We often say that when encountering love, we must take the initiative and be brave, so that we can seize our own fate in time. Otherwise, when you easily miss it, this fate can not come back.
Can you really get a good love by taking the initiative? In fact, this is also a matter of probability. First of all, we must see what kind of person you meet, and see if the other party will cherish your initiative. Second, it depends on the way you get along.
Take the initiative to pursue a love, this is just a stepping stone to love, see how you get along with each other, this is an important condition for how a relationship will develop.
Just like in the TV series "You Are My Glory", the fate of YuTu and Qiao Jingjing began in high school, and there are naturally many suitors around the excellent Yutu, and Qiao Jingjing is one of them.
However, the beautiful and brave Qiao Jingjing took the initiative to confess twice and was rejected by YuTu. Later, Yu Tu saw his heart clearly and went to save this relationship.
After the two were together, although Qiao Jingjing took the initiative at first, after getting along, Qiao Jingjing was not looked down upon by YuTu, but loved her more and more.
Qiao Jingjing can have such an enviable love, not only because of her good luck and meet a good man, but also because of her own personality. Although she is very active and brave in the face of love, she is not blinded by love, and even becomes the kind of "love brain" we often say.
Wovinag said, "Habit is everything, even in love." ”
Women should know that when you encounter love, you can take the initiative, but you must remember that in these cases, or don't be too active, otherwise it is easy to be looked down upon by the other party, so that it will not be cherished.
01 Don't easily sacrifice your life and career for men.
Remember in "You Are My Glory", Qiao Jingjing's predecessor was a man with status and money. Qiao Jingjing will choose to break up, mainly because the two people's three views are inconsistent, the other party does not intend to go with her all the time, but casually offers to let her give up her career, and said that her parents do not like his other half to do such work.
Fortunately, Qiao Jingjing is very sober, she is very clear, even if she gives up her career, she may not be able to have a good ending with him, and in the end she will definitely be looked down upon, and finally not only lose love, but also lose her career.
Sober Qiao Jingjing, she managed herself very well. So after breaking up for half a year, he once again attracted the attention of his ex and wanted to reunite with her.
Meller Sain said, "Love is not who sacrifices for whom, who does what for whom, and once love becomes like this, it is not love." ”
Women do not want to be looked down upon by men, do not take the initiative to sacrifice themselves, but to know how to balance the relationship, and stand on the same footing with men, so as to exchange for men's respect and cherishing.
02 With men, women don't be too proactive in spending money.
Bacon said, "Man cannot extinguish love, nor can he be obsessed with love." ”
Before encountering love, we can all swear: "Even if I meet love, I can be myself and not be blinded by love." "No matter how determined we are at this time, there is no guarantee that we can still maintain such thoughts after encountering love."
Just like we can often see such women, when they first start a relationship, they will be very reserved, and after a period of time together, they will take the initiative to consider men, especially in terms of economic conditions.
Knowing that men's conditions are average, they will take the initiative to bear the daily expenses. And women will also pay special attention to men's faces, will quietly give, and will find various excuses to make men better accept.
In the matter of spending money, women occasionally take the initiative a few times, which will make men feel very warm and touched. But if women often take the initiative and let men form such a habit, over time men will only feel that this is a matter of course.
Two people together, men will feel that the woman loves him very much, reluctant to leave her, naturally will feel that such feelings are very cheap.
03 In some more intimate behaviors, women should not be too active, otherwise it is easy to be looked down upon.
Between lovers, women want to grasp the heart of men, and they must be passive in some things, so that they can stand in a more active position. If a woman is too active, she will eventually make herself very passive.
The most obvious is that in some more intimate behaviors, if a woman can't control her inner enthusiasm, and her mind is completely expressed in behavior, she will take the initiative to show this enthusiasm, and it is easy for men to think that you are a very casual woman. Even if your casualness is only directed at him alone, he will not trust you.
Corneille said, "Once love is satisfied, the charm of others disappears." ”
Men have a desire to conquer women in their hearts, and in the relationship, the more calm the woman's performance, the more men will have a sense of crisis, and it is easy to be anxious about the relationship. If women take the initiative to appear some intimate behavior, it will only make men more unscrupulous and do not know how to cherish you.
Although women's initiative does not completely make men look down, women must also grasp a scale, especially in these things, or control their behavior, do not easily take the initiative to express themselves.