Good love should be like Mo Yan said: "Whether it is a man or a woman, it is to learn love in love, sum up experience in failure, and love again with a better posture." ”
Anyone in love should understand that love is never a matter of sitting on its own. Especially for women, before encountering love, some women will feel that since a man loves her very much, he should naturally pay for her, and he also needs to be more obedient to her when getting along. It's just that they haven't taken into account that if they still maintain such ideas and attitudes in love, it will be difficult to keep their happiness in the end, but they will bury their love with their own hands.
We all need to know that love is never a one-person thing, nor who loves more, who is the one who has been giving. No matter how much we love someone, we all hope that the other person can also respond, rather than running a love alone.
Therefore, women must understand that in a relationship, no matter how much a man loves you, women must not forget to use their own strength to protect their happiness. If you want to get a sincere love, women must also learn to pay, to learn to manage love.
Stevenson once said: "Because love enters the heart of a person, it is scolded and cannot go away." Since it has come to you, it will possess everything from you. Now that you're in love, that's the only way to do it, and the only way to do it is to think of the cheapest way to get it. ”
We often hear the saying: "A woman who is spoiled is the best life", for women, the cheapest way is to spoil. In love, if a woman does not have a moment of gentleness, even if the man does not say it, he will expect the woman to have a gentle side. In front of men, women want to achieve a certain goal, and many times they can solve it in a playful way.
Generally speaking, in love, these ways of spoiling, women use a good one, can catch a man's heart.
01 When making some demands on men, the attitude should not be too tough, and we must learn to solve them in a playful way.
Shakespeare said, "The power of love is peace, never regardless of reason, convention, and honor, it can make all fear, shock, and pain sweet when suffered." ”
The best way to manage love is not to blindly treat each other with a tough attitude and ask each other, but to learn to manage love in a way that is easier for the other party to accept.
Some women tend to feel that since men love her, they should be nicer to her and spoil her more when they get along. But if it is blindly like this, how can this relationship be more firmly managed?
In love, even if a man loves a woman very much, he will hope that the woman can have a gentle side and have a moment when the bird depends on people. With such a woman, a man's heart will also become softer and more tolerant of women. Therefore, if a woman wants to make some demands with men, she may wish to change her attitude and treat men in a playful way, so that she can better grasp the hearts of men.
02 When encountering some differences or contradictions, women learn to be spoiled and can quickly resolve conflicts.
Dora said: "Life is terrible and ugly. When two people are indeed together, love will turn from honey to chewing gum, the more chewed the lighter, faded to the later it is astringent and bitter, can't help but you not spit it out. ”
Two people together for a long time, is bound to appear in some cases some contradictions and differences, if both people are not willing to show weakness, it will only intensify the contradiction, and even destroy each other's feelings. Some women will feel that in such a situation, if the man really loves her, he will definitely let her. But women should also understand that men are actually very rational, especially when they encounter problems, they do not understand women's minds at all, and will only face problems with their own thoughts.
In this case, in fact, women's attitudes and practices are very important. If the woman's attitude is very firm, it is bound to make the situation more serious in the end. Women properly learn to be spoiled, but they can hit the softest part of men's hearts, so that men no longer have the heart to hurt women, and they know more about protecting women.
03 When love becomes flat, if a woman knows how to spoil, it will make men have more freshness.
Valery said, "It's impossible to 'love' someone or something you absolutely know." Love is always led to places where secrets are hidden. ”
Generally speaking, two people get together for a long time, and the feelings will slowly become flat, no longer as enthusiastic as at the beginning, and fresh. If neither person cares about such a change, love will only become weaker and weaker, until it is finally tasteless.
If a woman feels a change in a man, she doesn't always have to ask why a man has changed, because the answer you get won't be what you want to hear. Instead of constantly asking questions, think of ways to improve your relationship. If you want to change, you have to let the man see the more mysterious side of you, so that it is difficult for him to guess your mind.
If you want to do this, women must learn to be appropriately spoiled, and when there is a sudden change in the way you get along, the man's heart will also inspire more enthusiasm and freshness, so that he can re-examine the relationship and re-understand the woman.
Women want to grasp men's hearts, not only to learn to understand men's thoughts and ideas, but also to know how to use some ways to manage this feeling. These ways must let men see your changes and make men feel more fresh.
Women have learned these ways of spoiling, and when getting along with men, you who seem weak actually have more initiative and can better improve and stabilize your love.