng Changfeng in time when he is punished, so that Sheng Changfeng feels the gentleness and thoughtfulness of his wife, and relies more on and trusts his wife. When she had a conflict with her sister-in-law Sheng Molan over Lin Yanshuang's affairs, she would let Sheng Changfeng come forward to solve it.
When these words were said to Mo Lan, Liu's eyes looked at Chang Feng. Minglan looked sideways, only to feel that Liu's gaze was full of trust and dependence; it was Wu Dalang who had accepted this gaze, and was afraid that he had become a great husband; not to mention Chang Feng's pity for Xiang Xiang and cherishing jade.
In order to go out, Lin Jiaoshuang kidnapped his son Sheng Changfeng and forced his son to intercede with Sheng Changfeng, causing Sheng Changfeng to be beaten several times. Liu Shi couldn't bear to look at it, and personally went to find Lin Jiaoshuang, and a few words made Lin Yanshuang unable to pick up the words.
The aunt still didn't understand. If it is a righteous mother, it is a natural filial piety word first, but you, there is also a 'aunt' in front of this 'mother'. To put it badly, it is that Xianggong will one day be able to crown the old mother, that is also the first head concubine, if the remaining grace, it will be your turn. If you are angry, reincarnated in the next life, don't be small to people, it is no longer bitter and difficult, so that the media is marrying, so that you can give birth to a son who is out of breath, you want to fight, you want to see. ”
If a woman wants to run a good marriage, first of all, she must marry the right person, work choosing a mate, pick a man with reliable character, and pick a family with a good family style. Secondly, you must have the ability to manage a good marriage, be able to become a qualified wife, and not be bullied. Finally, be positive, whether your life is going well or not, you must try to live well, do not because the marriage is not going well, passive life, waste your time.
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