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Nowadays, people are more and more tolerant of feelings and marriage, and single people can marry divorced people or divorce with children.
As long as two people truly love each other, regardless of whether they have ever been married or not, they can be very happy in the future.
But because marriage is also complex and realistic.
A lot of times it's different from what we think, like you think you're in love.
But the reality is that you love each other, but each other's parents may not be optimistic.
It's also possible that you have too many expectations of marriage and confuse marriage with love.
Love has no chai rice oil and salt, but marriage has countless trivial things.
Of course, if your significant other is divorced, you may also have to face his ex, or children.
Divorce is not bad, after all, after experiencing a failed marriage, the marriage will be more cautious, will be more cherished, and also have a certain experience, marrying such a person, may be less run-in, but may also involve a lot.
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When Chen Ru was pursued by her husband, he had just been divorced for 3 months, and his friend introduced her to her, saying that he and his wife were not in harmony, and it was really impossible to live on, peaceful divorce, and the children belonged to the man.
She didn't want to see it, but she couldn't stop her friend from saying that the other person was of good character, so she agreed to meet.
After meeting, the other party fell in love with her at first sight, launched a crazy pursuit, did not dare to wind and rain, and was not moved to pick her up.
As long as it is the day when relatives come, the other party will also accompany them, booing and asking for warmth.
Usually paid a salary to buy her a variety of gifts, but also with her vision of the future of two people, where to buy a house, have a baby, the future who will take the child, are very thoughtful.
She gradually let down her guard, feeling that he was much more reliable than people of the same age, and that having a marriage should be more cherished.
It should not happen without children, without consideration.
So after half a year of pursuit, I got married.
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As a result, not long after getting married, I found that my husband's ex-wife often went to her mother-in-law's house, saying that she was going to see her son, and sometimes asked him to go to dinner and live.
She was unhappy and felt that if her ex-wife wanted a son, she could bring it back and come over to see it, but there was no need to live there.
But after talking to her husband, the other party began to comfort her, saying that she had a good relationship with her mother before, and recently she was looking at her son, which meant nothing else.
She didn't go to her heart.
But not long after, I found that it was like this again, and the family of three also took the children out to play, as if she was an outsider.
Her husband also gradually lost patience to explain to her, and said that she was unreasonable and did not let herself look at the children.
The two men began a cold war.
Sometimes I also watch my husband and ex-wife call, and she proposes to divorce her like this, and her husband ignores her.
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She said she didn't have any children herself and didn't want future children to share their fatherly love with others.
There is a saying that the first marriage is afraid of the third person outside the marriage, but the divorce is afraid of the ex-wife.
In fact, it is true that the most feared thing about marrying a divorced person is the handling of the ex.
In particular, how to deal with this boundary with children requires the other party to have a high degree of coordination ability.
Secondly, he needs to be sincere with you and not biased.
It doesn't matter if the children of the past are definitely not right, but it is sad to ignore your feelings because of the past.
Therefore, when encountering such a person, even if the feelings are good, it is still necessary to examine the other party's ability to deal with emotions.
If he can handle his ex-wife and children fairly, he can rest assured.
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The TV series Our Ex-Wife, which tells a lot of ex-wives about the interference of men and current partners.
This is also a common distress of many women who marry divorced men.
Children naturally have to be taken care of, but with the incumbent, that and the incumbent are a family, even in order to accompany the child, it is also with the incumbent.
The ex-wife can be alone with the child, after all, she must also let the child know that the parents are separated, but the love for him will not be less.
Giving respect to the ex-wife, giving the incumbent a sense of security, and giving love to the children is the right way.
If there is no boundary, there is no tolerance for hurt, and in the end there will always be a person who will be hurt.
At that time, I was afraid that the former incumbents could not handle it well.
Therefore, since the family is re-established, it is necessary to be clear about your responsibilities and boundaries, and not to let the tragedy happen again.
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Love emotions, interpret emotional confusion, pay attention to marriage problems, and be willing to listen to your sorrow and happiness, along the way