After falling in love with someone, our minds will involuntarily fly to each other. When you see each other, you will be deeply attracted to the other party, just care about his feelings, and observe his behavior. When you can't see it, your inner thoughts will become thicker and thicker, and you can't help but contact the other party, wanting to know all the news about him.
Kivasilev said: "Love has always been both an exciting memory and a bright and clear expectation." ”
Love is this feeling, which will make us recall the past countless times, and will also make us have more expectations for the future. They will fantasize about what the next meeting will be like, and they will fantasize about how this relationship will develop.
The more you can't control this miss, the easier it is to contact each other frequently.
It's just that many times your expectations will not be as you wish. Do you think that if you take the initiative to contact the other person, he will be happy about it and respond to you with the same enthusiasm? However, in the end, feeling his indifferent attitude, you will only be constantly disappointed and anxious.
Betting the rest of your life on a relationship is likely to turn out in the opposite direction. You thought your efforts would come in exchange for a happy ending, but in the end it ended in a breakup.
No matter how much you care about a person, you must also grasp the balance of it, and the more you want to tie the other person's heart, the more you must control your behavior.
For example, in the TV series "You Are My Glory", Qiao Jingjing was moved by YuTu first, but after two confessions, she was rejected by Yutu. Although Yu Tu also has his own considerations, it also shows that Qiao Jingjing's initiative did not deeply attract Yu Tu, but gave him the opportunity to escape this relationship.
Qiao Jingjing confessed that she failed, but she was not a love brain, so after the failure, she completely cut off her connection with YuTu. Even if Yu Tu later took the initiative to confess, Qiao Jingjing did not immediately agree to it, but treated Yu Tu with a relatively calm attitude.
In the two days that the two were separated, Yu Tu sent a lot of messages to Qiao Jingjing, but did not get a response. Yu Tu couldn't help but call Qiao Jingjing, and didn't get a warm response from Qiao Jingjing.
Qiao Jingjing's attitude did not drive away from Yu Tu, but completely disturbed Yu Tu's heart, making him anxious and making him miss Qiao Jingjing all the time.
Although it is only the plot of the TV series, it also allows us to see some love skills, that is: love someone, don't contact too often.
The more frequently you connect, the more invisibly elevate the other person's position.
When we love someone deeply, there are naturally blind impulses. For example, they will take the initiative to show kindness to each other, will take the initiative to help each other, and even seize the opportunity to offer courtesy. These are the most common ways to look when you meet love.
We can lose our minds for love, but we must grasp the balance of it, don't keep indulging in it, blinded by love. When you miss him, you can take the initiative to contact him, but you must control the frequency of the initiative. You know, the more frequently you connect, the easier it is for the other person to see your mind and understand his importance to you.
When he knows that he is important, he will know you more and more, know your mind, and thus raise his position invisibly. When I get along with you, I will also become proud, not seeing your efforts, only seeing my own "good".
Valery said, "It's impossible to 'love' someone or something you absolutely know." Love is always led to places where secrets are hidden. ”
To put it simply, the more familiar he is with you, the less likely he is to give you the same love, but only to enjoy your initiative and enjoy your efforts. Only when he can't guess you will he often guess your mind and be anxious about the relationship.
If you want to tie the other person's heart, you have to control your own behavior.
A good friend, she fell in love with a boy. At first, they got along well, and when they chatted, they got along very well, and the friend thought that the other party must like her, so they would have such a good attitude towards her.
However, after waiting for a long time, the other party did not have the intention of confessing to her. She worries that she has missed a relationship and that she has missed someone she likes. After this worry appeared, she also took the initiative to contact the other party and care about his life. The more I can't control this feeling in my heart, the more frequent the connection will be.
However, in the end, her initiative did not exchange for the other party's sincerity, but made the other party feel that she was too active, and she began to get tired of her entangled behavior, and even said some more excessive words. Fortunately, my friend woke up in time and never contacted me again. Not long after, the other party began to look for her again, and she felt that the other party was ridiculous, so she decisively blocked it.
Roh Herrick said, "Fanatical love will never last." ”
Whether it is a man or a woman, when encountering love, no matter how desperate you want to have this feeling, when you contact each other, you must also know how to feel the attitude of the other party, and understand his mind from his attitude. Sometimes love is gradual, rather than relying on blind enthusiasm.
Your contact is too frequent, and sometimes it's easy to make the other person resentful and make him feel like he's lost his freedom. Tagore said, "If love is bound, the journey of the world is immediately terminated." ”
Falling in love with a person, wanting to tie his heart, not only to take care of your own thoughts, but also to consider the feelings of the other party.
Love needs to have a certain gap, an unpredictable accident, and the most basic reason.