Text: Xi Xihuan
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As the old saying goes, marriage should be the right door, and choosing what kind of person to enter the marriage is related to the happiness of the future, not because it is too realistic, nor do you want to use marriage as a springboard to change your destiny, but you feel that the ideal marriage should be like this.
I once saw such a story on the Internet, which is the real experience shared by netizens, he and his girlfriend fell in love for five years, the love of the two people began from the campus, survived the graduation breakup season, and persuaded their families to stay in the same city when looking for a job.
Originally thought that when it was successfully entered into marriage, the man gave up and chose to leave, friends are puzzled, in such a society now, can talk about five years of love, but also faced so much pressure together, enough to show that two people love each other very deeply.
In fact, the breakup is also very painful for men, after all, she is prepared for the rest of her life, really separated for some reasons, and the inner torment must also be there.
The woman has a younger brother in the family, and the woman is indeed a good woman, sensible and gentle, and knows how to think about others, but in the end the man decided to break up because of the woman's "understanding".
It turned out that two people worked together to save money in order to get married and buy a house early, but the woman did not consult with the man to take the savings of both people to buy a house for her brother to get married, and the most important thing was to write the name of her brother alone.
When men are angry, women cry a lot, saying that they also have bitterness, why men can't understand her, and finally they are angry and directly say that men just mind her family conditions are not good.
At that moment, the man finally admitted that what his parents said was right was really reasonable.
Netizens have a lot of hot discussions about men's stories, some people feel that men are not true love for women, because if it is true love, they will not know the difficulties of women and do not understand her;
Some people stand on the side of men, feel that they can understand men's moods and choices, after all, marriage is a lifelong thing, women seem to be kind, for the sake of their parents, for the sake of their brothers, but she is the only one who does not think about men.
Privately stole the common deposit with the two men, the house only wrote the name of the younger brother, in fact, in essence, the love of men is not deep enough, let alone respect men, at least not in advance did not consult with men.
There used to be a word on the Internet called "Brother Demon" is very popular, and many men are reluctant to find such a woman as a partner when choosing a mate.
It is not that men are selfish, but when looking for an object, men are actually very concerned about women's family conditions, such as "helping brothers and demons" is not within the scope of men's consideration.
A portion of the income goes to the family, and even some patriarchal parents put the pressure of their sons' marriage on their daughters' shoulders.
I have to say that such women are actually very pitiful, and what is even more hateful is that they will not resist, but feel that this is what they should bear, such as the ex-girlfriend of the above netizen, she does not feel that she is wrong to use the common savings with men to buy a house for her brother, but feels that men do not understand her difficulties as a sister.
Falling in love with such a woman, getting married, men will unconsciously bear part of the pressure of women, and some people may say that truly loving someone should not bear all the pressure with her?
It also depends on what kind of pressure it is, and such pressure will only make men feel more and more tired in this relationship, not caring and attention, and not getting the respect they deserve.
Some men feel that women now are very materialistic, and whether they decide to start a relationship depends on whether the man's family conditions are solid and whether he can give her the material life she wants after marriage.
But in fact, women forget that men also care about your family conditions, because it is also related to the quality of your life later.
It is said that the best marriage is to achieve each other, not to drag each other down, if the woman's family conditions are not good, the woman is not self-motivated, and the mother's family has to make progress, which is undoubtedly unfair to men.
In the final analysis, in fact, what a man really cares about is what kind of education, cognition and values the woman's original family gives her.
Even if the woman's family conditions are not very good, but if the woman is very motivated and her parents are reasonable, such a girl may not have enjoyed a very good life materially, but she is equally confident, optimistic and attractive.
In fact, a person's inner life will not be easily changed by external environments and factors, because the inside depends on what kind of life she pursues and what kind of self she wants to achieve.
Man should learn to see the essence through the phenomenon, and the man cares about the woman's family conditions, not simply to see whether the woman has money in the family, but to see what kind of outlook on life her original family gives her.
Friend Zhang Mingxuan and his first love girlfriend are married, the relationship between the two has gone through eight years, and many people who witnessed their feelings have shed tears at the wedding.
Zhang Mingxuan's parents are in business, even if the family is well-off, and there is only one son like Zhang Mingxuan, so they are looking forward to the future daughter-in-law, naturally, the requirements will not be low.
After Zhang Mingxuan fell in love, he did not dare to tell his parents at first, because his parents once told him that the object of marriage in the future must be the right one with their family, and those who are not well off cannot be found.
The girl's home is rural, although there are no siblings, but as an only child, she does not have the advantages of the family.
The parents' health is not very good, especially the mother needs to take medicine for many years to maintain, the father can not do heavy work, can only usually give people odd jobs to maintain their livelihood.
Zhang Mingxuan knew her when she was working in the place where she worked, after understanding, Zhang Mingxuan liked this self-motivated and optimistic girl, so he boldly confessed, but the girl refused, she felt that her conditions did not match him, and she did not want to drag him down.
Then the more they get along, the more Zhang Mingxuan feels that the girl is the person he wants, she has too much beauty in her, she is self-reliant, strong, brave, optimistic, even if the family conditions are not good?
After the parents knew, they did not directly object, and after meeting with the girl's parents, they directly gave the bride price, the girl's parents were very sensible, Zhang Mingxuan's parents knew that they were not that kind of material people, and thanked them for raising such a good daughter.
Obviously, the girl Zhang Mingxuan married will bring him happiness, because her parents have educated a self-reliant daughter who knows gratitude, and the family conditions are not her disadvantages, but the factors that have made her character attractive.
Therefore, the reason why men care about women's family conditions is most importantly what kind of person a woman is.
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