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Carnegie once said, "85% of a person's success stems from his connections." ”
In the dictionary, the interpretation of networking is "the interpersonal network formed through interpersonal relationships." ”
Hei Youlong, head of the Carnegie Training District, pointed out: "Networking is a person's entrance ticket to wealth and success. ”
Previously, the 14-year-old talented girl Full Red Chan became famous at the Tokyo Olympics.
A hospital in her hometown immediately promised to take care of all the matters and expenses of her grandfather and mother's treatment, and many bosses approached her father and offered to sponsor them.
Her home was once bustling with people, and her mother lamented that she had not known there were so many relatives in the family.
The little girl who is not deeply involved in the world does not understand the concept of networking, but her story is telling people that the real network is yourself.
As the saying goes, the depth of the ridge is often the presence of the dragon, and the high sea has its own phoenix perch.
Zengguang Xianwen has: "The poor are not asked in the downtown, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." ”
Only when a person becomes good enough can he attract equally good resources and have real connections.
Networking is a reflection of one's own value
I've seen a story before.
In a large-scale industry event, Chen Lin met a big coffee in the industry, they added WeChat to each other, the other party said that he was a promising offspring, told him that he could ask him for help in the future.
Two months later, Chen Lin had something to ask the big coffee to help, and when he contacted the other party on WeChat with hope, he found that the other party had deleted him at some point.
The reality is such a punch in the face, you think that the network is just a laughing greeting at the dinner table, there is no other intention.
Many people are like Chen Lin, in order to gain a wider network of contacts, they are keen on various social activities, actively participate in party dinners, add WeChat friends to everyone, and distribute business cards everywhere.
They want to use this way to meet more industry celebrities and celebrities, hoping to one day borrow from celebrities to improve themselves and achieve careers.
But they soon found that these big celebrities were very "snobbish", either directly deleting them, or ignoring them and perfunctory.
The circle layer is different, and it is not strong to melt. People in different circles have great disparities in ability, resources do not match, and cannot be exchanged equally.
Proper socializing is a way to open up networking, but it must not be equated with networking.
Networking is a reflection of a person's own value, when there is no fame and no resources, the high climbing circle can often only attract contempt and ridicule.
Instead of taking the time to chase a horse, use the time to chase the horse to plant grass, and when the spring is warm and the grass is green, there will be a group of horses rushing towards you.
The essence of networking is an equivalent exchange
Writer Liu Tong once shared his story on Zhihu.
In the early days of North Drift, he was responsible for finding star topics in an entertainment program of Light Media.
At that time, he was a rookie in the workplace, looking around for friends and relationships in order to find a topic, contacting the agent of the star, and inviting guests to dinner, but with little success.
Occasionally about 1 or 2 people, but a month's salary arrives, in addition to the daily necessary expenses, and then exclude the cost of inviting guests to eat, there is very little left.
He felt that this was not worth the loss, and instead of hitting a wall everywhere, it was better to sink down and do his job well.
Since then, he has no longer spent energy on ineffective remuneration, but has concentrated on honing his work skills and improving his program planning ability.
When he improved his business ability and accumulated a certain amount of qualifications, he directly jumped to a satellite TV and served as the editor-in-chief of an entertainment information program.
After two months of building and running, the show he was responsible for was on the right track and had a small reputation.
Agents who had previously ignored him also began to come uninvited. Some even went around looking for him, as he had done before.
The essence of networking is the equivalent exchange of value.
At that time, Liu Tong was the editor-in-chief of the program, managing a team of dozens of people and having the right to speak in the program. The resources in his hands can help others, and the connections will naturally come naturally.
Networking is not about how many people you know, it's about how many people want to know you.
When you are nothing, your connections are out of reach. When you succeed, connections are at your fingertips.
Don't complain about other people's "snobbery", remember that effective networking comes from successful you.
Connections are rooted in good character
After Wang Lihong's divorce, he was exposed to various collapsed houses, and the previous perfect human setting collapsed in an instant, and the explosive connections also plummeted.
Well-known brands such as Infiniti, Shushulang and Chow Tai Sang have successively announced that they have suspended their cooperation with him, and many artists have shut down his social media and drawn a clear line.
Even if a person has good ability, but there is a problem with his character, his connections will be far away from him.
Good character can increase the thickness and length of the network, and can make a person's life steady and far-reaching.
In "It's None of You", guest Du Zijian once shared a story.
He has a fellow villager, who used to work as a security guard in a community, because he often helps the owners of the community to work, repair the toilet for free, repair the range hood, and has a good reputation among the owners.
There was a real estate owner among the owners of the community, who thought that his craftsmanship was good and good, so he introduced him to do interior decoration. He first returned to his hometown to bring more than a dozen people, and the first order received a project of 1 million yuan, because it was done well, the second order received a project of 5 million yuan.
In this way, he took on more and more projects, and finally, he became the owner of a decoration company with a net worth of over 100 million.
If it weren't for his eagerness to help people first, the real estate owner wouldn't have noticed him at all, and there wouldn't have been a series of stories later.
Many times, helping others is helping oneself, and benefiting others is self-interested.
Yu Minhong once said that if you want to build an effective network, you must first turn yourself into a useful person. Second, help others as unconditionally as possible, and others will help you unconditionally in the future.
The basis of human relations is mutual respect;
The basis of friendship between people is affection;
Mutual benefit and win-win are the most advanced connections.
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Networking seems to be a network of relationships between people and the outside world, but in fact, it has never been about us.
Networking is the flow that comes with a person's own value.
If you bloom, the breeze will come! If you're wonderful, the connections will come!
Qian Mu, a master of traditional Chinese studies, once said: "Throughout the ages, those who have achieved great achievements have no other way but to be able to make stupid efforts." ”
Dive in and work hard to improve yourself, make yourself an expert in a certain field, and have a valuable and scarce ability.
Improve their self-cultivation, have both moral integrity and ability, and become a trustworthy and respected person in the minds of others.
Help others from the heart, and when you become a noble person of others, your connections will come and go.
And you, too, will have a bigger and more exciting world!