In the original work of "Knowing or Not", Sheng Shao has a total of three sons and four daughters, namely Sheng Hualan, Sheng Changbai, Sheng Changfeng, Sheng Molan, Sheng Rulan, Sheng Minglan and Sheng Changdong. As the eldest daughter, Sheng Hualan was the most favored child, even if it was Sheng Molan, who was spoiled behind, he was not as favored as Sheng Hualan.
Sheng Hualan was born at the time when his parents' feelings were the most harmonious, at that time, Sheng Xuan was young and promising, Sheng Old Lady was generous, Wang Ruofu was not so stupid and unclear, Lin Jieshuang had not yet hooked up with Sheng Shao, and Sheng Xuan naturally did not do the thing of spoiling concubines and destroying his wife. At that time, Sheng Hualan was the eldest daughter in the family, the pearl in the palm of her parents, and she was raised under the knee of Mrs. Sheng for a period of time.
When Sheng Shao picked an object for Sheng Hualan, he also said: "At that time, I thought, no one who has been wronged can be wronged by Hua'er, I don't point to using Hua'er to climb the dragon and attach the phoenix, I only hope that she can marry a man with responsibility, husband and wife harmony, Qinse and Ming, and have children in the future, and have a smooth life." ”
In the end, Sheng Shao carefully selected Yuan Wenshao, the second son of the Zhongqin Earl's Palace, on the grounds that Yuan Wenshao was calm and knowledgeable, and his majesty was majestic, and he had an errand in the Five Cities Terracotta Command Division at a young age, and his character was good, because he had fallen in the family road, so the son of such a family would go forward.
Sheng Shao judged well, Yuan Wenshao was indeed more motivated, but the problem was that Yuan Wenshao had a superb old mother who harmed Sheng Hualan. Worse still, Yuan Wenshao is a foolish filial piety man.
How exquisite is Sheng Hualan's mother-in-law, Lady Yuan? It is most appropriate to summarize the three sentences in the original work that Sheng Rulan accused Lady Yuan of.
"Have you stuffed a bunch of concubines into my sister's room again?" That is, you forced my sister to stand up for you with a big belly! Or are you insisting that my sister be pregnant and take care of your affairs? ”
Sheng Hualan miscarried, lady Yuan, under the banner of opening branches and leaves for her son, stuffed many concubines into ShengHualan's house; Sheng Hualan was pregnant, and she let Sheng Hualan stand up with a big belly to give her rules, without the slightest understanding of the suffering of pregnant women; Sheng Hualan was pregnant for the second time, she forced Sheng Hualan to go to the housekeeper, and the person who inherited the title was not Sheng Hualan's husband, but Sheng Hualan had to take her own dowry to fill the deficit. When Sheng Hualan was pregnant for the third time, Lady Yuan pretended to be ill and took away Sheng Hualan's only son, Shi Ge'er, but she did not take good care of it, causing Shi Ge'er to be injured.
So, what is Yuan Wenshao doing as Lady Yuan's son and Sheng Hualan's husband? At this time, he was still a foolish filial piety man, and although he knew that his daughter-in-law had been wronged, he thought that it was more important for his mother to be obedient.
Fortunately, shenghualan people bloomed in middle age, not only gaining a firm foothold in the Yuan family, but also becoming more and more affectionate with her husband Yuan Wenshao, and in middle age, she was extremely sweet. She can live well, by two points.
First, her mother's family is getting stronger and stronger, making her more confident in her in-laws' house.
When Sheng Hualan got married, the Sheng family was still in Dengzhou, plus Sheng Hualan was highly married, so the water could not quench the near thirst, and there was no courage to support Sheng Hualan.
As Sheng Xuan's career became smoother and smoother, he became a Beijing official, and Sheng Hualan began to have his mother's family as a backing. Then, Sheng Changbai zhongju embarked on a career path, married the noble daughter of Gaomen Haishi as his wife, and his sisters, especially Sheng Minglan, married into Gaomen, and the waist rod of the Sheng family became harder and harder, to the point that the Zhongqin Earl's Palace did not dare to underestimate the offense, and Sheng Hualan's life in the in-laws' family was much better.
Just like when Sheng Rulan accused Lady Yuan at the beginning, Lady Yuan couldn't get off the stage, so she said, "You Sheng family girl Jin Gui, we Yuan family can't afford to serve, but hurry up and take it back!" ”
Hearing these words, Sheng Minglan stood up on the spot and questioned Lady Yuan's meaning, at this time, Sheng Minglan was Qin Fengzheng Erpin's commandment, and she was the highest among the women present, and the female relatives only had a knot, and there was no doubt.
Lady Yuan was angry again, and she did not dare to offend Lady Ningyuanhou, nor did she dare to offend the Sheng family, which had the support of powerful in-laws behind her, not to mention, Gu Tingye was still Yuan Wenshao's superior, and she could not afford to offend.
The writer Yi Shu once said: "No matter how far you marry, the girls please keep a return ticket for themselves." ”
As a married woman, you must know how to handle the relationship with your mother's family, do your filial piety, respect the people who should respect (such as brothers and their spouses), and maintain the affection with them, so that when you encounter trouble, the mother's family may also become your backing and help you support.
The reason why Sheng Hualan swallowed her anger in the Yuan family was because she did not have a choice, in that era, it was difficult for a woman to leave her in-laws' family in a fair and upright manner, that is, to leave, once she was suspended, not only was her reputation discredited and unable to be a person, but also affected her mother's reputation.
Sheng Hualan knows how to think about the family, naturally, and has also been protected by the family.
Second, Sheng Hualan knows how to live with his brain and captures her husband's heart.
After the Sheng family moved to the capital, Sheng Hualan returned to her mother's house and told her grandmother, Mrs. Sheng, what had happened to her. At that time, Mrs. Sheng told Sheng Hualan that to run a marriage, you need to use your brain.
After that, Sheng Hualan knew how to use his brain to live a life. She knows that the eldest sister-in-law is the niece of the mother-in-law, and with the blood relationship, the mother-in-law will definitely be eccentric, and as a daughter-in-law, she is not good at going to the public announcement every day. If she wants to gain a foothold in her in-laws' house, she can only rely on her husband Yuan Wenshao, so she must grasp the man's heart.
How did Sheng Hualan grasp the heart of her husband Yuan Wenshao? She took the approach of retreating into progress, making Yuan Wenshao realize his mother's eccentricity and realize that his wife was the one who was really good to him.
Take Lady Yuan's attempt to seize Sheng Hualan's dowry to marry her daughter!
Sheng Hualan first cried and complained, played the emotional card, and told her mother-in-law's excessive behavior towards herself:
"It's not that I'm not filial, I just want to ask, when is this day a head?" The silver I came with to marry has long gone, and the good materials and good objects in the suitcase have also been scraped by my mother to see Tian'er, and now she actually remembers that Zhuangzi has come, mother, mother... What the hell do you want? Can't get by at home? ”
Then, Sheng Hualan expressed his infatuation with her husband: "Shao Lang, if there is only me, if I follow you, I will eat chaff and swallow vegetables, and I will never shout half a sentence of bitterness!" But... But..."
Then, Sheng Hualan mentioned her children to her husband, worried about the future life of her children:
In the future, this title will be the eldest brother's, and looking at the mother's posture, we are afraid that we will not be able to share anything in the family property; what can those children do? Last time my mother came to be suspicious, I coaxed her to say that pregnant women wear old clothes comfortably, but the clothes on Sister Zhuang's body can't deceive people, and my mother sent two big red brocades back! The grandmother sent something to the granddaughter, and said that if there were some people on the side, wouldn't it be a slap in the face of the Yuan family?
When Yuan Wenshao was completely partial to himself and helped himself out, Sheng Hualan knew how to accept it when he saw it, was more considerate of her husband, sold her dowry, and gave Yuan Wenshao a little bit, making Yuan Wenshao feel more guilty.
Over time, Yuan Wenshao saw Lady Yuan's eccentricity, felt extremely cold, and gradually fell to Sheng Hualan's side. Catching the man's heart, coupled with Sheng Minglan's bad idea (found an aunt for Sheng Hualan's father-in-law, so that Lady Yuan did not have time to bully her daughter-in-law), Sheng Hualan finally kept the clouds open to see Yueming.
Women need to use their brains to run marriages, and they need to grasp the main contradictions. Whether the marriage can continue, and whether it can be saved, the key is not in the in-laws, nor in the seven aunts and eight aunts, but in the man' body. If you think the man still has merit and is still likely to live, you have to find a way to grab his heart. Whether it is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, or a relationship between relatives, as long as the man's heart is on your side, you don't have to worry.
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