If you have only seen the drama version of "Know It or Not", you may hate Sheng Xuan very much, thinking that as a father, he is too eccentric, only knowing that he loves Sheng Molan, but he has treated his younger daughter Sheng Minglan badly. In the drama version, Sheng Minglan also resented Sheng Shao, not only for herself, but also for her mother and unborn brother who died tragically at the hands of Lin Wanshuang.
However, in the original work, Sheng Xuan's pet concubines killed their wives, and the children born of the eccentric Lin Yanshuang were not fake, but they were not so bad. Although he did have a little imbalance in the balance of his children, he also fulfilled his basic responsibilities to other children, asking people to teach his children, urging his sons to study, participating in scientific examinations, and his sons must also have meritorious names, carefully selected in the marriage of their daughters, only hoping that their daughters would live better, and never thought of taking the lifelong happiness of their daughters to climb the magnates, regardless of their daughter's life or death.
Moreover, in the original work, Sheng Xuan likes Sheng Minglan, who is well-behaved and sensible, sweet-mouthed, and will do this and that for him, and his least favorite daughter is actually the young daughter Sheng Rulan.
Among several daughters, Sheng Shaoyuan disliked the arrogant and willful Rulan the most, from childhood to adulthood, he did not punish less, and Rulan refused to be sweet and flattering, so he was always most afraid of his father.
Sheng Rulan did not know how to flatter his father, nor did he know how to show weakness, nor was he good at words, he always hung up his mouth on the concubine, and he committed the taboo of Sheng Shao, who was born from a son, so he was the one who was the least favored by his father in his daughter.
In terms of marriage, Sheng Rulan is also the lowest married of the sisters. The eldest sister Sheng Hualan married into the Zhongqin Earl's Palace, the fourth sister Sheng Molan, after careful calculation, married into the Marquis of Yongchang Palace as she wished, the sixth sister Sheng Minglan became the Marquis of Ningyuan, and only Sheng Rulan, who was born as a concubine, married a cold door, which was a low marriage.
However, although Sheng Rulan did not marry as well as Sheng Molan, Sheng Rulan's final ending was better than Sheng Molan's. Wen Yan respectfully let Quanzhou become an official, took away Sheng Rulan, and the two little ones were happy and loving, and they did not have to fight the evil mother-in-law. And Sheng Molan gave birth to five golden flowers, the flowers were lowly married, not treated by the in-laws, there was no concubine, and he had to rely on shuzi to live in the future, and her husband Liang Han did not even have a future.
Revisiting "Knowing or Not", the same father, Sheng Rulan's marriage was successful, and Mo Lan failed, only because of 1 point, that is, the education of parents determines the level of vision of children.
01. Although Wang Ruofu is quite stupid, she has a high vision and knows how to use it best for her daughter.
First of all, let's talk about Sheng Shao, as a father, in that era, Sheng Shao's task was to support his family, be a good official, and provide a rich and stable living environment for his wife and children. However, his excessive pampering of Sheng Molan also made Sheng Molan lose his duty, forgetting that the sky was high and thick, and always coveted things that did not belong to him.
As a concubine, Sheng Molan wanted to fight with her concubine, wanted to surpass Sheng Hualan and Sheng Rulan, and even started the idea of Qi Heng, the prince of the Principality of Qi, which showed how much he did not know how thick the sky was, which was inseparable from his father's favor for him.
Moreover, the mother of two people is too different in vision and thought.
Mrs. Sheng raised Sheng Minglan, was very good to Sheng Minglan, gave Sheng Minglan good things, Sheng Rulan saw it, very angry, only because she was born tall, think that good things are their own, plus usually suppressed by Sheng Molan, a lot of dissatisfaction accumulated in her heart, and when she returned to the house, she became angry.
After Wang Ruofu saw it, he trained her daughter to have the temperament of a concubine and to be tolerant.
"Your child is also too intolerable, your sixth sister never argues with you like this, you can't tolerate it, and you don't have any wrists, I'm afraid I'm going to suffer a lot in the future." But in the end, why do you have to fight with them, like your big sister, your identity is there, you will inevitably marry better than them in the future, live more comfortably than them, what is the trouble in front of you? If your father doesn't like it, even if you pretend, you will pretend to be a sister and a harmonious look for me! ”
Take the fact that Qi Heng came to the Sheng family to study, Qi Heng's father is the second son of the Duke of Qi, his mother is the lord of Pingning County, the family is prominent, and he is also one of the most noble princes in the capital, and he is also handsome and handsome, has excellent character, is self-motivated and studious, and is naturally regarded as the best candidate for son-in-law. After Qi Heng came, Wang Ruofu and Lin Yanshuang both started Qi Heng's idea.
However, can the lord of Binh Ninh County look up to the Sheng family? In order to avoid the son's entanglement with the Sheng family's girls, the lord of Pingning County made the Sheng family's girls no longer study as soon as they came, reducing their chances of contacting their sons.
Wang Ruofu quickly understood the intention of the lord of Pingning County, knowing that she did not look up to her daughter, immediately gave up her thoughts, and trained her daughter Sheng Rulan fiercely, cutting off the delusions that her daughter should not have.
"It's not that I said my own sad words, on the theory of appearance, how can she be worthy of Qi Heng?" My own girlfriend, I thought so, let alone the county lord? Forget it, it's not interesting to beg for yourself, we don't have anything else, these few prides are still there. Ru'er doesn't have any wrists, and in the future, she will still find a door to be the right one not to be bullied! ”
As a mother, Wang Ruofu is undoubtedly qualified, she has backbone, self-respect, and will not let her daughter do something unsympathetic in order to climb the magnate, licking her face and chasing people's homes. Treating her daughter's expectations, she only hopes that her daughter will have a safe life, marry a ruyi langjun, and don't be bullied.
Under wang Ruofu's education, although Sheng Rulan was squeamish and willful, and had also bullied Sheng Minglan, he did not have any bad eyes and did not grow crooked. She knew that she had a few pounds, and she knew that she could not run a good marriage and would rather marry low. She also knows how to learn the lessons of her mother's uncomfortable marriage, learn to show weakness, and know how to grasp the hearts of men.
02. Always delusional about things that don't belong to you, it's easy to fight with chickens and eggs.
And how is Lin Xi Cream made? She was fascinated by Qi Heng's prominent family lineage, and did not care whether her daughter Sheng Molan was worthy or not, so she asked Sheng Xuan to intercede with a woman's father, and after being angrily reprimanded by Sheng Heng, she still did not die, instigating Sheng Molan to take the initiative to contact Qi Heng, in that era, this was a major crime.
"Child, don't listen to your father, he's a big old man, he doesn't know the twists and turns of the inner house." If you are not as good as Lan in terms of birth, but your appearance is not ten times stronger than her, the same father, why do you have to submit to her in the future? If you don't fight for the strong yourself, which round of good gets you? Don't you want to spend a lifetime like Rancha? ”
Lin Yanshuang did not accept defeat, did not admit his fate, and refused to let himself and his daughter be subordinated to his wife and daughter, but in that era, their origins did limit their development. Empty ambitions without capital and incompetence will eventually fail.
Lin Jiaoshuang taught her daughter to fight, which fueled Sheng Molan's ambition, but Sheng Molan's ability was not worthy of her ambition. Having no ability but always thinking about things that do not belong to you, it is easy to fight with chickens and eggs, not only can not get what you want, but also may lose what belongs to you, but you can't see.
03. What kind of growth a child will look like is directly related to the parents.
As the saying goes, if there is a father, there must be a son, and if there is a mother, there must be a daughter, because imitating the parents is the innate talent of the child.
After a child is born, it is like a blank piece of paper, they do not know what is right and what is wrong, at this time, they instinctively trust their parents, take their parents as role models, recognize the views instilled by their parents into them, and are subtly affected by it, and have formed their own three views after more than ten years. Whether it is a view of life, values or marriage, the influence of parents cannot be ignored.
Therefore, whether the children are doing well or not is directly related to the education of their parents. As far as Lin Yanshuang's concubine thinking and style are concerned, it is impossible to educate a daughter who can be a good wife.
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