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Carnegie said: "Running a good business is the first thing every woman should do, and it is worth a lifetime. ”
As a woman, the most important thing in life is not to take care of others, but to manage yourself first.
Only by bravely jumping out of the comfort zone can you have the ability to dominate your own life. Only when you are strong can you be qualified to take care of others.
History has never lacked great women, although the times are different, but they have the same characteristics.
Pursue yourself and face the real needs of your heart
Zhou Guoping said: "Of all the responsibilities in the world, the most fundamental responsibility is to truly become yourself and live out your unique personality and value."
Happiness does not fall from the sky, and only women who know what they want and are willing to fight for it can live the life of their dreams.
From ancient times to the present, there are many women with talent and appearance, but there are not many who have both career and emotion, and Lin Huiyin is one of the very few women.
As the saying goes, "Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, and men are afraid of getting into the wrong line." Looking at the experience of her mother after she did not give birth to an heir, Lin Huiyin became more aware of the importance of marriage to a woman.
Lin Huiyin once said: "Xu Zhimo's real love is not me in reality, but the person who is conjured up by his romantic emotions."
Clear cognition shows her understanding of Xu Zhimo.
She is not carried away by the fiery love, because she knows that romantic love is only a moment, and the solid stay is a lifetime.
Lin Huiyin is a woman who can afford to take and put down after all, and she finally remains true to her heart and marries Liang Sicheng, who is equally obsessed with architecture as herself.
Whether married or not, beautiful women always attract people's likes, and Lin Huiyin after marriage is admired by Jin Yuelin.
When he found that he seemed to like two people at the same time, Lin Huiyin did not hide his heart in the slightest, but chose to turn to Liang Sicheng for help.
Liang Sicheng said: "You are free, if you choose old Jin, I wish you eternal happiness." ”
When Jin Yuelin learned that Liang Sicheng had said such a thing, he was touched and said: "It seems that Sicheng really loves you, I can't hurt someone who really loves you, I should quit." ”
There will be no turmoil in the marriage, but after the storm, the marriage is still happy, and the friendship is still evergreen, which is the ending that Lin Huiyin wants most.
There is no woman who does not crave love, but few can treat feelings as soberly as Lin Huiyin.
Facts have proved that Lin Huiyin was right to marry Liang Sicheng, and the same three views and the same hobbies have achieved each other's brilliant careers.
Lao Tzu said in the Tao Te Ching: Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are wise.
Whether it is career or love, only by facing her own heart and being able to afford to put it down is the best way for a woman to live.
Emotional management that can be happy and angry, and can be relaxed
Napoleon said: "The man who can control his emotions is greater than the general who can take the next city."
A woman's maturity begins with learning to manage emotions.
Managing emotions is not blindly forbearing, but free control of sending and receiving.
Gu Jia in the TV series "Thirty Only" is precisely because of managing emotions and becoming the best among women.
Ostensibly a full-time wife, she is actually more tired and worried than anyone else.
For the sake of her husband's career, she put down her face to ask Boss Wan, who refused to cooperate, and endured the other party's words and disrespect, and even moved her hands and feet.
In order to let the children go to a good kindergarten, she went down to approach Mrs. Wang, gave up her shoes to Mrs. Wang, and walked down the 15th floor barefoot.
Forbearance is only the first step, Gu Jia's cleverness lies in the ease of emotions, once things touch her bottom line, her emotions will be expressed in another way.
When Boss Wan's behavior was too arrogant, beyond Gu Jia's range, she did not blindly tolerate it, but resolutely refused to defend her dignity.
When her son was imprisoned and intimidated by Muzi's mother, Gu Jia did not hesitate to fight and protect the child, and reminded the other party to restrain himself, no one can be bullied arbitrarily.
Gu Jia's management of emotions truly interprets the phrase "a person's kindness must bring a little sharp edge", which is the best appearance of a mature woman.
There's a saying that goes, "You can express anger, but you can't express it angrily." ”
Women who are good at managing emotions can calmly express their joys and sorrows, rather than venting their joys and angers when they lose their minds.
Being able to be patient is an ability, being good at managing emotions is a kind of wisdom, and knowing how to combine ability and wisdom is the strongest person in life.
A strong-hearted, decisive character trait
Wu Shengming, a rich woman, once said: "You must be able to replace anyone, and then consider that no one can replace you." ”
Only when women are strong can they have the capital to base themselves on the world.
Gree Chairman Dong Mingzhu is known as the "old fox" in the workplace, she never praises others, and there are very few people who can be favored by her.
However, in the variety show "We First Entered the Workplace", she supported the 22-year-old Meng Yutong and said bluntly: "I hope she can be by my side, and I want to train her to become the second Dong Mingzhu." ”
How could Meng Yutong He De, at such a young age, be able to enter Dong Mingzhu's magic eyes?
It turned out that meng Yutong was the project leader in the program, and her proposal was questioned by many of her peers, all of whom graduated from institutions of higher learning.
In the face of the situation that was difficult to reconcile and difficult to decide, Meng Yutong was not disturbed by his thoughts, but did not hesitate to hammer out: "But I am the person in charge." Give me time and I can do it. ”
In just two sentences, it shows decisiveness and persistence.
During the assessment, the marketing plan she tried her best to do was denied by Dong Mingzhu again and again.
Severe criticism, ranking first from the bottom, Meng Yutong not only did not fall into the emotional attrition of wild thoughts, but calmly and calmly revised again and again until the task was completed excellently.
It was the calmness and persistence in her body that impressed Dong Mingzhu, and also made her finally stand out from many outstanding people and become a member of Gree.
The decisive character, combined with a strong heart, is the potential of the successful person.
There is a sentence in Carnegie's advice to a woman's happiness in her life: "The consequence of arguing endlessly is that there will be no result, only to make the other party more firm in their opinions, and you will always be a loser, because you will not get anything." ”
The fool complains, the wise man acts.
Women with strong hearts never waste time on useless tongues, they have long since quit the glass heart, put away their emotions, and silently focus on their actions.
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Liu Jialing once said this:
"As a woman, I think we must not blindly copy the life methods of others, and believe that the words of others are the truth. You have to think in your independent world of life and discover the beauty in life. ”
It's not easy to be a person, it's even harder to be a woman. Especially in this era, most women have both family and career, and they are busy every day.
I just hope that every woman can remember that as a woman, you can be busy, you can be tired, but you must live an independent self.
"The most important thing is that the human world cannot be retained, and Zhu Yan ci mirrors the flower and the tree."
We can't keep our youth, but we can run our own lives.
You can have your own thoughts, you can control your emotions, and you must have a strong heart to resist the temptations of the outside world.
We can't dominate others, but we always have to learn to control ourselves.
May every woman not forget her original intention and live a colorful life.