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In the world of feelings, we always think that if a person loves us, he will definitely take the initiative to contact us, and once a person does not take the initiative to contact us, he must not love us.
So a lot of times, we use this way to judge a person's love, to judge whether a person loves us.
For example, sometimes, if a person never takes the initiative to contact us, we will feel that the other party must not love us, must not feel us.
But in fact, it is not the case, sometimes, a person does not contact you, but instead of not loving you, he loves you deeply, but misses you very much.
I saw a Q&A on the Internet before: What is the reason why a person misses a person but is unwilling to contact?
Someone said, "If you don't contact, you must not really miss it." ”
Some people also said: "Only people who don't love will not be contacted." ”
But in fact, it is not all like this, some people do not contact you, not that they do not love you, but they love you deeply, because they care about your feelings, they value you, but they do not know how to contact.
As the saying goes: liking is wanton, and deep love is restraint.
Oh, yes! When a person is very restrained, it is not that he does not love you, but that he loves you deeply.
But in a relationship, when a person misses you very much, but does not contact you, most of them are the following reasons.
The deeper the love, the less you will bother
In the world of feelings, when a person loves you very much, they will care about your feelings, attach great importance to your feelings, and they will always pay attention to your ideas.
So at this time, I think too much and will not take the initiative to contact you.
They are afraid that you are inconvenient now, and the current contact will disturb you and make you unhappy, so they will be cautious and dare not take the initiative to contact.
I'm afraid that being too proactive will make you unhappy and make you unhappy.
The French writer Romain Rolland once said: "When you really love someone, you will forget your own bittersweet gains and losses, and only care about the other party's bittersweet gains and losses." ”
Oh, yes! When we love someone very much, we forget our feelings and care about each other's feelings.
In our opinion, if the other party needs it, we are willing to do it, and once we find that the other party does not need it, then we will resolutely not do it.
That's why some people care about you and like you a lot, but aren't willing to initiate a way to contact you.
The other person no longer loves, they would rather suffer alone
In the world of feelings, once two people love each other, then at any time, as long as we want to contact, we will take the initiative to contact, want to be together, will take the initiative to go together, but sometimes, once we find out, the other party is not like this.
Once we find out that the other party does not love us, we will not take the initiative to contact, we know that such contact is a kind of interruption.
So no matter how much you miss it, no matter how much you worry about it, you won't take the initiative to contact, and you'd rather suffer alone.
Just like in the TV series "You Are My Glory", Qiao Jingjing likes Yutu very much, after Yutu taught her to play games, she was afraid that she would not have a chance in the future, so she took the initiative to confess to Yutu, hoping that Yutu would fall in love with herself.
After confessing to Yu Tu, her heart was very worried, but Yu Tu refused.
Seeing Yu Tu's refusal, Qiao Jingjing was extremely uncomfortable, and in the days that followed, no matter how much she missed Yu Tu, she would not take the initiative to contact, and even after seeing Yu Tu's message, she never replied.
Sometimes, a person does not contact, does not reply, not do not love, but deep love, but we know that the other party does not love, our contact will only be a kind of disturbance, so will not take the initiative to contact, will not take the initiative to disturb.
No matter how much pain it is, it will not disturb the other party
There is a feeling of happiness, because the person we love also loves us, but there is a feeling that is not, but the other party does not love, no matter how much we love, how hard we work, we will find that the other party does not care about us.
At this time, no matter how much we love, no matter how much we care, we will not take the initiative to disturb each other, we know that the other party is not loved, and our own contact is just a disturbance.
There is a saying on the Internet: The best love, more or less, I hope you are happy, even if it has nothing to do with me.
This may be the best love, this may be the best feeling.
In the world of feelings, no matter how much we love someone, once the other party does not love, we will try to suppress our feelings, so as to choose not to contact.
Maybe we will miss crying, we will miss the heartache, but no matter how uncomfortable we are, no matter how much pain we are, we are not willing to disturb each other.
At this point, our connection is a kind of interruption, a kind of pain, and such an interruption is not liked by the other party.
The other party doesn't like it, even if we want to do it, we will hold back.
Behind love but not connection, there is deep love
Sometimes, a person loves you very much, misses you, but chooses not to contact, not because he doesn't miss it, not because he doesn't love, but because he loves deeply, but he cares very much.
There is a saying: There is a kind of love that is not only fulfilled, but all that is left is blessing.
And this kind of person who loves deeply but does not contact, is like this, deeply loves you, only wishes you a good life, so if you don't contact, it won't bother you.
As long as you live happily, no matter how hard they are, no matter how much they care, no matter how much pain.
Wang Xiaobo once said: If you are willing, I will always love you, and if you are not willing, I will always miss each other.
If you want to, I will always love you, but if you don't want to, I will never contact you, not bother you, but a person silently misses, a person silently misses.
The world of feelings is very delicate, it needs both people to love, if there is only one person's love, it is not called love.
We all yearn for love that goes in both directions, but if we don't, we must also learn to love ourselves well, maybe we will miss each other, we will miss each other.
But we must not aggrieved ourselves, and we must seek perfection.
Because life is your own, don't embarrass yourself and make yourself miserable for a person who doesn't love you.
You know, your life is worth it only if you live every day well.
So in this life, love yourself well, love the person who loves you with your heart.
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