Marie Curie said: "The road must be walked by oneself, so that it can be wider and wider." ”
If you want to live well for the rest of your life, you must rely on your own efforts and rely on your own ability to improve your life. The rest of your life in this way is the most secure and the last achievement.
In life, in fact, we will often encounter such people, they will feel that if they rely on their own efforts to get the rest of their lives, as if there will be some distance, coupled with their own lazy psychology, they will also want to escape such efforts and hardships. Therefore, they pin the rest of their lives on others, trying to enjoy a stable rest of their lives on others.
But what they don't know is that at the age when they should work hard the most, once they choose to be lazy and choose to live on others, it is easy to push away the blessings that originally belong to them. Originally they could have a good rest of their lives, but once they made some wrong choices, they would only let the rest of their lives start to decline and get farther and farther away from the life they wanted.
Just like a friend of mine, when she was in college, her grades were very good, and her appearance was good, and there were often some suitors around her. In the eyes of the people around her, such a girl is envied. However, after graduating from college, one of her decisions directly hindered her development.
She began a relationship near graduation, the other party is a foreigner, for love, she gave up the city she is familiar with and went to the small city where the other party is. After giving birth to a child, because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was more tense, she gave up her job and became a full-time mother.
Although she gave a lot for this love, her husband did not spoil her as much as she imagined. Marriage made her miserable, and she could only barely maintain her children, and for her, the rest of her life was unknown and full of many misfortunes.
Chernyshevsky said: "I want to live independently and according to my own will; I gladly accept whatever I need, and I will never ask for anything I do not need." ”
If a person wants to live a better life for the rest of his life, he must have such an awareness, and he must know how to rely on his own efforts to get the life he wants. Therefore, if you have expectations in your heart, you must learn to accumulate these blessings of your own, and don't be confused.
01 Be independent and sober in your consciousness and think, and learn to master your own life.
Like that friend of mine, she wanted a good rest of her life without a clear head. In love, she thought that love would develop in the direction she wanted, so she gave up everything she had, even giving up her father-in-law who could have supported herself.
However, the final ending was not what she wanted, and such a life not only did not bring her happiness, but became an unfortunate shackle. Women in marriage and life must understand a truth, can bring you happy love, must be two people in both directions to run, such love is likely to go further.
A person who does not have an independent and sober mind means that he has lost control of his own life, and even handed over the choice of the rest of his life to others. Since this is the case, some blessings are naturally getting farther and farther away from you.
02 When encountering some bad things, we must learn to see openly and live calmly.
Ding Ling said: "As long as people have a belief and pursue, they can endure any hardship and adapt to any environment." ”
If a woman wants to live happily for the rest of her life, she must learn to grasp her own blessings. In your eyes, you should see your own happiness, not always be trapped in your own misfortune.
Just like some women, in fact, in the eyes of others, they have already lived very well, and they are also the objects of frequent envy. However, when they encounter some unfortunate things in their lives, it is difficult for them to get out of such misfortunes, and they are always trapped in negative emotions and difficult to extricate themselves. The more such situations, the more blessings begin to drift away from them, and the final life will become more and more unfortunate.
Therefore, if women want to accumulate more blessings, they must first learn to adjust their mentality. We must know how to observe more of the good things in life and stay away from those bad emotions. See openly, live calmly, and the rest of your life will naturally be smoother.
03 Since some things are not available, don't force them anymore, live in another way, and the truth of life will be more spacious.
If you want to get something, you can't do without attachment, but life is very complicated, some things may be able to get if you insist on it, but some things will not necessarily be as you wish no matter how you insist. For example, love, the other party does not love you has become a fact, it is difficult to change, no matter how well you do, no matter how much you pay, you cannot change this fact.
For women, we must understand this truth, since some things are destined not to belong to you, there is no need to force it, otherwise it will only affect your blessings and make your life more unfortunate.
Pushkin also said: "If life deceives you, don't be anxious, don't be bothered." Be at peace on the melancholy days, believe it, and happy days will come. ”
When you encounter some unsatisfactory things, don't insist on it anymore, in another way, your life path will only be more spacious, and the rest of your life will have more possibilities.
If you want to live well for the rest of your life, women should not be too confused, see themselves clearly, see reality clearly, live a little more thoroughly, and blessings will naturally come to your side.