Love, in any era, is an eternal topic. For each of us, love is beautiful and fascinating.
Carnegie, the world-famous interpersonalist and psychologist, once said in "Carnegie's Advice to Women's Lifelong Happiness":
"Shaohua is perishable, but the inside can be eternal, and when our physical strength becomes weak, only the inner knowledge can fill the emptiness of the soul and have a lasting attraction to men."
Carnegie: When people reach middle age, the opposite sex is like this to you, it is not a fate.
1, Carnegie wrote to women's lifelong happiness advice: husband and wife are not harmonious
After people reach middle age, often many couples have lived together for many years, the so-called love is like a faded dress, under the baptism of life in these years, it has gradually faded the bright color, leaving only a blank of the original.
Plain is the graveyard of marriage, how can a dull life withstand the wild inner uneasiness.
The life of chewing wax has magnified the original inconspicuous problems between many couples, and then entered the so-called seven-year itch and ten-year itch.
The two people who should have been the closest often quarreled over various small things, and home was no longer a haven for everyone, but a "hell" that could not wait to escape.
Although it seems that life and work are two separate parts, in fact, the two are closely related, often a person's life is not fast, the work will not go well, the whole person will also fall into anxiety, irritability.
2, Carnegie wrote to women's lifelong happiness advice: work as a reason, especially care about your people
For a middle-aged person, it is not to say that you cannot have someone who cares about you in particular, but for a person who has a family, such a close connection with the opposite sex may cause unnecessary misunderstanding.
And people are very easy to get used to, once they adapt to this state, they may enjoy this process, then there will be different ideas between each other, and this kind of thinking is very dangerous.
As a middle-aged person, I have experienced the ups and downs of life, it is difficult to stabilize, I have a good life, and I can't stand any tossing.
Many times, the special attachment to a feeling will make what you have in vain. Middle-aged people should have their own judgment and self-control, and should not be easily affected by external temptations.
Then when you meet such a person who cares about you, learn to keep your distance appropriately and not be tricked by the other party.
When a person always asks you out alone on the grounds of work, this may mean a different thing. It's not a good thing to care about your opposite sex in this way, and a relationship that goes beyond the normal realm will become tainted.
Therefore, such a person should learn to stay away and not give the other party the opportunity to get close to you, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble.
3, Carnegie wrote to women's lifelong happiness advice: superficially pretending to greet, but actually having deeper thoughts about you
The feelings of middle-aged people are probably the most complicated. The opposite sex's own relationship may be a good relationship if they get along properly, and if they are not appropriate, they may ruin two families.
For people who already have their own families, it is even more important to learn to restrain and resist unnecessary emotions.
For today's society, the temptation of the outside world is so great, a little carelessness may be attracted to the other party, and this time is not a simple ambiguity so simple, if it is not handled properly, it will hurt more people.
Then for the relationship between the opposite sex, you must learn to recognize each other's intentions, and those who have special ideas about you must learn to keep a distance.
Middle-aged people are more to learn to be rational, not to be deceived by superficial illusions, but also to have their own self-control, away from those who are not pure.
For a person of the opposite sex who treats you like this, there must be special ideas about you, such a person should learn to stay away and not let him affect your good life.
Some people think that the best time in life is before middle age, because at that time, they have the courage to challenge the whole world, and there are countless possibilities in the future.
Some people think that the best time in life is after middle age, because often at this time, everyone's life has been settled, whether it is marriage or career has gradually stabilized, there are no longer so many inner unsettling variables.
But things are always impossible to stand still, there will be accidents in development, you think that a stable middle-aged life, in fact, there will be a lot of uncertainties, emotional breakdown, encounter true love, etc., these seem to only occur in young people Emotional problems, middle-aged people can not avoid.
Love is beautiful and worth imagining and looking forward to. When you meet someone who loves you deeply, remember to cherish it, paddle together, and cross to the other side of happiness. It is recommended that everyone can take a look at the book "Carnegie's Lifelong Happiness Advice to Women", which has a wise insight and insight into how women can achieve happiness, and summarizes a set of methods specifically for how women can achieve happiness and happiness, which can guide you to think rationally.
In this book, Carnegie is divided into seven chapters, and in the language of eloquence, he comprehensively and profoundly expounds the secret of women to get out of confusion and move towards a happy life.
In this book, Carnegie analyzes the various dilemmas that modern women may encounter in emotions, marriages and lives with simple and simple texts and specific examples, and gives detailed and practical solutions to help female friends harvest a full marriage and a happy life.
For example, how to be the master of emotions, how to improve personal charm and attract the attention of the opposite sex; for example, how to replace commands with questions, so that your husband is willing to listen to you; for example, what are the nine basic skills of women in dealing with people.
I like an illustration in the book that reads, "If there is no proper method, happiness is like the stars in the sky, which are unattainable; if the method is right, it is impossible to put the stars in the net." ”
Of course, there are many unique insights in the book, such as why confused women are the most lovely, such as how to change the other half without hurting feelings, such as why it is important to save other people's faces, and so on.
If you want to be a woman with a fragrant soul, if you want to have a full marriage and life, but you don't know where to start, I suggest you read this book. The language of this book is simple and easy to understand, and the articles are all combined with the form of real cases, which are vivid and interesting and resonant.
There are five books in this set, all of which are books of life for women, making women more temperamental and powerful.
May we progress together and become a better and happier woman.