As we all know, Sheng Hualan's mother-in-law, Lady Yuan, is an extremely bad person and cannot be a clan wife.
As a mother, she favored the eldest son and the eldest daughter-in-law, a bowl of water was uneven, and tried her best to bully the second daughter-in-law, Sheng Hualan, so that Sheng Hualan stood with a big belly and a housekeeper, staring at Sheng Hualan's dowry, ruining the reputation of the Yuan family and affecting the marriage problem of the children and grandchildren of the Yuan family.
As the head mother of the Yuan family, she had her heart set on her mother's family and took the money that the Yuan family had saved so hard to help her mother's family.
How unbearable is Lady Yuan's as a clan wife? Her eldest sister Lady Shoushan had always looked down on her, and when Sheng Hualan asked her for help, she agreed, found Aunt Zhang, made Concubine Yuan, and restrained Lady Yuan.
What is even more powerful is that her mother-in-law, that is, Yuan Wenshao's grandmother, before she died, actually let her son write a letter of resignation and lock it on the ancestral hall, if Lady Yuan is really overwhelmed and there is a possibility of affecting the Yuan family, there is no need to remember That Lady Yuan kept filial piety for the elders and put her out.
Uncle Yuan looked cold and said slowly, "My mother once said to your eldest sister and to you and me that you are stupid and greedy, that you have forgotten great righteousness when you see small profits, and that you have embarrassed your heirs, but you already have children." Before my mother passed away, she asked me to write a letter of resignation, and she wrote a word in the back of her own, saying that it is not easy for the Yuan clan to be reinstated, it is really a blessing to pay the heavens, and there must be no more flaws, if you are difficult to carve in the wood and affect the family, you don't have to worry about your filial piety for three years, you can go out of the house! The Book of Hugh is still locked on the ancestral hall table! ”
However, in the end, Lady Yuan still retained the position of the head mother of the Yuan family, although Aunt Zhang occupied Uncle Yuan's heart, and her son Yuan Wenshao was also biased towards her daughter-in-law and no longer protected her, but she fell into the end of being abandoned.
The reason why Lady Yuan was able to keep the position of the head mother of the Yuan family was not because Uncle Yuan remembered the old feelings, but because repudiating his wife was a big thing, once he divorced his wife, the woman was of course finished, but the face of the Zhongqin Earl's Palace was also lost.
Moreover, after all, Mrs. Yuan has children, so she must think about her children and give them some face. Therefore, in many large families, divorce is not common, even if it is trapped, it will not make things bigger and make themselves shameful.
However, in the original work of "Knowing or Not", there is still a wife who has been abandoned, that is, Yu Yanhong's mother, Yu Fangshi.
Yu Fangshi was accused of filial piety by his father-in-law Yu Ge and was abandoned by Hugh and returned to his mother's house. The Yu Fang clan searched for death and life, and the children of the Yu Fang clan begged their mothers for forgiveness, but they could not change Yu Ge's old man's mind.
Yu Ge always said that he had a unique nature, and for decades he had been caught inside and out, and he was never polite to the internal control of the house; Mrs. Yu finally tasted the means used by her father-in-law to deal with political enemies in those years, and she was paralyzed on the spot, and the earth crying on the ground was a shock, and it was a warning, and it was also a death. Elder Yu Ge didn't even lift his eyelids, but only asked his mother-in-law to tie up the eldest lady and carry her into the carriage to send her away, telling her to die and die outside.
This son and a daughter, one fifteen, one twelve, just wanted to open their mouths to ask for two words of affection for their mother, only to hear Elder Yu Ge say lightly, 'If any of the descendants of the Yu family do not abide by the family rules and disobey the elders, they will be expelled from the door together', and the two children's personal mother-in-law hurriedly ripped them down; it is necessary to know that the Yu family's concubines and grandsons add up, and there is more than a dozen of them, and there is no shortage of them both. At this time, Lord Yu was already weak and could only shiver.
Sheng Hualan's mother-in-law has not been suspended, why will Yu Fangshi be suspended by the Yu family with a good reputation? Only because Elder Yu Ge knows that if there is a rotten fruit in a basket, you don't throw it away in time, and the other fruits can't be saved. If she didn't leave the Yu Fang clan, she would continue to die, not only would she be finished, but the Yu family would also be finished.
01. If it were not for Gu Tingye's leeway, the Yu family would have been in big trouble by relying solely on the succession matter that Yu Fang had orchestrated;
Although Lady Yuan could not afford to be a clan wife, she would only cause trouble in the inner house, add blockages to her daughter-in-law, and embarrass the concubine's room, and as long as the door was closed, these things could be covered up, and would not bring disaster to the Yuan family. Therefore, for the sake of Lady Yuan's childbearing for the Yuan family, Uncle Yuan can tolerate it.
However, Yu Fangshi did a stupid thing that almost ruined the entire Yu family, that is, under the careful coaxing of Xiao Qin, she colluded with Zhu Manniang, taking advantage of Gu Tingye's absence and Sheng Minglan's lack of knowledge of the cause of Yu Yanhong's death, under the banner of giving Yu Ge's old Chong Xi, she tried to pass Zhu Manniang's son Chang Ge'er to Yu Yanhong's name and take down the identity of Gu Tingye's eldest son.
In this matter, the Yu Fang clan, Zhu Manniang, and Xiao Qin clan each had their own purposes.
Xiao Qin's purpose was very simple, that is, to add to the blockage of the couple Gu Tingye and Sheng Minglan. If Gu Tingye knew about this matter, she would inevitably be furious, and she would pick herself clean, so naturally she could sit on the mountain and watch the tiger fight and reap the benefits of the fisherman. Sheng Minglan, don't agree to it, be scolded for being jealous, the Yu family does not rely on it, agree, the identity of the eldest son who originally belonged to her son is going to be robbed, there are more troubles in the back, it is also doubly distressed, and it is more conducive to Xiao Qin's plot.
Zhu Manniang needless to say, Chang Ge'er is her son, once she becomes the eldest son of the concubine, will her birth mother still be worried about entering the Ningyuan Marquis Mansion and getting what she wants?
As for the Yu Fang clan, she ate the bear heart leopard bile under the deception of xiao Qin, thinking that Gu Tingye did not know the real cause of Yu Yanhong's death, and wanted to blackmail the Gu family, once Chang Ge'er became the eldest son of the concubine and inherited the title, she would inevitably maintain close contact with the Yu Fang family, recognize them as relatives, and respond to their needs.
Elder Yu Ge couldn't bear to lose his temper with his old wife, and he paused at the table and scolded: "I know the old man's thoughts, don't you just see that the child's birth mother is a drama, thinking that if the child can really attack the title, he will have to recognize her relatives to fill the scene!" ”
How did Yu Yanhong die? In the original work, the cause of Yu Yanhong's death is hidden, only because she made a big mistake and put a green hat on her husband Gu Tingye, once this matter was exposed, not only the reputation of the Yu family's female relatives instantly stinked, Gu Tingye would also become a laughingstock, so the Gu Yu family hid this matter.
The daughter put a green hat on the other person's house, but the mother took advantage of the opportunity that the newly married daughter-in-law of the family did not know, and went to the door to blackmail, trying to make them eat dumb losses, which was really too much deception.
At this time, the Yu family has lost its former glory, Yu Ge's elder has already been given a career, and the strength of the Yu family is incomparable with gu Tingye, a confidant of the new emperor. If Gu Tingye was provoked, with Gu Tingye's temper, not only would he not let go of Zhu Manniang and Chang Ge'er, but he would not let go of the Yu family. How else do the men of the Yu family fight for their careers?
The reason why Elder Yu Ge chose to retire his daughter-in-law Yu Fangshi was not only because the Yu Fang clan was a scourge and could not be retained, but also to give Gu Tingye an explanation.
Gu Tingye was in his prime, but the Yu family was not in good health, because the Yu family either did not make reparations, and if they wanted to make reparations, they would have to satisfy the Gu family; as long as Minglan still remembered his previous feelings, after ten years and eight years, the Two Families of Gu Yu might still have the possibility of making good friends.
I have to say that Elder Yu Ge was very prescient. Yu Fangshi is indeed not a good stubble, after being suspended, she hated Xiao Qin and wanted to take revenge on Xiao Qin, but did not target Xiao Qin, but designed to kill Xiao Qin's innocent grandchildren.
02. Whether it is a man or a woman, if it can destroy three generations, it cannot be left behind.
Theon once said: Marry a good woman and you find a haven in the storm; marry a bad woman, you are in the harbor and you encounter a storm.
Whether it is a man or a woman, those who can destroy three generations cannot be left behind. As a daughter-in-law or son-in-law, he will not treat your parents as elders, even if your parents are good, they will not be able to exchange their hearts for their hearts; as spouses, they will not care about your feelings, will not consider the small family, will only start from their own selfishness, get benefits, it is his, it has nothing to do with you, he caused trouble, but did not let you go, asking husband and wife to suffer together; as a father or mother, they will not lead by example, set a good example for their children, and may teach their children badly.
Marriage is never a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, whether the spouse is good or not, not only affects your life, but also affects the old age of your parents and the life of your children.
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