Look at the happy couple in "Know It or Not": the most stable marriage is to keep the internal interests consistent!

Look at the happy couple in "Know It or Not": the most stable marriage is to keep the internal interests consistent!

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Create Date: 2022-03-1422:05

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One

The story of "Know It or Not" develops to the end, and many couples are happy in marriage.

For example, Sheng Changbai and Haishi.

For example, Sheng Hualan and Yuan Wenshao, who have been suffering for ten years to emerge.

For example, Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan, who resolved the dispute over Gu's parents' house.

For example, Sheng Changfeng and Liu Shi, who hated each other at the beginning.

These couples can walk in respect of each other as guests and make each other respect and love each other

The level of envy does not only depend on the family lineage, three views, and character qualities of both men and women.

The deeper reason is that these couples maintain a high degree of agreement on common interests.

Core interests are the best bundling mechanism. In this way, even if one side occasionally yaws in the middle, it will eventually remain in the same orbit as the other party.

Two

"Know it or not" explains the final ending of Lin Mishuang.

Her ending is just a sentence

——“

Blunt knives cut flesh, and every day makes you miserable.

”

The drama version of Lin Wanshuang was killed by Dong Rong, who was by Sheng Hong's side, and the novel version was sent to his farm by Mrs. Sheng and imprisoned.

Lady Wang listened to Aunt Kang's advice and gave Lin Wanshuang only lard bibimbap every day.

Over time, Lin Yanshuang's figure became bloated and fat, and his appearance was completely destroyed.

When Sheng Changfeng married his wife and took care of Lin Yanshuang's work, it fell to Sheng Changfeng's wife Liu Shi.

Liu Shi despised Lin Jiaoshuang and Sheng Molan as a person, and often opened his mouth to ridicule Lin Jiaoshuang.

Lin Jiaoshuang shouted that in the future, Sheng Changfeng would separate the family and become independent, and after taking her back to support her, she would take care of the Liu family as a mother-in-law.

Liu Shi replied to Lin Yanshuang that she thought it was too simple. At that time, would Sheng Changfeng offend the powerful Yue family for her mother, whom she had not seen for many years, and give up her future and face?

“

When her Willow clan is dead?

Even if Lin Yishuang was Sheng Changfeng's mother, Liu Shi was not afraid. Her strength is not the harsh distinction of concubines, nor the dilemma of bullying Lin Yanshuang and being bullied by dogs in Pingyang, but the inseparable interests of her and Sheng Changfeng tied together.

Three

Sheng Hong really loved Sheng Changfeng. He was well aware of the importance of a good Yue family, so as soon as he heard that the Liu clan was disagreeing, he immediately opened fire for him to successfully pick up the leak to the Liu clan.

The Liu family is a family family, and if it were not for the absurdity of the man who discussed with her before, she would not have been able to marry the son of the Sheng family.

After Liu Shi married Sheng Changfeng, Old Lady Sheng and Sheng Hong were very satisfied. These two elders basically always sided with Liu's side, supporting her to encourage and manage her husband and seek progress.

After a long time, coupled with Liu's quite skillful, Sheng Changfeng's heart was subdued. The Liu family is very happy, and when she helps her son-in-law, she has money to contribute strongly.

Sheng Changfeng and Liu Shi were not satisfied with each other at first. Sheng Changfeng is a Yan control and is not satisfied with Liu's ordinary appearance; Liu's is serious and looks down on Sheng Changfeng's son. After the two people, the days became more and more prosperous, on the one hand, the two sides managed properly, and on the other hand, Sheng Changfeng gradually understood the importance of his wife Liu Shi.

In ancient times, women could not enter the workplace. Therefore, the resources of the Liu family should play an effect on the Liu family, so that the life of the Liu family in the second half of life will be smooth and smooth, and sheng changfeng is an important realization prop. And if Sheng Changfeng does not rely on the Yue family who is distressed about his daughter, and only relies on himself to work hard, the development height will be several levels lower, after all, the personal resources accumulated by the Sheng family cannot fall on the head of Sheng ChangFeng.

In order to realize the prosperity of husbands and wives in feudal society, the husband and wife must work together and rely on each other.

Can such a bundle of interests be unstable?

Four

This kind of conjugal love, which is promoted by relying on interests, is also fully reflected in Sheng Hualan and Yuan Wenshao.

After Sheng Hualan married into the Yuan family, she was bullied by her mother-in-law for ten years.

Sheng Hualan's plight, the Yuan family knew it, but never helped.

Hua Lan's situation began to change, it was the Sheng family that successfully lit the fireworks of take-off, and everyone realized that the future of the Sheng family could be expected.

But this is not enough to turn the tide.

Sheng Hualan was able to reverse the adversity when Sheng Hualan's husband and brother realized that the old woman's looting of money had affected how much property they could inherit in the future.

Sheng Hualan's mother-in-law, Lady Yuan, snatched up the Yuan family's family wealth and daughter-in-law's dowry and took them back to supplement her mother's family.

And Mrs. Yuan's mother's family only has one sentence

——

The money is lost in business, and it is not enough!

Only then did the brothers realize that this old lady was brainless

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。

Since then, these two brothers have not turned to their mothers.

Yuan Wenshao looked back and realized that his wife and his own interests were really tied together. Allowing his mother to extort HuaLan's dowry is to take advantage of his own money bag to cheapen outsiders, why bother?

As a result, this staged a better life for middle-aged couples than newlyweds.

Five

This actually reflects a simple truth

most

A stable marriage is one in which internal interests are aligned!

The first meaning of the internal interests mentioned here is real money and silver; the second meaning is mutual understanding and support, that is, the common heart and mind that everyone is most looking forward to and loving each other.

How many such interests can there be in the real marriage arena?

I thought you understood me

, in itself, is a luxury.

However, it is always better than the real money and silver in front of it.

In "Knowing or Not", the couples who achieve this "interest" binding are Gu Er and Sheng Xiaoliu, Sheng Changbai and Hai Chaoyun.

Gu Tingye could make Sheng Minglan marry her willingly, not by the dowry that filled the entire courtyard so that Wang Da's wife could see the blood, nor by the prominent position of his confidant, but by that sentence

But with me in one day, I will never let you be wronged

Sheng Minglan lived too carefully and cautiously in her mother's home, but she wanted to be her own master of the family life, And Gu Tingye's point of view was exactly what Sheng Minglan's heart wanted.

The married life of the two people also proves that Gu Tingye has fulfilled his promise. Minglan, the head of the house, lived very freely.

There are not so many stories between Sheng Changbai and Hai Chaoyun. But two people are very rare, the three views are similar, the temperament is similar, so the days are getting higher and higher.

Sheng Changbai did not like the liveliness of the backyard, and was not accustomed to the old woman's prestige of playing with the mother-in-law for no reason, so during the new marriage period, he specially defended his daughter-in-law in front of Wang Da's wife, and privately taught his wife how to deal with his mother.

Hai Chaoyun's family rule is that men are not allowed to take concubines. Sheng Changbai's move was in line with the family style that the Hai clan had heard from her mother's family, and her tolerance for concubines was very low. Sheng Changbai did not smile on weekdays, but several times he thought about Hai's laughter and chat, which was really rare.

Happy yet

Stable marriages, at all times, are scarce.

But finally, it should be said that a good marriage, even if the interests are consistent, to make the feelings like fine wine, the longer the time, the more mellow, relying on the heart management.