【Night listening】People to middle age, silence is golden!

Anchor | Jianning Literal | Riyao

The ancients said: "The depth of the water is silent, and the people are steady." ”

This means that really excellent people are often silent, know how to abandon flashiness, do things calmly, and be open-minded.

Deeply.

The older you get, the more you know how to be silent. Some things need to be endured and not argued; some people need to be let go, don't worry.

The so-called maturity is that it is clear that it should cry and make trouble, but it is the silence of the smile.

Just like Zhang Guorong sang in the song: Silence is golden!

Not explaining, is the best explanation

The most common thing people encounter in this life is to be misunderstood by others.

Singer Han Hong is enthusiastic about public welfare, and when the epidemic occurred the year before, she raised funds through her love foundation.

Many celebrities and netizens have contributed love and put money into Han Hong's love fund.

However, the "good man Han Hong" was reported by the real name of a network big V, saying that the huge amount of charity money was taken by the Han Hong Foundation to "invest".

For three days, Han Hong was scolded on the hot search, and thousands of bad comments came flooding every day. Relevant departments have also begun to intervene in the investigation.

Everyone was waiting for Han Hong's response, and she only left six words in Weibo: "If you can trust it, you will donate!" ”

Soon, the Beijing Civil Affairs Bureau released the results of the investigation: Han Hong was innocent.

In the 2008 Wenchuan earthquake, Han Hongwu went to the disaster area to rescue; in the 2010 Yushu earthquake, she personally donated 300,000 yuan; when the epidemic came, she was still at the forefront.

Han Hong didn't say much, but he did a lot, just like Zhang Guorong sang in silence: Whatever you say, keep my duty, laugh and scold people, and be free to be a person.

Painter Chen Danqing said: "There is no need to let everyone know the real you, or you don't have to constantly explain to people what kind of person I am." Because this is not valid. ”

Because those who understand you don't have to explain; those who don't understand you can't argue. Instead of arguing, it is better to be silent.

The meaning of life is to be yourself, not to explain yourself to everyone.

Instead of struggling to explain, it's better to move forward early.

There is a folk saying: "The debate between right and wrong, suffering, and suffering, there is a clear distinction between the sun and the moon." ”

In life, there are inevitably times when they are misunderstood, and instead of arguing, it is better to close your ears and close your eyes. Respond with silence, use time to prove.

The purifier is self-purifying, has no shame, and not explaining is the best explanation.

Not arguing is the best way to win

Lao Tzu said: "Those who speak do not know, those who know do not speak, those who argue are not good, and those who are good do not argue."

The practice of life is about doing, not arguing.

Many arguments in life, instead of competing for results, will escalate emotions and eventually disperse unhappily.

Carnegie shared a story in his book.

At a banquet, the man next to him told a joke in which he quoted a sentence and explained that it came from the Bible.

Carnegie argues that the sentence came from Shakespeare's work.

The two men disagreed and argued endlessly. So Carnegie asked another friend next to him who was very familiar with Shakespeare's writings.

When my friend heard it, he smiled and said that this sentence was from the Bible.

Afterwards, Carnegie asked his friend in confusion why he was "favoring" the wrong side.

The friend said: "You argue with him, even if you have the upper hand, the other party will be resentful because of the loss of face." ”

Carnegie agreed and concluded, "The only way to win an argument is to avoid arguing." ”

Indeed, everyone's cognition and level are different, and blindly arguing will only cause greater misunderstandings, but will consume themselves.

There's a saying that goes, "Agree with people who oppose you as soon as possible." ”

In the face of different opinions, be silent at the right time, forgive his mistakes, and smile and walk away.

After all, explaining the words to those who understand them is both effortless and meaningful.

Literate people, in silence, will win more respect and trust.

Not arbitrarily evaluating is the highest level of cultivation

There is a saying in "Desire Mountain Villa": "A soft tongue can break a person's muscles and bones." ”

Words, sometimes hurt more than violence.

There is a short video online:

A man in his fifties, after eating at home, said to his white-haired old mother, "Mom, I'm done eating, wash the dishes!" ”

His mother looked to be in her eighties, but she answered, stood up slowly, leaned over, and slowly cleaned up the dishes.

A scolding message immediately pops up on the screen: "You are too unfilial, you are too inhuman!" ”

Just as netizens were crusading, the man said a monologue: "Mom, washing dishes is the task I assign to you every day, even if you are old, your son will always need you." ”

It turned out that with the increase of age, the man's mother had many inconveniences in her actions. In the beginning, in order to take care of his mother, he took care of the family's large and small affairs.

But the mother was depressed because she felt that she was a "waste" who not only needed to be taken care of, but also could not do anything.

In order to make her mother happy, the man arranged some housework for her to the best of her ability. Now, my mother has something to do every day, finds the feeling of being needed, and gradually restores her smile.

Men's "filial piety" hides good intentions.

Many times, we are accustomed to standing in our own perspective, judging the "facts" and labeling them.

But I don't realize what others have experienced behind these "facts". And everything we say has the potential to hurt others.

What we have to do is like the sentence that Zhang Guorong sang in silence: Be careful not to offend others.

Seeing is not necessarily true, so don't argue with others. This is the greatest respect and kindness, and it is also the top cultivation of a person.

Bai Yansong once said: "The larger the pattern, the more they often know how to be silent." ”

A person who can speak is ability, and knowing how to be silent shows his wisdom and pattern.

Wise men, needless to say

Hemingway said: "It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took sixty years to learn to shut up. ”

Life is disturbed, and every silent thought is a process of self-washing and rebirth.

Talk to yourself, enjoy the silent time, read the inner emotions, and feel the beauty of the years. Let the impetuous heart settle down and face everything with a soft posture.

This leisurely, this quiet, back to the initial freshness, the final stability.

Silence is a kind of demeanor, a kind of wisdom, and more importantly, a kind of self-cultivation.

Remember to light up the "watching" at the end of the article, and hope that we can all be in a quiet position and face right and wrong.

For the rest of your life, the years are fine, silence is gold, and you are free to be a man!

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