Women want to be able to grasp men's hearts in love, but when it comes to love, many women use the wrong way. The more anxious they are to tie the man's heart, the easier it is to expose their shortcomings, but to make themselves passive, and the result is not as they hope.
Women should know Montaigne's saying: "Whoever loves according to the regulations will not get love", when you treat love in the usual way, it is easy for men to guess your mind, and the result will not be as you wish. If you want to grasp the heart of a man, women must have their own ideas, have a deeper understanding of love, and learn to observe men's minds and know what is going on in men's hearts.
Just as the so-called "know thyself and know each other, win every battle", women can only understand men's minds, know what kind of love they want, and then use some love skills, so that they can do more with less and use the right way.
Marx also said: "It seems to me that true love is manifested in the implicit, humble and even shy attitude of the lover towards his idols, and by no means in the casual expression of enthusiasm and premature intimacy." ”
If women want to grasp a man's heart, they can't show their feelings at will, tell their thoughts to men completely, and even often treat their love with a very enthusiastic state, always thinking of desperately paying for men.
In general, women who can grasp the hearts of men, most of them have these "commonalities", are you such a woman?
01 The fanaticism of love is hidden in the heart, and the enthusiasm is not fully expressed.
Love, sometimes, is a process in which you retreat and you advance and you retreat. When we know that the other party loves us deeply, slowly we will not give too much, but will operate love from the perspective of a enjoyer. On the contrary, if the other party does not love us so much, and we care about this relationship very much, we will naturally use our hearts to manage love and try to grab each other's hearts.
In the face of love, men naturally have such a psychology. When he can't guess your mind, he will spend a lot of effort to understand you and capture your true heart. When he guesses your mind and is sure that you love him very much and can't do without him, his thoughts on you will only slowly decrease, and wait for you to take the initiative to pay.
How can men guess a woman's mind? To a large extent, in fact, men are just looking at whether women are enthusiastic about him. When a woman's attitude is very cold, or if she is about to leave, men naturally cannot guess the woman's mind. If the woman has been acting very enthusiastically, the man will also know very well that the woman cares about him very much.
Smart women generally hide this enthusiasm in their hearts and will not fully show it. In this way, it is easier to grasp the heart of men.
02 Will not fully meet the requirements of men, know how to grasp the initiative of love.
Gao Naiyi said: "Once love is satisfied, the charm of others is gone." ”
Women should know that in love, when men don't understand you, the love for you is the strongest and most costless. After slowly getting familiar with and understanding, the man's love will slowly decrease, until finally after fully understanding you, his love for you will slowly pass.
If a woman wants to grasp the initiative of love, she must learn to refuse in love and know how to protect her rights and interests in love. If you blindly meet the requirements of men, after men make some requests, women do not know how to refuse, or will feel that after they refuse, men will be angry, then women will not have such an important position in men's hearts.
When meeting a man who loves a lot, women must understand this, want to grasp the initiative, want to grasp the man's heart, you must learn to refuse, do not completely meet the man's requirements.
03 Have your own hobbies, don't be completely immersed in a relationship, have your own life.
In life, there will always be some women who, after encountering love, completely lose themselves and devote themselves to love. For love, they gave up their lives, gave up their hobbies, and always felt that as long as they loved a woman enough and cared about this relationship enough, they would be able to get the happiness they wanted.
They thought so, and finally did the same, but unfortunately the ending was not what they expected. If a woman gives all her thoughts to love, it is very difficult to get her wish in the end. On the contrary, those women who still maintain a sober self in love and know how to manage love while operating their own will certainly be able to keep their love and seize men's hearts in the process of improving themselves.
Valery also said, "It is impossible to "love" someone or something you absolutely know." Love is always led to places where secrets are hidden. ”
Women understand this, and naturally understand how to protect their love. Smart women are often able to see men's minds clearly, and at the same time know how to use the most appropriate means to grasp their love.