Many people know Stendhal because of his book The Red and the Black. In fact, he has many books, essays, essays, and many theories that have been widely circulated. Like Armance, Convent of Parma, Ele, etc. Among them, the theory of love he proposed was also quite novel at the time.
French critical realist writer: Stendhal
He used the word crystallization as a metaphor for love.
"Insert a branch that has been deconstaminated in winter into the desolate bottom of the salt mine, and then pull it out after two or three months, and it will be covered with sparkling crystals, and the smallest branches that are not as thick as the claws of the tits are embellished with countless diamonds, shining brightly, and the original branches are no longer recognizable."
Love makes people change and makes people fall into fantasies.
It's like saying:
You have as many shortcomings as the stars, but your advantages are like the sun has only one, but as soon as the sun comes out, the stars disappear.
He divided love into four types:
The love of the flesh, the love of passion, the love of fun, the love of vanity.
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The most primitive love, the most instinctive love.
Schopenhauer said,
Love between people originates from sexual desire between men and women.
This physical desire is the origin, but it cannot be called "love."
Many contemporary people covet the flesh and enjoy the love of the flesh, but they have no touch or communication in their hearts, which does not represent the essence of love at all.
Goethe said,
Love does have a noble quality, because it does not stop at sexual desire, but also shows a noble and excellent mind that is rich in itself, requiring unity with another person in a spirit of vividness, bravery and sacrifice.
So don't ignore the existence of carnal love, and don't overestimate the utility of carnal love.
The unity of the body and the mind is the quality of love.
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Abelard and Elois, the hero and heroine of the French love tragedy.
Abelard is Elois's personal teacher, and the two spark love in their day and night together. At the time, Eloise was 15 and Abelard was 37.
Eloise's uncle strenuously opposed the relationship and ordered the couple to break up. But Eloise was pregnant.
After the birth of their son, Abelard and Eloise had a secret wedding.
But this unsightly state infuriated Elois's uncle. He was violent against Ailois. He also bribed the servants of Abelard's side and brutally castrated him while he was asleep at night.
Abelard sent Elois to the monastery for protection purposes, and for 15 years the two did not see each other or write. Later, when the two resumed correspondence, Eloise wrote the following words:
"Everything we do, every time we spend together, every place we've been, along with your shadow engraved in my heart, every time I relive it as if yesterday reappeared." This feeling does not abate even during sleep."
And at that time, she was reluctant to marry Abelard, because she wanted the relationship between the two to be free from the shackles of marriage, but only simple, pure "love".
They are in love with their whole passionate souls.
The vitality of this kind of love exuberates beyond the body, time, space and all other factors.
Statue of Abelard and Eloise
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The original text of Stendhal's expression is L'Amour Goût.
amour means love, love in French. Goût refers to taste, taste.
This kind of love is really unspeakable. There are many translations that interpret it as "fun love". I think it represents a beautiful, happy love. An inexplicable, but natural, love.
It may happen at the moment when you are not in love, it becomes the beginning of your attraction to each other, and after sincere contact this love may disappear, may be hidden, or it may occur every day after you fall in love.
It may not be a necessity for love, but it must be a spice and catalyst for love.
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Maugham had this to say about Stendhal's vanity love:
"It was this love that the Duchess of Jean-des-Chauna uttered before she was ready to marry Monsieur Gilles—that for the common people a Duchess is always thirty years old."
Vanity love can also be called love from Vanity Fair.
There is a lot of this kind of love, both on TELEVISION and in life. For fame and fortune, for money, for certain benefits, for the satisfaction of one's own vanity and burst of love.
In "Tasteful Her", Fukuko, who is eager to enter the upper class, tries her best to seduce the elderly president in order to enter the rich, and after gaining the trust of the president, coaxes the president to transfer all the shares of the company to himself. Unfortunately, she eventually paid a heavy price for her greed.
Image source: "Tasteful Her"
Another example is Su Wenyi in Qian Zhongshu's "Siege of the City". She maneuvered between Fang Hongwei and Zhao Xinlin. Zhao Xinlin was her childhood playmate, and Fang Hong gradually counted as her classmate. Su Wenyi obviously liked Fang Hongwei in her heart, but she did not want Zhao Xinlin to quit, she enjoyed the feeling of being chased by two people to show love, she carefully designed a good scene, just to see the two people fight for her. But in fact, only Zhao Xinlin was interested in her, and Fang Hongzhi did not regard her as an ideal object at all. Su Wenyun's approach shows great utilitarianism and vanity.
Image source: Siege
Love is a complex word, and love contains many complex factors.
Even so, we must follow our hearts and seek that simple love.
Love that leaves things aside is pure and natural.
May the corners of our mouths rise unconsciously when we think of love.
When I think of the him/her in my heart, I feel warm and grateful.
Grateful to the world we love each other.
Thank you for being fearless and not hesitate to fall in love with me.
Grateful to the vast sea of people, our hearts belong to no longer alone.