When you are young, people interact with each other, invisibly with a certain sense of utilitarianism, always want to get something from each other.
When people retire, they must understand that the best relationships are mutual care, not mutual need.
Take your retirement certificate, keep going, clean up the network of life in time, and make yourself more and more comfortable the more you live. Like a fish that jumps out of a cage, it swims into the water that really belongs to itself, and it doesn't fit in with the group, and it all goes along with the fate.
As the saying goes, "The best relationship is no relationship." ”
Let people's lives be in a state of zero, start a real old age life, the following relationships, need to be discarded.
01
Be a person who is indifferent to fame and fortune, and give up the relationship of interest exchange.
Marie Curie, who devoted her life to the world of science, also received a lot of honors.
Once, a friend visited her house and found the child holding a gold medal from the Royal Society. The friend was very surprised: "How can this be?" Is this made of gold? ”
Marie Curie smiled and replied: "I should let the child know that honor is just a toy, don't take it too seriously." If you keep staring at it, there's no going to happen. ”
Can you also learn from Marie Curie and let go of all honors completely? Even if you walk on the street and someone calls you "a certain director, a certain director", you don't pay any attention to it, and if someone calls your name, you are particularly happy.
In the workplace, most relationships are "seeking benefits and avoiding harms". Everyone wants to be able to get a promotion and a raise, to get a bonus. To do this, you not only have to compete with your colleagues, but also deal with customers, and even courtesy.
There are always some people who regard customers and bosses as the most important people, and are more gracious than their parents.
The "Theory of Friends" writes: "When they are in the same interest, the temporary party is regarded as a friend, and the pseudo-party is also a puppet; and it competes for the first place in the view of profit, or it is exhausted and intersects." ”
People who associate because of interests, then when the interests are dissipated, they disappear. You should think about life with this attitude.
People are old and have no use value, but it is a good thing. As the saying goes, nothing is light.
02
Be a stress-free person and give up your relationship with the original unit.
Knowingly, someone asked: "Why do many people not like their work?" ”
Netizen "Luo Gang" said, let's say you like to do design, but also entered the design company. It will be fresh and very motivated at first. But after a while, you'll get bored because you're doing one thing every day. If you take design as a hobby and can develop freely, it is different.
In their bones, people are eager for freedom, just to survive, have to bow their heads and work, even if they are disgusted, they must endure.
There is a saying: "There is no need to endure any longer." ”
In the unit, endured for many years, it is not easy to retire, you still have to go back to the original unit to swing, then you can only continue to endure the pressure of the workplace, the intrigue between colleagues.
That is to say, after retirement, it is best not to be rehired by the original unit, and not to often go to the original unit to drink tea and chat, even if you want to do something, it is also a hurry, business, do not talk about private feelings.
03
Be a guy who goes home to dinner and gives up the buddy relationship of pushing cups for cups.
Some people think that after retirement, every three to five to find someone to get together, small wine is pleasant and leisurely.
In fact, when people are old, they should reduce gatherings and go to less meals, on the one hand, it is a waste of time, on the one hand, drinking alcohol is not for the body, and there is a meeting of people who have loved in the past, each other is very embarrassed, or the feelings are resurgent, adding trouble to life.
The British scholar Thomas Fuller said: "I would rather swallow chaff with good people than eat a feast with bad people." ”
Classmates gatherings should be a small gathering, do not make a lot of noise. Especially some people who go to other places to make a living, do not go back to their hometown to attend parties, the road is far away, their families are not at ease, and they are inevitably subject to wind and cold, suffering from the journey.
Old friends gathering, should be based on light, not too lively, and do not persuade people to drink and smoke. After the meal, the activities should be arranged simpler, or they should go home after the meal.
Relatives' gatherings, don't bother too much, some relatives, estranged don't go to the relationship. Each has a different understanding of relatives, and you don't think that the love of blood can be eternal.
Retired elderly people are suitable for eating their own rough tea and light rice, but all the situation of pushing the cup to change the cup should be kept away. Learn to meet selectively, so that you can feel the warmth of human feelings.
04
Be a person of high morals and give up the circle relationship with low-level hobbies.
As the saying goes: "Things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped." ”
Who you are, you will meet someone, you will join the corresponding group.
Many elderly people, idle, go to ballroom dancing. Because the dance partner is relatively fixed, it is inevitable to have a good feeling, and thus destroy the harmony of the family.
There are also some people, in the name of finding a wife, looking for people everywhere who can pay money to support themselves. Once encountered, it is fiercely blackmailed, and the dark side of its heart is unobstructed.
Some "hobbies" are not for you, even if you are lonely, don't participate. Gambling, adventure, tree climbing, destructive off-roading... These hobbies will make the elderly very cheap.
To be a person, you must have morality, don't rely on the old and sell the old, and lose your image.
05
Be a person who naturally grows old and give up the connections that help you maintain your health.
In life, there are often some businessmen, pretending to be a well-known lecturer, or transforming into a very filial old and good old man, inviting some old people to listen to lectures, and enjoying free lunch and feeling the relaxation of massage.
The old man thought that the merchant was more filial than his own children, and believed in their words. One after another, the old man gave all the money to the merchant and bought back a lot of goods that were of little use.
Some people said: "Why are the elderly willing to spend high prices to buy health care products?" Because he's afraid of getting old. ”
Fear of death is a very natural psychology, but excessive worry is completely unnecessary. After all, life is only a hundred years, how can it be a thousand years?
Reality tells us that many people get old very quickly, not because they don't know how to maintain, but because they are "over-maintained".
When you retire, cover your pockets, and if you can't spend your pension, save it, and leave it to your children. Break off relations with people who empty your wallets.
Although children don't speak well, the methods of filial piety are not good enough, and there is very little companionship, they will not hurt you, they are trustworthy people. Never "elbow out."
07
After retirement, we must really "break away", get rid of various constraints, live easily, and grow old naturally.
The relationships that are truly worth cherishing are family, confidants in life, kind neighbors, and old people who dedicate their residual heat.
If you don't meet like-minded people, you'd rather be alone and think of loneliness as a friend.
People get older, circles are smaller, relationships are simple, and life becomes better.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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