Stendhal said, "Love is like a high fever, and it comes and goes without the will." ”
When the opposite sex gets along, often two people do not know when to start, and the relationship becomes ambiguous. Originally thought that there would be a very pure friendship between the opposite sex, I did not know that after getting along, I would understand that it was easy for the opposite sex to get along, so there was a long-term love affair.
The most embarrassing thing is that when you find that your feelings have changed, you dare not say it easily. Because you will worry that the other party will just treat yourself as an ordinary friend, if you blindly express your love, it is likely that you will not be able to be a friend in the future.
Men and women get along, if it is only an ordinary friendship relationship, and there is no idea of love, then when they get along, they will be particularly calm, will not let each other misunderstand, and will not make some ambiguous behaviors.
However, if there are some changes in the relationship, when the two get along, each other's body language will also change, making the relationship between the two more ambiguous.
In life, some people have large nerves, and many times you only need to look closely to find that that person is different from other people. It's just that often they tend to ignore these behaviors, always thinking that the relationship between them is still relatively simple.
In order to avoid some unnecessary trouble, in the process of communication, it should be clear that when you appear these body language, it is enough to show that the relationship between you is not simple.
01 There are often intimate behaviors that only couples have.
We often say that "men and women are not intimate", when we have no feelings for a member of the opposite sex, we will pay attention to the measure of getting along. Whether it is talking or in some behaviors, special attention will be paid to it, for fear that there will be some behavior that embarrasses each other, or behavior that will make the other party misunderstand.
Just like in the TV series "You Are My Glory", Yu Tu's way of being of the opposite sex and Qiao Jingjing are completely different. When talking to his ex-girlfriend Xia Qing, Yu Tu didn't have any extra words, and every word he said was pushing Xia Qing outward.
In addition to talking, it is also a great distance in behavior. When he walked out of the café, Yu Tu was also very far away, not wanting to cause any misunderstanding to Xia Qing.
When getting along with Qiao Jingjing, although it is not too intimate, when walking together, it will naturally walk next to each other, making people look like they are a couple of lovers. When teaching Qiao Jingjing to play games, there are also some very intimate behaviors that often occur, although Yu Is unaware of it, but these behaviors have made Qiao Jingjing's heart beat faster.
These changes in body language have actually clearly shown that the relationship between the two is not simple.
02 When you can't see each other, you often miss each other.
If there is only friendship between the opposite sex, they will feel very happy when they are together, and when they are separated, they will only think of each other, and they will not miss each other at all. But love is different, no matter whether you are happy when you are together, you will definitely miss each other after breaking up. The longer you are separated, the stronger the feeling of missing it will be.
If there is a friend of the opposite sex, when you can't see each other, you will often miss each other, and you can't help but miss it, which is enough to show that the relationship between you is not simple. Before that, the so-called friendship between you had long since been transformed into love.
As Molière said, "If you don't harm lovesickness, happiness will not be your share." ”
Once there is a constant longing between men and women, such physical changes actually tell you that your relationship has long since changed.
03 When you see each other getting along with other people of the opposite sex, you will be jealous, you will be suspicious, and you will be entangled.
Simple friends of the opposite sex will not bind each other. Whether in life or when interacting with people, these are the freedom of a person, and since there is no so-called lover relationship, naturally there is no qualification to restrain anyone.
In this way, you can test which kind of relationship you belong to. When you see the other person getting along with other people of the opposite sex, will your heart be uncomfortable, will you be angry, jealous. If you have such emotions, it means that you are no longer as simple as an ordinary friend to him.
Vasilev also said: "Love needs a thin layer of sorrow, a little jealousy, doubt, drama." ”
Between the opposite sex, if your body language has these changes, when you see each other getting along with other people of the opposite sex, you will be jealous, you will doubt, and even tangle, and you will be lost, which is enough to show that the relationship between you has long been not simple, but there has not been such a situation before for you to feel your heart.
The opposite sex gets along, when the relationship begins to change, it is actually very dangerous, and a little attention may make the two people get along awkwardly. When you feel that your relationship is no longer simple, you must learn to face your own heart and think clearly about how to get along next.
Ding Ling said: "Reckless playing with love is like playing with fire, and there is a danger of self-immolation at any time. If love is a sweet wine syrup, but casually drinking, it will also become a strong poisonous juice. ”
In the face of feelings, don't think that you can dominate and decide everything. If you really like it, get along well and understand it; if you don't like it, don't cause any misunderstanding to the other party.
Feelings can't stand toying, and they need to be treated with your heart.