Today, XiaoQi will discuss with you the importance of marrying a wife and a sage through this book review of "Knowing or Not".
First of all, let's first get to know the two male characters sheng changfeng and Liang Han.
Sheng Changfeng is the son of Sheng Shao and Lin Jiaoshuang, the son of the Sheng family, and the brother of Sheng Molan's half-father. Because it is from the concubine Lin Jiaoshuang, it is deeply loved and valued by her father Sheng Shao.
Sheng Shao was born in Shuzi, and he knew very well the reason why Shuzi's life was not easy, in order to make Lin Qishuang and his children live better and not be bullied by the main mother Wang Clan, he gave Lin Qiaoshuang an industry, so that he had independent economic resources and was not constrained by the Wang clan, and also gave Lin Qiaoshuang the right to raise his children, so that Lin Jiaoshuang and his children had their own place of residence, without having to look at the face of the Wang family.
Sheng Shao's original intention was good, he wanted his children to grow up under the knees of their birth mothers and have a good childhood, but he ignored Lin Wanshuang's character and vision. Can a concubine who serves in Israel and ascends to the throne by means of inadmissibility teach good children?
Under the cultivation of Lin Wanshuang, her daughter Sheng Molan learned many concubine styles, not only to compete and compete, but also to see the glory and wealth but not to see the family honor, for their own selfish gambling with the future of the Sheng family, let themselves marry into the high gate.
Son Sheng Changfeng is not much better, although too much of a thing does not dare to do, but like to get wet with flowers and grass, lustful, self-control is very poor, can not stand the temptation. To put it bluntly, he is a playboy figure who is not too bad but not excellent.
As for Liang Han, sheng Molan's husband, he was the youngest son of the Marquis of Yongchang. Because the father spoiled the concubine and destroyed his wife, preferred the eldest son of Shu, and did not care much about the cultivation of the concubine, the mother Lady Liang had to deal with the shrewd and capable family of the eldest son of Shu, and had no time to take care of the younger son Liang Han, resulting in Liang Han, like Sheng Changfeng, also a lustful and poor self-control man.
That is to say, Liang Han and Sheng Changfeng are the same kind of people, but the endings of the two of them are different. Although Liang Han was not too bad, he achieved nothing and had no career, and could only rely on the Marquis of Yongchang to live. Sheng Molan gave birth to five golden flowers, and the flowers were lowly married, and the children and grandchildren were not prosperous. And the long maple? In the end, he became a two-ranked jinshi, had his own future, and did not lose the face of the Sheng family, a family full of doors.
The same lustful and greedy, why is sheng changfeng's future better than Liang Han's? In fact, this is related to two points, one is the family style, and the other is to marry a wife and a virtuous.
01. If it were not for the strict discipline of Mrs. Sheng and Sheng Xuan, Sheng Changfeng would not have achieved future achievements;
Lady Liang knew what kind of person her son was, and the solution to this was to marry her son a virtuous wife.
She already had the eldest son and the eldest daughter-in-law of noble birth, there was no shortage of good daughters-in-law, she knew her son very well, Liang Han was not as deep as the sea, but was held by a beautiful woman with means. And what she has to do is to find a woman whose appearance is more beautiful than Haruharu and who can be suppressed by doing party talk. Marrying into the door, if you can win back Liang Han's favor is the best, if not, just hold on to the etiquette, there will be no big chaos.
Therefore, she saw that Sheng Minglan, who was born in a bookish and father and brother, although he was a well-educated man, but his upbringing and demeanor were very in line with her heart and he looked very beautiful, wanted Liang Han to marry Sheng Minglan, and sheng Minglan, a virtuous wife, urged his son to study, so that his son could have a good future.
In fact, many in-laws have such an idea, thinking that if they want their sons to have an adult appearance and an adult consciousness, they must let them get married, and when they become husbands and fathers, they will naturally be much more mature and stable. If it doesn't work, it is the daughter-in-law's fault, it is the daughter-in-law's incompetence, can not control the husband, they will be dissatisfied with the daughter-in-law, for example, in "Love in the Fallen City" Tang Yiyuan is messed with flowers, his parents will put the responsibility on the daughter-in-law Bai Tassel.
As a parent, you can't discipline your son well, so why ask your daughter-in-law to take responsibility for you? Even if the daughter-in-law wants to urge her husband to be motivated, and blindly protects the short and blindly accuses the daughter-in-law's in-laws, what can the daughter-in-law do with her husband?
Educating children is the responsibility of parents, not others, let alone daughters-in-law.
Compared with Lady Liang, Sheng Changfeng's elders Sheng Xuan and Old Lady Sheng were much more reliable.
First of all, in academics, Sheng Xuan kept a close eye on his son, eager to beat him three times a day, holding a whip to urge his son to study and participate in the imperial examination.
Secondly, in private life, Sheng Xuan and Mrs. Sheng also stared very tightly, as long as Sheng Changfeng had some transgressions, he would directly shoot down, and it would not be Liu's turn to deal with it at all.
Seeing that their husband and wife looked at each other, the Wang clan was overjoyed, but Chang Feng was no longer able to regard the Wang clan who had been fighting with his birth mother for more than twenty years as a relative, and the only two patrons, Sheng Xuan and the old lady, all of them stood on the side of the Liu clan - all the Liu clan's propositions were right, and all the Liu clan's practices must have deep meaning. In this way, Liu Shi further pinched the long maple's spend silver.
Sheng Shao grabbed Chang Feng's homework and trained her son according to the number of meals, the old lady thought that the discord between husband and wife was Chang Feng's fault, and with Sheng Shao's words that 'Sheng Feng's parents and sons must be married', he fell into the four rooms in the Chang Feng house in one breath, and they were all isolated into Zhuangzi.
In the end, Sheng Xuan ate a long and wise, and his own concubine almost killed the Sheng family, so he would never allow his descendants to do such a thing.
Xiuqiao has witnessed it twice. Once, the third brother made a friend by mistake outside, was led around the CiqingLou, and also got to know a 'strange woman' who sold her art and did not sell herself; the frightened father-in-law was blue in the face, and the third brother was not allowed to go out for two months, and there were twenty big boards, and the punishment was copied five hundred times of the Sheng family training - one of which was that the children of the Sheng family must not be implicated with the women of the Qinglou.
Another time, but two months before the spring, a young lady waiting in the third brother's study suddenly reported that she was pregnant, and at that time, the father-in-law was urging his son to prepare for the exam, and when he first heard about this, he immediately had a seizure, punished the third brother's study inside and outside, and also sent the pregnant servant to Zhuangzi, saying fiercely, 'If you don't win this time, you won't leave a son or a mother'.
Tyman Johnson once said, "Successful tutoring makes successful children, and failed tutoring makes children who fail." ”
With the strict discipline of Sheng Shao and Old Lady Sheng, the descendants of the Sheng family could not go anywhere.
02. Marry a wife and marry a virtuous, behind a successful man, it is inseparable from having a successful woman.
As for the second point, it is that the two wives they marry are different.
Liang Han's wife everyone knows that it is Sheng Molan, as a concubine raised by a concubine, Sheng Molan is good at not learning, and has learned the concubine winning magic weapons of his mother Lin Yanshuang.
If Sheng Molan was a concubine, these tricks might work, but she was a concubine, a wife who needed to be on the table and needed to be a husband and a godson, and these methods were of little use at all.
In order to please Liang Han, Sheng Molan confronted the concubine Chun Gang and gave Liang Han a lot of beautiful concubines. She threw herself into her favor and made Liang Han very satisfied with it all his life, but she also let Liang Han always be immersed in beauty, had no time to read, and finally achieved nothing.
"Most of the children of the Sheng family are smart and clever, but the two most stupid ones have met me." The husband and wife were finally willing to listen to my advice. But that sister-in-law. Knowing that the eldest brother is unrighteous and that it is only a matter of time before the family is separated, it is true to persuade the husband to advance. When the three-year filial piety period expires, hurry up and have a son, and the overall situation will be determined. The concubines with the surname of Ten Thousand could not be born again, and there was only one handmaiden, and no matter how much they were pampered, what was the use of it, and what was she called. What a clever face stupid. ”
The person who said this was Sheng Molan's sister-in-law, that is, Sheng Changfeng's virtuous wife Liu Shi.
The Liu clan is the concubine of the Liu family of the family, because the man who is betrothed to him is lustful and immoral, and cannot be entrusted for life, the parents are distressed about their daughters, and they choose another good relationship for them, and marry her to Sheng Changfeng, whose family style is not obvious, although the family lineage is not obvious.
Liu's appearance is not proud, and she is not fond of Sheng Changfeng, but Liu's is a woman with great means.
Liu Clan will play the emotional card, and when Sheng Changfeng is taught by his father and grandmother, he will lend a helping hand to Sheng Changfeng and let Sheng Changfeng see his gentle and virtuous side.
Liu will urge her husband to read, stimulate her husband's desire to protect, and let him hold up a piece of heaven for his wife and children.
When the man's elders and the man's wife are united, the man is no longer reliable, and he can only honestly follow the requirements of the family to be angry and strong, unless he wants to be alone.
Marry a wife and marry a sage, but if you are not strong yourself, the family style is not good, and the girls are not willing to entrust you with life, they are looking for a man, not a son.
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