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Each of us has a different definition of like and love, some people think that like is the initial feeling, and love is the feeling after contact.
In fact, no matter which one it is, we will find that like and love are different.
When you like a person, you can care about each other's feelings, you can pay attention to each other's feelings, but you must not have the intention to do it when you love.
Because when we love, we will think that the other party is ours, the only person we are, the person we love with our hearts, and the person we want to accompany for a lifetime.
At this time, our giving is wholehearted, and our love is wholehearted.
When we are able to do this, we will find that there is a difference between liking and loving, and it is completely different.
Like and love are different
I don't know if you have such a feeling, when you like a person, consider your own feelings, not the other person's feelings, when you love someone, more concerned about the other person's feelings.
Whether the other person is happy, whether the other party is happy, whether the other party cares about our feelings.
At this time, we will find that the feelings of like and love in our hearts are different, and when the feelings in our hearts are different, we also show different feelings.
I have seen a sentence on the Internet that a person likes you and will try to give you the best, but not necessarily what you want, and when a person loves you, what is given to you must be what you want.
In the TV series "You Are My Glory", Qiao Jingjing and Xia Qing's love for the way explains everything.
Xia Qing said that she loved YuTu, but complained about Tu, forced Yu Tu, had her own requirements for Tu, and hoped that Yu Tu would become what she wanted to be.
And Qiao Jingjing is different, she loves Yutu very much, she will not change Yutu because of her love, but let Yutu be herself, she loves Yutu this person, she knows that Yutu has changed is not what she wants, so she will never force Yutu to become what she wants to be. Is always respectful of the way.
This is the difference between like and love, like is the best for each other, but do not consider the other party's feelings, and love is sincerely from the perspective of the other party to consider.
Loved it was taken care of
In reality, there are many people who confuse the true meaning of like and love.
Many people regard their likes as love, so for a person to die and live, sometimes it is very broken, sometimes it is very painful, but in fact, in the end, we will find that forgetting such a person is really fast.
We can quickly forget each other, quickly do not care about each other's feelings, in the face of the person who once felt very painful, very uncomfortable, we ourselves feel surprised, can't figure out how to forget so quickly.
Because we don't really love each other, but like is good feelings.
For example, when you are with each other, you always ask the other party to do something for you, what to do for your love, never care about each other's feelings, such feelings are like.
Such feelings will break down the other person, will make the other person miserable, and will make the other person uncomfortable.
We always think that we really love, we are very hard to give, but we don't want to, our love is a kind of harm to each other.
Sometimes we also take care of each other's feelings, take care of each other's lives, but when there is really something, we always care about our own feelings, that is, what we need, what we like, not what the other party needs, what the other party likes.
I once saw such a sentence: "If you like a flower, you will pluck it and take it for yourself, but if it is love, it is to water and fertilize it and let it grow happily." ”
When you like a person, in fact, your likes are selfish, maybe sometimes you will pay for the other party, sometimes you will care about the other party's feelings, but most of the time, it is selfish, it is only about yourself.
Love is to make you comfortable
But love is really different, love is to make people comfortable, make people happy, make the other party feel very solid and at ease.
In the TV series "You Are My Glory", Yu Tu likes the aerospace industry very much, he has his own aerospace dream, but then he feels that he has no money and wants to change careers to do finance, after all, finance makes money quickly.
Later, with Qiao Jingjing, Qiao Jingjing hoped that he would think more about his feelings, rather than how life was.
Later, Yu Tu decided to continue to do his own aerospace career, and Qiao Jingjing never disliked the small money earned by Yu Tu, nor did she dislike Yu Tu's small family.
Instead, he moved to Yutu's house very much, and began to clean up and tidy up Yutu's home, turning a small home into a home for two people.
When YuTu is busy at work, he will never complain that Yutu does not accompany himself, and he will never complain that Yutu does not care about his feelings.
Instead, it is to respect the work of the way, respect the cause of the way, and be busy with your own business.
The two are very comfortable when they are together, and such a comfortable relationship makes YuTu love Qiao Jingjing more and more.
In fact, true love is like this. It's like a sentence that Qu Xiaoxiu once said: "How can a person who can't make you laugh before marriage, how can he be after marriage?" We were looking for an interesting soul to live with in our relationship, but suddenly found that such a life suffocated you, and in a depressing atmosphere, everyone wanted to escape. ”
Deeply believed, love is to make the other person comfortable, let the other party live the life they want.
For the rest of your life, find someone who makes you comfortable!
Emotional mentor Tu Lei said: "Like, can be moved." And love, it must be heartache. Like, can give up. But love, must be reluctant. Like a person, winter is just winter. But love someone, winter can become spring. Love someone, he shed tears and you will cry with him. And like a person, he shed tears you will only comfort. ”
Yes, like and love are completely different, when you are with the person you like, there is happiness, but many times you either have to follow each other, or you have to do it according to the other party's wishes, at this time you will definitely feel uncomfortable.
When you choose a person you love, then you will feel comfortable, you can live according to your own wishes, according to your own ideas.
When you feel comfortable and happy in a relationship, you will feel the beauty of love and can also feel happiness.
So in this life, you must find someone who makes you comfortable, so that no matter when, you always feel very happy, such a person, in the rest of your life can give you happiness.
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