When we encounter love, no matter how high and cold our appearance is, our hearts are warm. The more you like a person, the more you can't wait to get this love and completely conquer the other person's heart.
Stevenson said: "Because love has entered the hearts of people, it is scolded and cannot go away." Since it has come to you, it will possess everything from you. Now that you're in love, that's the only way to do it, and the only way to do it is to think of the cheapest way to get it. ”
Falling in love with someone, we all want to find such a cheap way to get what we want. It's just that love sometimes seems simple, and sometimes it seems difficult. If you use the right way, you can not only stir the other party's heart, but also make the other party willingly stay by your side. If the method is not used correctly, even if you give everything, you will not be able to touch the other party's heart, let alone get the love you want.
In the opposite sex, women want to stir men's hearts, can not blindly rely on their own efforts, but to learn some love skills. To get a man's heart, women must learn to quietly conquer men's hearts, rather than pay in the most direct way. Otherwise, such a you will only let men see through your mind at a glance.
Women should know that the more direct your performance is in the face of love, the less men will notice you. Even if you give a lot, it is only to touch the man for a while, and it is impossible to touch his heart at all.
As Valery once said, "It is impossible to "love" someone or something you absolutely know." Love is always led to places where secrets are hidden. ”
If you want to stir a man's heart, women must learn to keep their own mystery, and learn to guide each other, rather than to move each other. The most basic skill, women must remember, in these things, do not be too proactive.
01 Don't take the initiative to tell men all your secrets.
When encountering love, women are easy to become emotional, and it is easier to be blinded by love and lose themselves. If women can't control their behavior, it is easy to obey the man's mind in some things, so as to become passive in the relationship. Once a woman becomes passive, it is easy to be pinched by the other party, so how to conquer the heart of a man?
It's like some women meet a man they like, and in order to show their sincerity, they will take the initiative to tell men a lot of their secrets. If two people can't come together in the future, these secrets are bound to become a threat to women, after all, who wants their secrets to be known by some unrelated people?
If women take the initiative to share their secrets, it is not only difficult to stir men's hearts, but also easier to be looked down upon by men, and they will feel that you are a woman who is not reserved enough and too casual.
Women should remember a sentence that Addison said: "Lovers' secrets must not be made to explore all of them." "If you want to get a man's heart, you must first maintain your own mystery and learn to keep your secrets." Only when men don't know you well enough will they want to get close to you. If he knows you thoroughly, he will lose this curiosity.
02 When getting along, women should not take too much initiative to give.
Love sometimes makes people lose their minds, become like a child, like a person, will immediately want to get, to have. If a woman encounters love and does not know how to restrain this situation and let it develop, it is easy for men to think that you are a very casual woman.
It's like some women will become very enthusiastic when they encounter love, will take the initiative to approach men, take the initiative to contact men, and even take the initiative to care and take care of men.
Women think that their performance like this will make men see your good. As everyone knows, in the eyes of men, all the good you show will seem very cheap. It's hard for men to really fall in love with a passionate, proactive woman. On the contrary, their hearts are easily attracted to a cold, ruthless woman.
Perhaps this is what we often say: "What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear."
Women grasp this psychology of men, and they should know that if they want to get love, don't take too much initiative to pay. Otherwise, in the end, as Cornei said: "Once love is satisfied, the charm of others is gone." ”
03 Fall in love with a man, you can hint at him, but don't take the initiative to show your mind.
We often say: "Men chase women across the mountain, women chase men across the yarn". There is no doubt that if a woman wants to get a love, as long as she is bold and proactive, it is easy to start a relationship. But in such a relationship, women simply cannot guarantee that men are sincere with themselves.
It's easy for a woman to start a relationship, but it's not an easy thing to get a man's heart. After all, for men, when a woman takes the initiative to show love, as long as she does not hate, she will often choose to accept. This kind of acceptance does not mean that men have moved their hearts, they will only think, anyway, there is no need to pay and spend time.
Marx said: "It seems to me that true love is manifested in the implicit, modest and even shy attitude of the lover towards his idol, and by no means in the casual expression of enthusiasm and premature intimacy." ”
Women don't want to be looked down upon by men, don't want to be considered too cheap by men, just remember not to take the initiative to express their thoughts.
Shakespeare said, "Love is the same as charcoal, and when it burns, you have to find a way to cool it." Let it go, then burn a heart. ”
To really stir a man's heart, women should remember that in these things, don't be too enthusiastic, don't be too proactive. In this way, you are more likely to attract the attention of men and arouse his curiosity.