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Some people say that love is like a gust of wind, coming and going fast, and some people say that love is the happiest existence in the world, it can make two unrelated people feel sorry for each other.
But there is one kind of love that is most heart-wrenching, and that is the perfect love.
In "Rumored Chen Qianqian", Han Shuo loves Qianqian, as long as it is for Qianqian's good, he is willing to do anything.
Qianqian herself traveled through the past, she understood that Han Shuo was a very scheming person, so she didn't like it, but when they got along, Han Shuo found that Qianqian was very kind and slowly liked her.
This liking is a lifetime.
Once he came to Huayuan City, he had his own purpose, but for Qianqian he did not do a bad thing, he said: "If I do a bad thing, how can Qianqian forgive me, how can he fall in love with me." ”
When Qianqian encounters danger, he always goes to save Qianqian at the first time, regardless of his own life and death, and finally Qianqian is slowly attracted to him and falls in love with him.
In fact, love is like this, when one person loves another person, as long as it is for the good of the other party, they are willing to do anything.
02 True good love is fulfillment
In the finale, Han Shuo was stabbed by Chen Chuchu, the second county lord, for protecting Qianqian.
Although this sword did not stab the heart, it hurt the heart, and in the end, time was short.
At this time, also arrived at the succession ceremony of the lord of Huayuan City, Qianqian understood that as long as he walked the red carpet of the inheritance ceremony, the Gate of Heaven would open, and at this time, he could leave and come to the world where he was.
But she was reluctant to leave Han Shuo, reluctant to leave Han Shuo alone, so she refused to walk the red carpet and did not want to go back, even if Han Shuo did not have much time, she did not want to leave.
However, the bedridden Han Shuo understood that this was Qianqian's only chance to go back, and he understood that he did not have much time and did not want Qianqian to be alone in this world that did not belong to her.
So he, strongly supported to the succession ceremony, forced Qianqian to take this road, saw Han Shuo who fell on the road, Qianqian could no longer take care of too much, ran over and hugged Han Shuo.
However, as soon as Qianqian arrived on this road, the gate of heaven opened and she returned to her own world.
This fulfillment is the most rare love, because of love, regardless of yourself, as long as the other party is good.
As there is a saying in Zhihu: Love is never shallow, there is patience, there is giving, there is waiting, and more importantly, fulfillment.
03 Why is true good love perfect?
In fact, with Han Shuo's means and background, even if he didn't complete Qianqian, he could get it by force, but he didn't.
And the reasons he didn't have, summed up are these three reasons:
(1) He does not want the other party to be disappointed Han Shuo loves Qianqian, he does not want to see Qianqian disappointed, he wants to love each other deeply with Qianqian, not forced love.
He understood that what was forced was not love, and maybe the person who would get her in this way would never get her heart, and the point was that after being forced, it would make Qianqian unhappy.
Because of love, he did not want Qianqian to be unhappy.
His subordinates told him again and again that you want you to occupy Huayuan City, don't say Chen Qianqian, the whole Huayuan City is yours, and there are all kinds of people you want.
But Han Shuo said firmly, "All I want is Chen Qianqian, and I can't do anything to hurt her, otherwise she will be heartbroken." ”
Time and again, he lost the opportunity to occupy Huayuan City, just to make Qianqian uncomfortable and not to make Qianqian miserable.
To truly have a love, it must not be possessive, but complete, take the other party's feelings as the first, care about the other party's feelings, and prefer to be wronged by yourself, rather than disappointed the other party.
(2) Knowing what the other party thinks, Qianqian has a sister, called Chen Chuchu, who is the most likely to succeed to the position of the city lord, after all, she has been a martial artist since she was a child, and Qianqian has never wanted to be the city lord.
At first, Han Shuo did not know that Qianqian did not want to be the lord of the city, so he lifted Qianqian with one hand and tried to send Qianqian to the position of the lord of the city.
However, Qianqian was very unhappy, and said to Han Shuo, "I don't want to be a young city lord", at first Han Shuo couldn't understand, but slowly came into contact with Qianqian, only to find that Qianqian really didn't like to do it.
Later, he no longer pushed Qianqian to do what the city lord did, but wanted qianqian to think and make Qianqian happy.
He would chat with Qianqian in front of the courtyard and be happy to have a meal with Qianqian, because he understood that this was the life Qianqian wanted, and he would not force Qianqian to do anything for himself, and he said to Qianqian: "As long as you are happy." ”
Because he loves enough, he is willing to fulfill Qianqian, willing to let Qianqian live the life he wants happily in his small home.
Even if he understands that the future will be better if he gets the position of the city lord, he is not willing to persecute Qianqian, as he said: "You don't want to be the city lord, I will accompany you, and someone will bully you and I will protect you." ”
In a love, fulfillment is the deepest love, which is to think about what the other party thinks and thinks about the other party.
This is true love, this kind of love, is a real fit in the soul, such a lover, but also a lover who is really willing to understand you.
(3) As long as you are good, in love, the greatest fulfillment is that you are good.
The Huayuan City where Qianqian is located and the Xuanhu City where Han Shuo is located are two completely different countries, and the country where Qianqian is located is headed by women, while the man where Han Shuo is located is in charge.
Later, Han Shuo and Qianqian got married, and he said to Qianqian, "As long as you are well, I will be fine according to the rules of Huayuan City." ”
A young city lord in the hall is willing to put down his body for Qianqian, and even respect Qianqian in front of people.
This may seem to others to be strict with the wife, but in Han Shuo's view, it is not, he thinks it is love.
In fact, love is like this, really love a person, will not worry too much, as long as the other party is good, it is good, perhaps in the eyes of many people this is grievance, is humble, but in the eyes of people who really love, it is just a kind of happiness.
04 Why love a person and be willing to fulfill the other
Some people say that love is selfish, and when loving someone, they only want the other person to be with themselves.
But in fact, true love must not be selfish, but beyond selfishness, into perfection, this kind of perfection as long as you are good I will be happy, as long as you are happy I am happy.
After the marriage of Shen Ying and her husband Liang Zongdai, a few years later, the man cheated, and Shen Ying resolutely chose to divorce after knowing it, at this time Shen Ying took two daughters and was pregnant with a child in her belly.
Later, many friends advised her not to divorce and have a good talk with her husband, but Shen Sakura said: "The reason for separating from him is both simple and complicated, and if he can cheat, it means that he no longer loves."
Since this is the case, I have no weight in his heart, and the person he has in mind is not me, so why not complete him. ”
In fact, many times the feelings are like this, since they don't love, what is the use of keeping strong, it is better to be perfect, to complete each other, in fact, to complete themselves.
True love for a person, no matter how the other party treats themselves, is willing to complete the other party, maybe this will make themselves very hurt, will make themselves very uncomfortable, but even so, they are willing to complete.
Behind the 05 perfection is deep love
When each of us falls in love with someone, at first we will feel that as long as the other party is good, but slowly our desires will increase.
More and more we want to take the other person for ourselves, so slowly we will forget the simple love that we once had.
However, some people are not like this, just like Han Shuo, even if he marries Qianqian, he does not force it, but tries to make Qianqian fall in love with himself.
Even if Qianqian can't see his kindness to himself, he will continue to work hard, because in his opinion, he can only know the result if he tries hard first, and if Qianqian still doesn't love himself after hard work, then he will also fulfill her.
Later, Qianqian fell in love with him, but his life was about to end, and he who loved Qianqian miserably must hope that in the last moments of his life, Qianqian would accompany him.
However, for the sake of Qianqian's consideration, he would rather complete Qianqian and let Qianqian return to his home.
Some people say that he is stupid, but in fact, behind this fulfillment, there is deep love.
Because of love, as long as the other party is good, he is satisfied, as long as the other party is happy, he is willing to do anything.
May we meet a good person in this life, love each other, and be able to complete each other, and always live this life for each other's sake.
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